Every love story and every relationship starts in the same way. Two people meet. They get to know each other. They start falling for each other. And before they know it, they have fallen head over heels in love, and only think about the bright, happy future they have ahead of them.
Unfortunately, things may start off on a good note, but not all relationships have a happy ending; some relationships gradually end up becoming one sided with time.
Being in a healthy relationship means both the partners working together and giving equal efforts to make the relationship a success. But when you realize that only you are putting in all the efforts, and only you are interested in making your relationship work, and your partner isn’t, then know that things are slowly unraveling. If your partner is just sitting idly while you are carrying the whole relationship on your shoulders, it’s so not fair to you.
Before things go further downhill, and you end up with a broken heart, maybe you should look for a few signs that point towards the fact that your relationship is becoming or has already become one sided.
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8 Signs Your Relationship Is Gradually Becoming One Sided
1. You Always Take The First Step When It Comes To Showing Affection And Love.
Both of you fell in love. Both of you chose to be in this relationship. Both of you voluntarily decided to be together in this commitment. Then why is it that you are always the one who initiates any kind of affection, love, and attention? Why don’t they ever do it? This should come naturally in a relationship, and if it’s not, then it’s a huge red flag.
If it seems like you are the only one who is interested in talking to them, and they aren’t, then maybe you need to stop and think why is it so. Showing constant disinterest towards one’s partner is not just devastating and heartbreaking, but also incredibly insulting, and nobody deserves to go through that.
Talk to your partner about how you feel that the relationship is increasingly becoming one sided, and if they still seem unaffected, then maybe you need to let them go.
2. You Constantly Feel Anxious And Troubled About Your Relationship.
Whenever you meet them or spend time with them, you feel a deep knot in your stomach, and no matter how hard you try, that niggling feeling of uncertainty just doesn’t seem to leave you. Before, whenever you used to spend time with your partner, happiness and fulfillment were constant, but now, all you feel is anxiety and your gut instinct screaming at you.
You know you are with the wrong person and in the wrong relationship when physically you don’t feel good when you are with them. If you find yourself reacting emotionally to the things you never used to react to, or if you find yourself overreacting to even the smallest of things, then maybe, deep down inside you are not getting the love and support you need from them.
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3. You Never Get Any Support From Them, But They Always Do From You.
Mutual support and understanding are some of the most important things in a healthy relationship. You support your partner when times are tough, and they do the same for you when you go through something hard. This is how normal and happy relationships work. But when your relationship is gradually becoming one sided, you will notice that whenever you need your partner, they are nowhere to be found.
But when they need your help and support, they expect you to stand by them like a rock, and you do. You do support them. You do stand by them. And you make sure that they don’t have to go through their struggles alone. But what about your feelings, your needs, and your expectations? What about all that?
4. You Are Always The Culprit Whenever Something Bad Happens.
When you are in a one sided relationship, and there is a heavy imbalance, your partner will always end up criticizing you for all the bad things that happen. Dirty dishes left in the sink? You should have washed the dishes, not them. The electricity bill is overdue? Well, you should have paid the bill in time, not them. And on and on it goes, with your partner conveniently ignoring all the good things you do for them and the relationship.
They will never appreciate your efforts, and will always take you for granted, and whatever you do for them. But the things you don’t do, or might simply have forgotten to do? They will never stop harping on about it and will keep on putting you down for even the most minor things.
5. You Feel Alone Most Of The Time, Even When They Are Right Beside You.
The right kind of relationship will never make you feel alone or dejected, but the wrong ones can. If you feel alone even when you are with your partner, in the same room, with them sitting beside you, it’s a huge sign that your relationship is slowly becoming one sided, and things are unraveling.
Not every day is going to be an exciting and romantic one, but if the feelings of loneliness and isolation have become a permanent fixture, and your sadness highly overshadows your happiness, then this relationship is not the right one for you. True love should make you feel seen and cherished, not alone and depressed.
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6. You Just Can’t Seem To Trust Them Anymore.
Long gone is the trust and faith you had in them when the relationship was in stable and happy waters. Now, you just can’t seem to trust them with anything. They have become so disinterested and unpredictable, that you don’t feel like even telling them what you need. No matter how hard it might be for you, you choose to do everything alone.
Whenever you find yourself doubting whether your partner will help you with anything, even something as small as household chores, take it as a sign that all’s not well in paradise. If they don’t have the interest or the sense to understand what you need, then maybe you are better off without them.
7. You Are Always The One Who Accommodates Them And Their Needs.
Do you always compromise for them? Do you always make all the sacrifices in the relationship? Do you always work according to their schedules and whims and fancies, so that they never face any problems and inconveniences? If you answered yes to all these questions, then you are seriously in a one sided relationship. If you are always putting them first, but they are never doing the same for you, then they are not the right one for you.
The more you invest in this unhealthy, one sided relationship, the more you will lose yourself and the things you stand for. Your needs, feelings, wants, and emotions matter too, and if your partner cannot acknowledge and respect that, then they don’t deserve you.
8. You Work Extra Hard To Make Them Recognize How You Feel.
One of the biggest signs of a one sided relationship is when you work extra hard to make sure your partner notices you and acknowledges your feelings. You know you are putting in more effort than them when they are unable to gauge even the most normal and simple things. If your partner genuinely loves you and wants to see you happy, then they will always make an effort to understand how you feel, and why you feel the way you do.
If your partner does not care how you feel, seems disinterested, or dismisses your feelings because they think it’s not that big of a deal, then maybe you need to rethink the whole relationship. Making you feel bad about the way you feel, just because they are incapable of understanding something so normal shows their mindset and integrity.
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Remember that there are always two people in a relationship, and both of them need to put in equal efforts to make sure the relationship stands the test of time. If you are the only one who cares about making the relationship work, then you need to leave and wait for someone who will give you the love and respect you truly deserve. You deserve so much more than a one sided, lonely, and half-hearted relationship.
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