One of the saddest and hardest truths of life is that you will come across more untrustworthy people than genuine ones. You might feel that they want whatโs good for you, but unfortunately, all they want is to exploit you, suck you dry, and then toss you aside when they are done.
โTrust is the glue of life. Itโs the most essential ingredient in effective communication. Itโs the foundational principle that holds all relationships.โ โ Stephen Covey
Nothing is more important than trust in a relationship if you want it to last in the long term. Ideally, you should be able to trust the other person wholeheartedly and they should be able to trust you in the same way. However, trusting people can have disastrous consequences because not everyone is what they seem.
While a few people will be able to hide it so well that you wonโt know till they break your trust, there are others who exhibit certain traits who will almost always prove untrustworthy in the end.
Here Are 9 Signs Of An Untrustworthy Person
1) Excessive charm.
A person who seems uncommonly sweet and charming always makes me feel like somethingโs off about them and Iโm hardly ever wrong when it comes to these people. A traitorous streak is carefully hidden within them that can take you by surprise.
Pay attention and youโll realize that theyโre just interested in knowing more about you without reciprocating with any information about themselves. At some point, their real intentions will be revealed but by then youโll already be intricately entangled in a relationship with them.
2) Not empathetic.
To be able to deceive and hurt people exhibits a rather shocking lack of empathy. People who are empathetic wouldnโt be able to stab others in the back uncaringly because theyโre aware of the kind of pain they can cause if they do so. This always makes them take a step back and think hard if theyโre ever presented with such an opportunity.
3) Traits linked to narcissism.
For a narcissist, nothing in this universe is more important than they are and everyone else exists just to do their bidding. Naturally, this makes them the wrong people to trust in every situation.
Theyโll never own up to their mistakes and will come up with reasons to make it seem like you pushed them into making the wrong choices. Placing trust in them will surely end with your heart breaking because they care for nothing else but their own egos.
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4) Unable to keep secrets.
You know a person is untrustworthy if theyโre revealing information that others told them in strict confidence. Thereโs a 99.9% chance that theyโre already doing the same with whatever secrets you might have told them. They like to be in the know at all times so that they can share juicy rumors and gossip to make themselves more popular.
They donโt hold any secrets confidential or sacred. By revealing such information, they hope to connect with more people by showing them that theyโre especially close to others.
5) Fickle about everything.
Being indecisive is vastly different from being fickle. Indecisiveness affects people when it comes to trivialities and when all the choices seem equally good.
But with fickle people, you can never trust any of their decisions no matter how important. They keep wavering between all extremes and no one can be assured of them staying loyal if they even value loyalty.
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6) Yes Men.
Beware of those who constantly keep sucking up to you. Theyโll nod along with everything you say and never disagree. Even if youโre going completely off the rails, theyโll just keep offering you superficial praise because they think that they stand to gain something out of their association with you.
If something goes awry in your life and youโre no longer in a position to offer them anything, theyโll be off before you know it and youโll most likely never see them again.
7) Two-faced.
Two-faced might be the popular term but these people can have many personas. Theyโll act differently with each and every person they meet and you can never be sure when theyโre going to throw you over for someone else.
In front of you, theyโll be perfectly sugary and sweet but the moment your back is turned, theyโll start criticizing every single thing about you when they think you arenโt listening. Placing your trust in them only means that the whole world will soon know all your secrets.
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8) Prone to being abusive.
In the beginning, theyโll be nice to you but there will always be signs that thereโs something off about them. It will simply take some time for their mask to wear off exposing the true colors underneath.
Once you place your trust in them, theyโll try to control you with that knowledge. Watch the way they interact with the people around them so that you are not caught unawares and can cut ties before your trust gives them power over you.
9) Avoids you in public.
These people will be really friendly with you when youโre alone with them or in places where nobody knows them. However, theyโll avoid you like the plague when youโre in the same place as other people who know them.
If theyโre doing so, theyโre probably only trying to get close to you because they want something from you. Once they get whatever it is, theyโll leave without thinking twice about the pain their betrayal will cause you.
In a world that can be cold, harsh, and unforgiving, you will often meet people with the traits described above. Thereโs precious little you can do about them without cutting yourself off completely from society. Since that is hardly a feasible or ideal option, just be careful about whom you place your trust in and remember that there are also many genuinely good people out there waiting for you to find them.
Just keep all this information in mind wherever you go and whenever youโre meeting someone for the first time. Remember that you donโt owe strangers anything and donโt feel bad if you stay reserved for some time, especially if you sense that there is something off about that person.
Trust your instincts because theyโre usually right and are in place to protect you from danger. And if someone gets to you, just remember, this too shall pass.
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