Itโs easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.โ
Parenting can be tough. These are the mistakes that many parents makeโฆ
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Helping with homework โ Should You?
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Helping kids with their homework may actually lower test scores. Children who receive regular help with their homework do not score any higher than those that did not. In some cases, children even score lower because they become dependent on their parents intelligence. Punishing kids for bad grades also doesnโt help. To give children an edge at school, you should read to them as a child and have open discussions about school, life and future plans.
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Protecting your children from failure
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Fear of failure is an โepidemicโ amongst modern children, and it has its devastating effect. We live in a culture of โnever good enough,โ and parents do their best to protect children from failure, and itโs actually harmful. The key to success in life is not to avoid failure, it is to learn from our failures and to establish resilience.
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Putting technology and distractions in bedrooms
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Putting technology and distractions in bedrooms can have a detrimental effect on a child. I know many families where the parents have installed television sets, Xboxes, Play Stations in the childrenโs bedroom. Children are sleep deprived to the extent that their grades suffer. They lack concentration and focus in their daily life. And above all they have no discipline whatsoever. And how can we forget the violence in those video / computer games they play to glory? And what about pornography? Take away the Gaming consoles, Television, PCโs, Laptops and other distractions which will help eliminate the temptation and imbibe discipline.
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Not leading by example
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Parents are a childโs greatest role model. Children observe a lot and learn from their parents. Parents have a responsibility to model the life that they want their children to live. If you tell a white lie, so will your child. If you donโt cut corners, your child will know that they shouldnโt either. If you volunteer or give to charity, your child will also give selflessly.
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Controlling diet too strictly
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If you look at the eating habits of children you will find that parents have very little control over what their kids eat โ especially when theyโre not at home. Since kids tend to want what they canโt have, too much control over what kids eat at home may lead to kids choosing unhealthy items outside the house. Fast food joints (Pizza and Burger joints), soft-drinks, high fat diet has caused severe weight โ obesity problems in kids.
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Being a friend instead of a parent
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Lack of an authority figure can cause children to make potentially dangerous choices. It is vitally important for parents to remain parents and not friends during teenage years. When kids are at an age where they want to experiment with alcohol (a leading cause of death amongst teens) and drugs, itโs important for them to have an authority figure and not another friend. Although, being authoritative doesnโt mean you have to be authoritarian.
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Having too much say on life-changing decisions
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Parents should allow children to make decisions. Let kids choose their own college major. If parents interfere and choose it for them, the less satisfied that student is with their education. While expressing your opinion and sharing experience is fine, it should be left to the child to make their own informed decisions.
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Mistaking intelligence for maturity
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Intelligence is often used to measure maturity, and as a result, many parents think their kids are ready to face the world when theyโre not. If giftedness is present in one aspect of a child, donโt assume this talent pervades in all areas of the childโs life. The only way to judge maturity is by observing other children of the same age. Teach children to be responsible and accountable for their actions. Thatโs Maturity. Also parents should know what is intelligence and intellectuality and not mix it with maturity.
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Punishing kids for acting out
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Hitting and slapping is a primitive way to express emotions and punishing these expressions can cause children to mask their feelings. Children normally act out because they have an immature ability to express emotion. Punishing kids for their outbursts can encourage children not to express emotion in the future, even in a more constructive fashion. Instead, you should empathize, helping the child to understand their negative emotion and in turn, how to control and express it.
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Forcing children to apologize
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Forcing children to apologize doesnโt actually teach a child social skills. It is strange to assume that young children automatically understand what theyโve done and why they have to apologize. If children are forced to apologize, it could delay their natural acceptance of apologizing. Instead, you should apologize on behalf of your child โ leading by example.
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Protecting children from harm and risk
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Protecting our children from harm could be more dangerous than letting kids play with fire. If kids donโt learn to use a knife properly, how can they be expected to use one safely later in life? Protective world that children live in stops kids from developing safety skills.
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Spanking their children
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Children who are physically punished are at greater risk of developing mental and personality disorders. Children those who are physically punished go on to develop depression, while some go on to abuse alcohol. Children who are not physically punished โ hit or slapped seldom go into depression or substance abuse. It is very important to remember that most of the mental disorders in adults can be tied back to physical punishment as a child โ showing that spanking has devastating and lasting effects.
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Telling their child to stop crying
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Telling children to stop crying can prevent them from developing ways to express emotion. Young children are unable to articulate their feelings in any form other than crying. How will a child feel better by saying โdonโt cryโ and moreover it also sends a message to them that their emotions arenโt valid โ and that itโs not ok to be sad or scared. Rather than dismissing emotion, you should acknowledge it and help the child get through the emotion by learning how to express the emotion in words.
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Spoiling children with too many action heroes & dolls
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Playing with too many action heroes and dolls is proven to lower the aspirations of children. With so many career options available, children who played with action heroes and dolls saw fewer possible career paths. How will Spiderman or Superman or Iron Man help to shape a career? Will Barbie really help? All of these have unrealistic images. Parents should add more variety โ including books, puzzles, music, and many creative games โ to their childโs playbox.
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Telling boys to โbe a manโ
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Telling young boys to โman upโ or โbe a manโ can have detrimental effects on their mental health. Despite being important factors in development for both girls and boys, open emotions, caring and empathy are often feminized, according to several psychologists. This leads many boys to bottle up all of these emotions, and in some cases, they overflow into violence. Unfortunately Boys and men with mental health challenges actually donโt seek help, believing that seeking help would damage their manhood.
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Protecting their children from sadness
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Protecting children from sadness and grief can stunt their emotional growth. All parents hate it when their children feel bad, and natural tendencies are to try and make everything better as quickly as possible. Donโt deny your children that vital emotion. If you do it will actually stunt their emotional growth. Itโs important to let children learn from and master their emotions.
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Pressuring kids to eat โone more biteโ
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Forcing kids to eat more before they leave the dinner table can lead to serious weight problems. Most of the parents I know literally force their children to eat beyond their appetite, which can cause severe weight issues in early and later years. Encouraging kids to eat more than they want also creates lasting disdain for certain foods such as vegetables, which is the last thing you need.
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Forbidding their child from doing something
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Like forbidden fruit, telling your child not to do something or hang out with another child only makes them want to do that thing more. Parents to instead evaluate what you donโt like about the thing or child. Unless it poses a serious threat, grit your teeth. If they do pose a threat to your child, start conversation about values rather than outright banning your child from doing something or seeing someone.
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Relying on technology to entertain
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Denying children the opportunity to defeat boredom on their own can have serious consequences. There is not only the threat of โelectronic addictionโ but the threat that later in life, when in school and work, children brought up on television will be unable to defeat boredom on their own. While exposure to technology is important in the modern world, it should be limited for children.
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Giving their child too much praise
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Telling your child how smart or athletic they are too often can scare children away from trying new things. Excessive positive pronouncements can be limiting because children will become scared to try new things, fearing failure and no longer being considered smart. You should instead try to praise the childโs hard work rather than skill, โyouโre so good at tennisโ can turn into โyou always try your best at tennis.โ
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Asking to be left alone
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Routinely telling your kids โdonโt bother meโ or โIโm busyโ can imply to a child that you always feel that way. Children begin to eventually think that thereโs no point in talking to you. Do this when a child is young and they may be less likely to tell you things when theyโre older. Donโt be afraid to take a break, but never be too busy for your children.
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Children โ Potential Problems
Social problems โ Withdrawal, loneliness, loss of confidence, school problems, learning disorders, anxiety and depression, alcohol and drug abuse (particularly associated with mental illness), suicide or self-harming, theft and criminal behavior.
As a Intuitionist & Psychic Astrologer โ Counselor / Advisor I do get involved in the client familyโs life because they seek true answers from me. From the interactions Iโve had with hundreds of parents in the last many years I have seen that these mistakes listed above been committed again and again.
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Parents want quick answers to their childโs problems but the answer actually lies with them. I try to effectively convey a sense of openness and not blame the parents for everything but I do seek the willingness of parents to completely change their attitudes and behavior towards their children and to engage in meaningful conversation to make their childrenโs future rewarding.
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Controlling partners often disguise their behavior as love or concern, making it difficult to recognize. Are you also in a relationship with someone who makes you feel loved at one point then in another constantly dictates your actions, thoughts, or even emotions?
These are classic signs of controlling partners. They often disguise their behavior as love or concern, making it difficult to recognize.
So if you want to identify these signs then below are what controlling partners do to you.
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