7 Ways Past Emotional Manipulation Changes The Way Women Love

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Itโ€™s a different, fragile kind of love.
If youโ€™ve suffered from emotional manipulation in your past relationships, then you already know how devastating it can be. For years afterwards, it can be very hard to actually feel like your own feelings, opinions, and thoughts are valid.

And if youโ€™re dating a woman who has experienced emotional manipulation, youโ€™ll also notice that sheโ€™ll be different from most other women youโ€™ve been with.

Long-Term Effects of Emotional Manipulation

Even after an emotionally manipulative relationship ends, the effects may linger and creep into new relationships โ€” even ones that are healthy.

Hereโ€™s what you can expect from her and your relationship with her.

1. She wonโ€™t trust herself easily.

She may need you to actually validate what sheโ€™s seeing with her own eyes. She may look to you for guidance, simply because sheโ€™s been gaslighted for so long that she doesnโ€™t know what to believe anymore. As a result, you may need to help her believe in herself.

2. She also might not trust you for a very long time.

trust issues

Once youโ€™re manipulated, itโ€™s easy to really feel like you canโ€™t trust guys for a while. In fact, she might actually think that youโ€™re lying to her, too. You need to be patient with her. It will take a long time to reestablish trust with her.

Related: Dehumanization: A Narcissistโ€™s Ultimate Manipulation Tool

3. She will do what she can to keep you

but might feel like sheโ€™s โ€œwaiting for the other shoe to drop.

Many women who were manipulated by their exes get paranoid about their love life. They may assume that youโ€™re only going to use her, that youโ€™re going to abuse her, or that youโ€™ll just up and leave. So, while sheโ€™ll work to keep you, she may be pessimistic about you for a very long time.

4. She craves commitment and security.

craves commitment after emotional manipulation

The last guy really hurt her on a foundational level. He made her feel unsafe, insane, and unstable. What she wants is to feel is secure, happy, and sane again. So, sheโ€™ll flock to the commitment and security like a moth to alight.

Related: Narcissists and Sex โ€“ The Biggest Manipulation and Controlling Tool

5. Disbelief of the relationship

There will be moments where sheโ€™ll be in disbelief of the relationship in general.

She might not believe you really love her. Or, she might not believe that sheโ€™s in a happy relationship. But, nevertheless, sheโ€™ll be amazed by the kindness that you show her every time that you are good to her.

6. She will be very grateful for every little thing you do.

After years of often having to beg for basic human decency, showing her actual kindness and love will rock her world. Sheโ€™ll always show her thankfulness to you, and she will make a point to make sure you know how much she treasures you. After all, she knows what a bad relationship looks like.

Related: 6 Reasons Why Strong Women Keep Attracting The Wrong Guys

7. No one will be more loyal to you than she will.

Women who have been manipulated emotionally tend to be extremely loyal to men who actually restore their faith in love. Donโ€™t be surprised if she ends up becoming the best girlfriend that you could ever wish for.

If you have had suffered emotional manipulation and could relate to this article, then let us know in comments.


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