Stop Chasing Love, Do This Instead

If you want to be truly happy and joyful in life, you should stop chasing love and focus on loving yourself to the fullest. Stop chasing love, and the right person will come into your life at the right time.

Instead of chasing love, cultivate self-love.

Because you cannot fully understand the love youโ€™re seeking from another person, as it would always seem incomplete without the love you have for yourself. Cultivate self-love by mastering the art of taking care of your worth. Cultivate self-love by being proud of your uniqueness, but making room for improvement.

Learn to enjoy life on your own. Learn to save something instead of pouring it all out. Self-love should be the foundation of any other kind of love youโ€™ll express to people outside your zone because it will serve as your guidance, your control over your emotions for others.

Related: 7 Ways to Cultivate Love in Your Life and Become Happier

Instead of chasing love, build the ladder to your dreams.

Because dreams donโ€™t work themselves for you. Dreams are the ones to be chased because they will give you wonderful rewards for the efforts youโ€™ll make.

And love? It is something predetermined. It will go your way. It will find you, at the very right moment. So donโ€™t worry about it. Love is ageless, but dreams are time-bound. The sooner you pursue them, the greater fulfillment will you achieve. Relish the rewards of your dreams first, and then wait for the right person youโ€™ll share them with.

Instead of chasing love, appreciate the love you already receive.

The love of your family, friends, relatives, colleagues, or whoever they may be. Whoever those people who truly care for you, I hope you take time to appreciate them. Observe how they stay by your side. Observe how they support you, believe in you, and encourage you in your endeavors.

Donโ€™t squander these people. Love them back instead of wasting your energy over others who donโ€™t actually deserve it. The people who truly love you will help you determine how a person should treat you. They will set your standards. They will determine the right one.

Instead of chasing love, find your purpose.

Awaken your passion, because passion begets purpose. Never lose the fire. Just do what you love doing. Whatever youโ€™re gifted with, itโ€™s not there just for you to enjoy them. You enjoy them for a special reason.

Related: 7 Science-Backed Reasons Why Spending Time Alone Makes You More Successful

Do you sing? Then maybe your voice can emotionally heal those who hear your song. Do you dance? Then maybe your graceful movements pass the energy that makes your audience happy. Do you write? Then maybe your words can touch hearts and enlighten minds. Do you paint? Then maybe the colors of your art can speak loudly for what others feel.

And you know whatโ€™s magical? Sometimes your passionโ€”your giftโ€”serves as the pathway for love. Because once you discover what youโ€™re made for, you cannot help but be happily preoccupied with the fulfillment of your purpose.

And youโ€™ll be surprised someone has come knocking on the door of your heart, indicating that itโ€™s your time. Youโ€™re ready for love.


Written byย Karlaย Crisostomo
Originally appeared on Thought Catalog
Printed with permission from the author
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