Are you rushing through the holiday season? Stop! Let us learn about 4 simple holiday self care tips to sprinkle joy all season long and keep that good vibe flowing beyond!
The holidays are a great time for everyone to celebrate with their families and friends. However, as it can be a very busy time, we tend to end up feeling stressed, exhausted and overwhelmed. It is important that you invest on self care during the holidays and focus on your mental, emotional and physical well being.
โSelf-care is never a selfish act-it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.โ โ Parker Palmer
If the song tells us that this is the โmost wonderful time of the year,โ then why are so many folks so stressed out? Yes, my dear, I know that with all the demands on your time and attention as the holidays approach, often what gets tossed aside is self-care. Yet, my darling, thatโs the last thing that you should be sacrificing.
Because if you arenโt nourished โ mind, body, and soul โ then it will be practically impossible to enjoy the holidays. Because, darling, not tending your own needs will eventually lead to burnout. No matter what time of year it may be.
Holiday Self care tips (and beyond for coping with holiday stress):
Here are twenty-four things to consider when it comes to self care during the holiday season (and beyond)
1. Be more compassionate with yourself.
โLoving yourself doesnโt make you selfish. When done correctly, the exact opposite occurs, because you know that selfish behaviors are negative for your mind, body and spirit.โ โ Donald L. Hicks
Self-compassionย is a vital tool in cultivating a life that is full of contentment no matter what is going on in our lives. That inner critic contemplates the negative and berates us for the mistakes, no matter how minor, and refuses to congratulate if the slightest flaw or wrinkle is apparent.
The irony is that while we think being tough on ourselves, towing a strict line, and holding our feet to the fire is beneficial on the road toward success happiness, the opposite is actually true. The quality of our lives is largely due to the way weย thinkย we are doing. Self-care demands more self-compassion.
2. Eat, Drink, and Be Merryโฆ in Moderation
Drink a glass of wine at dinner. Eat dessert. But donโt finish a bottle of wine or indulge in dessert every night. Ensure that most of your meals are healthy to balance out the holiday treats.
And up your water intake as itโs easy to forget that we still need to stay hydrated in cooler weather.
3. Put your phone down already!
I popped into the washroom after breakfast out with girlfriends, and standing at the sink was a woman leaning over the sink on her phone. Driving to Target the other day I had to change lanes to get out of the way of a reckless driver; glancing over at her, I noticed that she was reading her phone.
These are not rare occurrences.ย The addiction to smart devicesย is an epidemic, and we miss so much with our necks hunched and our eyes looking down at our screens (not to mention what itโs doing to our bodies).
If putting away your tech is difficult, make a game of it: when you go to lunch or dinner with a group, have everyone pile their phones in the center of the table.
The first person to check their phone for anything other than an incoming call, buys for everyone (or buys dessert, or the next round of drinks). At home, consider instituting no-tech nights.
4. Self-Care Demands You Get More Rest
โLove yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults.โ โ Les Brown
In the name of self-care, stop burning the midnight oil.ย Adequate sleepย is critical to the way the body and mind function (and thereโs lots of science to back that up). Donโt forget thatย technology can interfere with your ability to sleep well, so no devices in the bedroom!
If you have a job that requires you to be โon callโ at the very least enable the features that most new phones have, allowing you to shift your screen colors into a warmer spectrum from sundown to sunrise. Itโs easier on the eyes, and the brain.
5. Schedule that doctorโs appointment already.
Have you been putting off going to the doctor? Make the appointment. Especially if you are worried about what the doctor might tell you.
If you are putting off an essential self-care because your doctor shames you for an issue (ie โ needing to lose some weight, not dealing with high blood pressure or high blood sugar, etc) then find a doctor with a better bedside manner. You have the power to choose better doctors to serve you.
6. While youโre making appointmentsโฆ
All the things you do in the name of โbeautyโ are acts of self-care during holidays and beyond. Do yourself a favor and make โ ย at a minimum ย โ your next three appointments for each of the ways you beautify your body: hair appointments, nail appointments, massage appointments, and such.
โYou yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.โ โ Gautama Buddha
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7. Speaking of beautyโฆ
I am a no-nonsense gal when it comes to make-up. I can get from shower to full make-up in a half-hour. But a couple of years ago, I decided to invest in myself when it comes to the make-up department.ย
Though it was a bit of a challenge mentally when I spent $49 on a bottle of foundation rather than the $12 I was spending at the drugstore, I discovered that there is a difference other than cost: quality. While the drugstore foundation lasted about a month, the department store foundation lasted almost six months.
Since then, Iโve slowly but surely upgraded the quality of all of my beauty products. A nice bronzer or blush lasts a year. Those beautiful eye-shadow palates even longer. And, my dear, there is something just delectable in a beautiful and luscious lipstick.
Spending some time at the beauty counter may be just the self-care you need during the holiday season and beyond. Because when you feel good in your own skin, youโll feel more confident. And confidence always makes me feel more joyful.
8. Use Your Good Stuff. Daily.
While weโre on the subject of the good stuff, wear your good perfume and use your โcompanyโ china. Using your good stuff every day sends the signal to your soul that you are valued. Besides, using the good stuff turns andย ordinary day into an exceptional one.
9. Examine who you spend time with and choose them with holiday self care in mind
Research reveales that while healthy social connections helps make us happier, they are outweighed by the adverse effects of strained relationships.
Spending time trying with people who canโt give us what we need puts us in the mindset of never being worthy enough for love.
We increase our own stress level and add to our own suffering when we reach out to those who are unable to love us as we are. The hard truth is, we canโt force people to change.
For the sake of nourishing your own soul, reduce your time with those who move you further away from loving yourself instead of closer.
Choose the people you spend time with, choose to be intimate with, wisely, because they have a significant influence over the quality of your life.
โTurns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world.โ โ Joe Vitale
10. Boundaries Equal Self-Care
Sometimes the folks that drain your energy or make you feel like youโll never measure up are folks we canโt avoid: co-workers, family members, service providers.ย Even if weโve set clear boundaries in the past,ย when weโre tired or stressed, our boundaries get lax.
Sometimes people will attempt to make you feel guilty or shame you for saying โnoโ. Their reaction is all the more evidence that you need a boundary with these people. Respect your need for self-care, your sense of self-worth, and your feelings by protecting yourself with better boundaries.
11. Take note of What Activities Do Not Feel Like Self-Care
Did a particular activity during the holiday stress you out or exhaust you? Make a note on your calendar to say no to that activity next year. That way, you wonโt forget how excruciating the office Christmas party was, or how drained you felt after Thanksgiving at Aunt Sallyโs.
And while youโre making that note on your calendar, block off at least one day a week next year to have a night at home.
12. Make a List
Itโs easy to look at our goals and believe weโve โaccomplished nothingโ. Make a list of everything wonderful youโve done in the last twelve months. Take time to celebrate all your accomplishments โ big and small.
Trust me: I know how easy it is to look at your life and see that one thing thatโs still outstanding instead of the ten goals youโve achieved. Thatโs one of the reasons I use myย Bullet Journal to keep not just my โto doโ list, but also my โwhat Iโve doneโ.
โDonโt compromise yourself. You are all youโve got.โ โ Janis Joplin
13. Thereโs Still Time
You may arrive in December and believe that yourย goals and resolutionsย were just a pipe-dream. Not true! There is still time to, if not accomplish a goal, at least make progress. Commit to ushering one of your dreams into your reality by taking that first step towards one of your goals.
You deserve to create the kind of life you desire โ and going after your goals in an act in extreme self-care.
14. Seek Regular Silence
Did you know thereโs a correlation between high blood pressure and chronic sources of noise?ย Perhaps the noise you are around isnโt chronic, but it highlights the power of noise our bodies and soul. In the name of self-care, make space for regular silence in your daily life.ย Maybe itโs in the car on the way home or the first half hour after you get home. You need some quiet to feel nourished.
Related: 12 Self-Care Tips to Take Better Care of Yourself
15. Make Space for Reading
The Greeks believed that reading was healing for the soul and research has shown thatย reading will make you happier.ย Consider reading as โbiblio-therapyโ and make space for it in your life. Even if you arenโt a big fan of books, indulge in a favorite magazine or reread a favorite book.
16. The Gift of Nothing
Give yourself a day without a to-do list.ย No obligations, no errands, no parties: just a day of nothing. This doesnโt mean you have to lay on the couch or stay in bed the entire day, unless thatโs the one thing you most need to do. This is aboutย granting yourself the permissionย to do whatever you want. Just relax, lose track of time, wander, nap, tinker, play, follow where your curiosity leads.
โDonโt forget to love yourself.โ โ Soren Kierkegaard
17. Savor at least One Holiday Shopping Excursion
Most of the shopping we do these days is either online or in a hurry. The crowds are stressful as is the traffic. Yet, the stores are decorated beautifully and there are always little things offered during the holiday shopping time that arenโt in stores otherwise. Choosing to designate at least one shopping excursion as a savored ritual is nourishing. And donโt forget, window shopping can be fun if you go into it with the attitude of having a few hours of exploring.
18. Give Without Expectation
Observe what those you care about would appreciate, what would make them feel loved, known, and heard. Let the results of those observations guide you as you decide how to give. Yet, do so in the pure spirit of giving. Choose an โangelโ from a tree to purchase a gift for, or volunteer time at your favorite charity. Though it can feel like just one more thing on your to-do list, being generous with your gifts โ whether money, talent, or time โ can be an act of self-care during holidays and beyond.
19. In the Name of Self-Care Buy That Thing You Want
Speaking of shopping, buy that thing you really want โ even if โ or especially if โ it doesnโt seem โpractical.โ Yes, Iโm talking about that pair of shoes youโve been lusting after, or that floral arrangement youโve been eying for your dining room table. No, donโt go into debt or buy things that will just add clutter to your world. But if you really want something,ย stop denying your desires.
Investing in something you desire is an act of self-care and a sign to your soul that you value those desires.
โSelf love does not lessen our ability to love others; it increases it. The more love we have within the more love we have to give out.โ โ Randi G. Fine
20. Dress to Impressโฆ Yourself
Check your closet to see what you already have and love, and then take advantage of the aptly timed sales going on to finish or freshen your look.ย ย Researchย shows that what we wear also affects how we feel about ourselves, so as a nod to self-care, buy clothes that make you feel good about yourself.
21. Plan a Day of Decorating
Youโve probably done your holiday decorating this year, but go to your calendar right now and make an appointment with yourself for a day of decorating next year. During the holidays, your home can be transformed into a festive holiday sanctuary with pine boughs, stockings hung, and tabletops becoming adorned with festive crimson and white. Knowing that the decor is temporary offers a welcomed change, but also the gift of packing it up for the next season and kicking off the new year with a fresh new home.
Choosing to see decking the halls as an act of self-care AND making the space for it in your schedule will lift your spirits.
22. Try New Things
When opportunity comes knocking, donโt slam the door in its face.ย True, you may be saying yes to things you donโt want to do during the holiday season, but donโt say no to something just because youโve never done it before. ย You never know when that spark of inspiration will grab your eye, and you find your next new hobby that you couldnโt imagine living without.
โMake the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.โ โ Ralph Waldo Emerson
23. Listen to Your Gut
The only way to come to trust your gut is to use it.ย It is something that most women are more likely to listen to, but following it is often an entirely different thing.ย ย Your subconscious will work for youย if you let it and are willing to listen
Related: 12 Ways To Improve Emotional Intelligence Through Self Care
24. Plan an After Holiday Respite
Okay, letโs be honest, the holidays can be exhausting. Yes, they are lovely and provide an opportunity to reflect, be grateful and truly be present, but at the end of December or January 1st, most of us are ready for life to get back to โnormalโ. ย So why not plan an after holiday respite to look forward to? ย This can be a trip or just a few days off to putter around your house. The gift of time and rest is a way to nourish your mind, body, and soul!
Acts of self-care remind yourself that YOU MATTER. And thatโs critical, especially during the holiday season.
As Audre Lorde would remind us, self-care isnโt the same as self-indulgence. Rather, itโs an act of survival. Weโve all heard the adage about not being able to serve from an empty vessel. Itโs true all year long, but especially so during the holidays, when even those of us who are typically laid back find ourselves buying into the hype and unable to resist the annual rushing around.
You, my darling, are a finite resource. Self-care is the way we refill the vessel that is made of our mind, body, and spirit. Self-care is how we refresh ourselves.
Hereโs an interesting video that you may find helpful:
โThe greatest gift you can give yourself is a little bit of your own attention.โ โ Anthony J. DโAngelo
Self care begins with self love. Taking care of your family and loved ones is important but itโs also important to pamper yourself. Take out some time to spend with yourself and do anything and everything that your heart desires. This article is a great starting point and the list of Christmas self-care tips mentioned here can give you plenty of great ideas to treat yourself and nourish your body, mind and soul.
Self care doesnโt necessarily have to be expensive. As long as you meet your physical, psychological and emotional needs, you will feel satisfied and content with yourself. Instead of pleasing others, itโs time you took care of yourself.ย
Related: 10 Signs You Need To Take Care Of Yourself (And How To Start)
This is the best gift you can give yourself this holiday season. Share your thoughts on these holiday stress tips in the comments below!
Written byย Debra Smouse
Originally appeared inย Debra Smouse
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