I ask my kids this question before they go to bed, not every night, but most nights. “Did I do anything today that I need to apologize to you about?” They pause. Think. Tap their finger on their chin and relive the day. Then either they say, “no.” Or they say, “yes, you….” Then I own it and apologize. It also frees them to apologize to me over any lingering regretful moments they’re processing. Try it. You’ll like it. They will, too.
One day, you will understand that the right things were always unfolding before you.