Narcissists And Psychopaths Love To Stay Friends With Their Exes

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Do you know what makes narcissists and psychopaths stay friends with their exes? Know about it here so that you can wisely decline the offer when your toxic ex โ€œhopesโ€ to stay friends.

Staying friends with your ex; Is it even healthy? For anyone who has ever wondered what kind of people stay friends with their ex, a new study has sought to uncover why people with โ€œdark personality traitsโ€ (such as narcissism, duplicity, even psychopathy) maintain relationships after their expiration, simply put, why narcissists and psychopaths stay friends with their ex-partners.

Explaining The Narcissistic Or Psychopathic Behavior

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In โ€œStaying friends with an ex: sex and dark personality traits predict motivations for post-relationship friendship,โ€ Oakland University researchers Justin Mogilski and Lisa Welling asked 860 subjects to list the motivations for their involvement with their exes to determine whether narcissists and psychopaths stay friends with their ex-flames for reasons other than sentiments.

Read: 10 Manipulative Strategies Used By Narcissists To Dominate You

The researchers also surveyed the subjects to determine who had dark personality traits.

โ€œPrevious studies have shown that people who score highly for these traits are more likely to pick friends for strategic reasons, and prefer short-term relationshipsโ€.

The researchers wanted to know if this were true for former lovers, too; whether narcissists and psychopaths stay friends with their exes for practical reasons.

Read: What Is A Conversational Narcissist?

Why Do Narcissists And Psychopaths Stay Friends With Their Ex?

To determine the validity of the notion that narcissists and psychopaths love to stay friends with their exes, subjects were tasked to rate their reasons for maintaining relationships with their exes by importance. The highest importance ratings were given by those who felt their former relationships were โ€œreliable, trustworthy, and of sentimental value.โ€

But researchers also found that subjects who had โ€œmeasures of dark personalityโ€ were more likely to maintain relationships with their exes for โ€œpractical and sexual reasons.โ€

In an interview with Broadly, the narcissism expert Dr. Tony Ferretti explained why people with dark personalitiesโ€”particularly the narcissistic onesโ€”would want a cuddle with the cold corpse of their dead relationship. โ€œNarcissists hate to fail or lose, so will do what they can to maintain some connection if they didnโ€™t make the choice to end it,โ€ Dr. Ferretti said. โ€œThey can experience narcissistic injury when rejected by a partner and have difficulties letting it go or healing from it.โ€

Read: What Are Traits Of A Psychopath?

Romantic relationships are important to psychological health, Dr. Ferretti explained, adding that intimate bonds boast many benefits:

โ€œPeople who are in close, healthy relationships are typically more physically active, more socially connected, live longer, and are physically healthier,โ€ he said, adding that partnered individuals are even less likely to smoke and tend to their overall health. โ€œPeople who are in deep, close, healthy, and intimate relationships tend to be happier,โ€ Dr. Ferretti said.

With such a broad list of benefits, itโ€™s no surprise that someone might want to keep a former partner close or try to reclaim what they once shared together.

But narcissists and psychopaths stay friends with exes for reaping benefits, Dr. Ferretti explained, and other motivations to cling to one that has ended. For example, a narcissist may feel as if their social status or position is amplified because of their partner. This is why some ego-maniacs acquire โ€œtrophy wives,โ€ Dr. Ferretti said, adding that in the mind of the narcissist, a trophy wife is an improvement to their self-worth and confidence. โ€œNarcissists have a tremendous amount of pride and canโ€™t accept others being with their ex.โ€

Due to all these factors, narcissists want to stay friends with their exes.

narcissists and psychopaths stay friends

Read: 8 Ways To Get A Narcissist To Leave You Alone

Dr. Ferretti agrees with the findings in the study by Mogilski and Welling, stating that dark personality types are most interested in how relationships can be useful to them and that such people โ€œmay stay connected to [to exes in order to] have access to valuable resources. They also have inside information about their exโ€™s vulnerabilities and weaknesses that they can exploit and manipulate which gives them a sense of power and control,โ€ he said.

Narcissists and psychopaths stay friends with their ex-partners due to selfish and practical reasons.

So, does it mean people who are friends with their ex are psychopaths? Obviously not, but if your ex has toxic traits of narcissism or psychopathy, cutting the cord is the best option.


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