For many men, it can be scary when it comes to initiating conversations with women. But the good news is that, if you want to talk to women, it’s actually not that scary or intimidating; you just need to know the right way of going about it.
Does it sometimes feel like you have no idea how to talk to women? Well, you’re not alone. When you’re getting to know her, it can be really hard to know exactly what to say and what questions to ask.
How can you draw her into your world while also finding out more about her? How can you be assertive, without being pushy? How can you compliment her without overdoing it? Let’s face it – it can be scary to approach a woman you’re interested in, and almost everyone has experienced that.
I don’t know how to talk to women
Coming from a female perspective, in this article, I hope to help you find your way to communicate better with the women you’re interested in. The first step is to reframe the words you choose to identify with. If you tell yourself “I don’t know how to talk to women,” then you are already making that a reality. Tell yourself that you do know how to talk to women, and we’re already one step closer.
Now, let’s say a woman keeps giving you excuses. She’s not reciprocating and is giving you mixed signals already. My question then to you is this: Why are you trying to convince this woman to like you? There are so many women out there that are ready to see you for who you are and that have the potential to understand your self-worth.
Don’t waste your time with women that don’t respect you at the get-go. If a woman is not reciprocating, then move on. Come into the mindset first of understanding your own self-worth and knowing if the woman in front of you sees value in you and is reciprocating your advances. Having that mindset will also help you be able to communicate with women better.
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Learn how to talk to women
I’m going to be completely honest, when you first meet a woman, she will want you to initiate. Now, I wish that more women initiated and I do work with other coaches that coach women to help them do this, but the truth is that in general women want you to initiate. They want you to set up the date. They want you to reach out after you meet them and to text them.
They want to be in the position of responding.
Now, do not misunderstand that if a woman does not respond, it does not mean that you should continue initiating. If she doesn’t text you back and then two days later texts you and says, “Hey, how are you?” and you ask her out again, but she doesn’t respond, then don’t continue any longer. She should be able to initiate at that point and make a compromise with you of setting another time if it doesn’t work for her. If you’re having issues with knowing how to ask a girl out on a date, feel free to check out some of my videos that can help with that.
Once you take the initiative to ask her out, then you can start to be a bit assertive. Just because you’re assertive, doesn’t mean you’re telling her what to do. It means getting to the point. It means making your text mean business.
For example, you could say, “Let’s do dinner on Friday at 7:00 pm. Does that work?” Be direct and straight to the point; set the day and time. If she’s not available, then ask when she’d be available this weekend and what other times work for her. It’s not pushy to be clear and to the point, and women will appreciate it.
How to talk to women confidently
The best way to communicate with a woman is to call them, rather than to text them. A lot of times we don’t pick up the phone and call because we’re working, but the easiest way to set up a date is to just call and to have that connection of each other’s voice.
Women will, directly and indirectly, lead you. For example, a woman might say, “Listen, I don’t really like talking on the phone. I would prefer just texting here and there.” In that case, listen to her. But if she doesn’t make a specific note of that, then get on the phone and call her.