Dating is exciting, but can also be a bit of a minefield, so itโs important to be aware of common dating mistakes to avoid when youโre with a guy you like. So what to avoid when dating? Take a look below!
What do you do when you REALLY like a guy? How do you flirt, keep him interested, and show him the engaging parts of your personality? What are the mistakes to avoid when dating a guy you really like?
Itโs easy to get caught up in the beginningโwith all the feel-good butterflies and positive vibes in the air, who wouldnโt get a little swept away?
But thatโs exactly why itโs so important to be AWARE of what youโre doing in the beginning!
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Dating Mistakes To Avoid When Dating A Guy You Like
Avoid making these critical mistakes when you start falling in love with him
Imagine this scenario. You met a guy at a work event a few weeks ago. Heโs funny, cool, and asked you lots of questions about yourself. He really made you think things were going really well, and then he asked for your number. He started texting you. The dude clearly likes you.
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And then youโre at this point where, wow, this guyโs really into me and Iโm really into him. You start envisioning yourself together, what itโd be like to introduce him to your parents, how much better and cooler this dude is than your ex. You start to feel the warm and fuzzies.
But the warm and fuzzies are not necessarily about him. Theyโre about the idea of him and you together.
Youโre falling in love with the idea of love, which is a big no-no.
Donโt get too excited and donโt get too eager.
You think you know him, but you donโt know shit about him. The dude might kick dogs. He might chew tobacco. He might even be a Giants fan. You donโt know yet. You know nothing yet.
Now, you might say, โAdam, youโre wrong. I do know this guy.โ
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But you donโt. I mean, remember that last guy you got involved with? Yeah, that guyโฆ
Didnโt work out so well, did it?
Nope.
So if you find yourself falling in love with the idea of love, take a step back mentally.
From this point forward, you are not allowed to think of the future with a guy until youโve created a present with him.
In my opinion, you really need six months in a committed relationship with someone before you even start thinking about any type of real future with them. Because if you start thinking of that future ahead of that, you are setting yourself up for potential heartbreak. Just see where it goes.
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The first month you start dating a guy, heโs a stranger.
Do you remember when your mom told you not to talk to strangers?
Well, Iโm here to tell you not to fall in love with a stranger.
Then for the next two months after that, he gets upgraded to an acquaintance.
Heโs in your orbit and thatโs great, but he doesnโt make a massive impact in your life quite yet.
Then finally for the next three months after that, he can become a good friend.
This is where you can see if you actually like the real person behind all the dopamine and norepinephrine and all that stuff that went into your initial feelings for the guy.
Become friends with him. See if you actually enjoy spending time with that person before really investing all of your emotions in him.
Then after those six months, you can start falling in love with the idea of the relationship and, of course, falling in love with him. Fantastic.
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Now, I know itโs not easy to stop love from happening. I know itโs not easy to hold back your emotions. The best thing you can do is maintain an incredible life, maintain all those things that are going great in your life. And if you donโt have great things going on in your life, keep working to make that happen.
The worst thing you can do is change your entire life and change everything around you just for a guy you recently met โ a stranger. Iโm here to protect you, support you and guide you. So please, take this advice very seriously. Donโt lose yourself when you first meet a guy.
PS: If youโre tired of the drama and frustration that comes with dating โMr. Wrongโ then itโs time to figure out how to attract โMr. Rightโ (Hint: it has almost nothing to do with physical attraction, but EVERYTHING to do with emotional attraction).
In this video youโre going to discover if a guy likes you when you start dating him:
Above mentioned are the things to do when dating a guy and things you shouldnโt. Try it out and tell me in the comments below.
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