Never Run Back To The Person Who Broke You
Are you still carrying the baggage from past relationships? Do you still hope for an improved relationship with your ex while reading those texts and cherishing those sugar-candy words of flattery?
They shattered your trust, abused you (emotionally, verbally, physically), made you feel alone, worthless and hopeless. He never loved the whole of you. You had a solid reason to let them go. Right?
After all that fighting, anger and arguments are you still longing to go back to that broke?
Stop.
Well, when we were head over heels in love with someone and cared for them wholeheartedly, it is natural to miss that person when we are distanced. Your brain tricks you with fantasies about the person coming back to you like a lost puppy, which is nowhere close to the reality of things.
Even if you get back to your ex, you will surely regret and revert back to not wanting that person ever again.
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Never run back to the person who broke you because you are feeling lonely and weak and just need someone familiar to comfort you.
Just pause and ask yourself – What do I want?
Engage yourself in self-reflection or journal out your thoughts.
Do you want to go back to that liar or cheat even if that’s not the type of relationship you wanted long-term? Are you genuinely wanting to be with that person?
Is it some sort of fear or safety issue that is propelling you to return to exes? Is it financial security that is on your mind? Or are you just afraid to date someone new or feeling vulnerable in a new relationship?
Did you just realize that it was all your fault that ruined the beautiful relationship and now, since you have changed, so want to give your doomed relationship another chance? Are you sure your ex is too willing to rekindle? But did he or she express or demonstrate pain and remorse for hurting you?
What if the on-again and off-again cycle continues after getting back together? The result will be REGRET for moving backward, where you could have utilized the precious time in creating a new version of yourself and moving forward.
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If they were the ones who broke your heart, how do you expect them to seal your heartbreaks?
You have to stitch the broken chambers of your heart because no one else can or will do it. It is but foolish to think your ex has changed for good, far more matured and things will be different this time.
The chances are high that they will hurt you again. Because they can’t love you anymore. Their big fat ego doesn’t let them accept the breakup. They can’t tolerate that you left them, so they will try to win you back with sugar-coated sorry. But in all honesty, they haven’t changed. They don’t mean their apologies. They will continue to inflict pain even if they promised they wouldn’t.
Besides, how can you justify all those abuses and sexual infidelity?
A person who loves you truly and sees the world in you can resist such temptations and never stop pursuing you even after being with you for years. And this is the reason why things didn’t work out the first time. If you forgive them easily, they will anticipate you have low self-confidence and self-esteem, which will boost them to drag you down and break your heart over and over.
So, never run back to the person who broke you.
Explore your life
Just go out and meet new people, there are plenty of potential lovers out there. We pick the best doctor, restaurant, movie hall, and top-notch brand for clothes, shoes, bags and many more. Why not pick the best life partner even if it takes too long? Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Watch out this interesting video on how to move on, let go and leave your past in the past:
You will always have a bigger heart than your ex can ever be. You’re going to be more beautiful than your ex can ever be. Stop feeling weak and recognize your worth. Stand up for yourself.
Don’t you think life is precious enough to live with a guy who can let you go easily?
It’s ain’t your loss but their loss! You know that they aren’t good for you. Don’t doubt other decent men and women just because one turned out to be dishonest.
Thank you ex for setting you free. They have opened doors for true love to enter your life. Meet and love new people and you will discover new stuff about yourself and how you love.
Only after you have learned about love, embraced yourself with self-love and compassion and healed all your wounds, you’re bound to meet the right person at the right place right time.
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Don’t beat up yourself for breaking up. You have made the right decision and now stick to it no matter what comes your way. Take pride in giving 100% for the people you love and wish all the best for them.
You owe yourself more than conflict and manipulations because you can’t change those who can’t help themself. Let go of the things that you can’t control and be the creator of your own happiness.
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Never run back to the person who broke you no matter how painful and hard it is. Trust me this will make you stronger. I know it might not happen overnight, but life will be better for sure. Eventually, it will be okay.
You will overcome all your fears and insecurities and work towards the best person you want to be.
Remember winter always turns to spring and not to autumn. So, things will turn blissful and joy will come welling up from inside. You will meet a person who falls head over heels in love with you. Once again you will feel the ecstasy and magic in the air around them. They will accept you with your imperfections and bring out the best in you.
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