There Is No communication With Narcissists. There is no true healthy communication and problem solving with narcissists.
Narcissists run from confrontation because they don’t want to take responsibility for their part in anything.
They gaslight and manipulate the conversation. They bring the focus back on you, by bringing up what you did wrong in the past. They get mad at you, for getting mad at them.
Anything to take the focus off of them, and avoid taking responsibility.