The Common Stages Of Recovery From NPD Abuse

1. Shock – how is this happening? Is this real? Who are they? Was it all fake and lies?
2. Denial – Therapy + Education on NPD -reading, online research
3. Anger – Rage – you were tricked and essentially robbed
4. Sadness – Mourning – what should have been and feeling like a victim
5. Anger – Rage – realizing the huge impact of the damages done
6. Depression (could include self destructive behaviors, self harm, suicide ideation) – Isolation – Sadness – feeling alone and misunderstood, shame, regrets
7. Self care – setting boundaries – limited contact or none with ex – not wanting to feel like a victim or shame-feeling a shift in life, needs and wants
8. Anger not as intense sadness – worry; not wanting to meet another narc
9. Self love Confidence – Setting boundaries more
10. Re-writing narcs lies with truth about yourself and your goodness
11. Accepting truth and damage narc has done as reality – more grief
12. Recurring anger rage intermittently if in custody battle – injustice grief
13. Growing confidence – trusting gut instinct- self skills more confidence
14. Reconnecting with true self – personality, laugh, sparkle
15. Investing in hobbies, interests, rediscovering fun + joy
16. Feeling empowered + agency over new life
17. Having more fun and feeling hopeful about life again
18. Recognizing triggers and dealing with them better – self love
19. Setting boundaries trusting self and gut again fully
20. Not wanting to waste time and focusing on the good you have in life.