Top 7 Fears Holding Managers Back

Are you only good at your job or also good at managing people? If you are a top performer but lack managerial skills then there may be some fears holding you back. Find out what they are if you want to be indispensable at work.

Everybody is under more pressure today. Most managers are under even more pressure.

Plus, your manager probably moved into a supervisory position because they are very good at something, but not necessarily because they are especially good at managing people. If your manager is like most, they received very little in the way of effectiveย managementย training.

Meanwhile, the pendulum of management thinking, books, and training has also swung in the wrong direction, toward hands-off management. Popular books have naively insisted that employees do their best work when they are free to manage themselves.

According to this โ€œfalse empowermentโ€ approach, employees should โ€œownโ€ their work and be free to make their own decisions. Managers are merely facilitators; they should not tell employees how to do their jobs, but rather let them come up with their own methods. Make employees feel good inside and results will take care of themselves.

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But letโ€™s face it. You know very well that somebody is in charge and that you will be held accountable. You do not have the โ€œpowerโ€ to do things your own way, you are not free to ignore tasks you donโ€™t like, you are not free to do as you please. You can only make your own decisions within defined guidelines and parameters that are determined by others according to the strict logic of the enterprise at hand.

The fears we donโ€™t face become our limits

When your manager gives you responsibility without sufficient direction and support, that is not empowering you. That is downright negligent. Unfortunately, most managers have bought this false-empowermentย philosophyย and donโ€™t take a stronger hand when it comes to managingโ€”they donโ€™t even perform the basic tasks of managing. Most managers undermanage.

Here Are The Top Seven Fears That Cause Managers To Undermanage:

Fearย #1:ย They are afraid of micromanaging.

Fear #2:ย They are afraid of being unfair by not treating all employees the same.

Fear #3:ย They are afraid of being perceived as a โ€œjerkโ€ and want to be liked.

Fear #4:ย They are afraid of having difficult confrontations with employees.

Fear #5:ย They are afraid to break organizational rules and procedures and feel constrained by bureaucratic red tape.

Fear #6:ย They are afraid they are not natural leaders so have little hope of being a good manager; or worse, they think they are a natural leader so they donโ€™t have to practice the basics of management.

Fear #7:ย They feel like they donโ€™t have enough time to spend managing you.

These seven fears keep too many managers from providing their direct reports with the guidance, direction, and support they need. Thatโ€™s probably true for your manager too.

In order to help your manager give you the guidance, direction, and support you need, start by focusing on Fear #7. No matter how busy your boss may be, your boss does not have timeย notย to meet with you on a regular basis.

Donโ€™t get me wrong. You should be very careful about wasting even one minute of your bossโ€™s time, or anybodyโ€™s time for that matter. Your bosses have their own tasks, responsibilities, and projects besides their management obligations to you and their other direct reports. Your boss is busy. You are busy. Nobody has a minute to waste.

Donโ€™t Be Afraid Of Your Fears.

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Thatโ€™s exactly why neither you nor your boss has time to not meet one-on-one on a regular basis to talk about your work. When your boss doesnโ€™t spend time one-on-one with you, expectations often remain unclear, misunderstandings occur, you donโ€™t get the resources you need, you donโ€™t receive regular feedback to guide you, and even if you succeed against all odds, you probably wonโ€™t get the credit you deserve.

But how often can you succeed against all odds? Without clear expectations, adequate resources, monitoring, and measuring of performance, the boss who tried so hard to avoid spending time managing you ends up spending lots of time managing you anyway. Only now, you are set up to fail, instead of being set up to succeed. Thatโ€™s because small problems pile up or fester unattended until they become so big that they cannot be ignored.

At that point, the boss has no choice but to chase them down and solve them and then feel even more pressed for time. As a result, he goes right back to avoiding spending time managing you, and the next time heโ€™ll make time for management is the next time there is another big problem to chase down and solve.

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Make your one-on-one time with every boss brief, straightforward, efficient, and all about the work.

Get The Basic Elements You Need To Succeed:

  • You need to know the requirements of every task, responsibility, or project before you can even think about being creative. Even if you are in a creative position, only when you know what is actually up to you, have you uncovered the small space in which you can be creative.
  • Make sure you get clear and realistic expectations every step of the way, the necessary resources to complete your tasks, fair and accurate and honest feedback, and appropriate recognition and rewards for your work.
  • Build authentic relationships with your boss by developing genuine rapport, talking about the work on a regular basis. That is what the two of you have in common.
  • Include regular problem-solving in your ongoing one-on-one dialogue with every single boss, then nine out of ten performance problems will be solved quickly and easily or will be avoided altogether.
  • Assure the boss that you very much welcome candid feedback in detail, both positive and corrective.
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Written by: Bruce Tulgan
Originally appeared on: Psychology Today
Republished with permission
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