This Is How You Love Someone With Anxiety: 12 Secrets

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When you love someone with anxiety, you should know that they are inclined to assume everyone is going to leave. So much so, sometimes these people might be the ones to ruin a relationship. The truth is they battle something they can’t control and there is a sense of insecurity within themselves when it comes to relationships.

They know it’s difficult and they don’t want to burden you with their irrational thoughts and worries. So instead, they push you away before you get the chance to leave yourself.

Let’s find out how to love someone with anxiety.

Related: To The People Who Love Me Through My Anxiety

This Is How You Love Someone With Anxiety

1. Remember They’re Worth Fighting For.

It might be hard sometimes. There might be stupid fights of scenarios they’ve created in their own head. But more than anything, they’re worth fighting for. The toughest people usually are. And if you can fight with them through this, it’ll come back to you ten folds.

2. The Phrase, ‘It’s Okay,’ Can Never Be Used Enough.

It’s two words. Two words that stop every thought running through their head. And honestly, you can never say it enough.

3. Sometimes You Just Have To Listen.

When someone you love has anxiety, they’re going to play out these situations in their minds. They’re going to jump from point A to point B and sometimes you’re not even going to know how they got there.

The best thing you can do is let them go off on their tangent. Even if there’s no solution or fear they worry about in the future, the act of listening will help.

4. Don’t Tell Them, ‘You’re Overreacting.’

To you, it might seem irrational. But to them whatever they open up to you about, it’s something that actually keeps them up at night. So just take it as best you can.

5. They Probably Won’t Sleep Through The Night.

Whether it takes them a while to fall asleep or stay asleep, you’ll be woken up by them at 3 am as they lay there wide awake. When you love someone with anxiety, just hold them close and the comfort in your presence might be enough to get them back to sleep.

Related: What It’s Like To Be In Love When You Have Depression

6. Remember It’s Not That They Don’t Trust You. They’re Scared.

You say it’s an ex and in their mind, they jump to cheating. You say it’s a friend and in their mind, it’s someone trying to break you two up.

It’s not you and your relationship that isn’t trusted, it’s every worst-case scenario automatically playing out in their head and they hate themselves for it.

7. Answering Texts Timely Does Help More Than You Know.

How to support an anxious partner? You’ve probably noticed they answer embarrassingly fast and they know not everyone is like them but it helps when people understand it. It helps when you say ‘I can’t talk now this is why I’ll text you later.’

Silence kills anyone with anxiety. It creates problems in their minds that aren’t even there. It ends in apologies that aren’t even needed. And it adds a layer of stress to their life they wish they could control.

8. Don’t Be Mad If They Send A Double Text.

You might turn your phone on, to four texts. If you can remember it’s not that they’re trying to be annoying. They care. They care too much and they know it makes them look bad.

Related: Reasons Why People With Anxiety Are The Best People To Fall In Love With

9. Sometimes They Just Won’t Be Up For Going Out.

When you love someone with anxiety, they might cancel last minute or freeze in the middle of a night out and just not be able to do it. If they tell you they have to leave don’t feel a sense of guilt or obligation to go with them. Just know they tried and for whatever reason, they couldn’t handle it.

What sets people with anxiety off can be many things but for a lot of people, parties in which they don’t know someone ends in two ways, they’ll either be quiet and awkward or you’ll be carrying them out as they chose vodka to ease their worries.

10. Accept Their Apologies Even If You Don’t Understand.

Whether it’s a night out gone wrong, a triple text, saying or doing the wrong thing, they are so observant. They will pick up on the slightest shift in you and before you even realize you might be upset and they will apologize for it.

11. Help When You Can But Know When You Can’t.

They would rather have ten meltdowns, biting off more than they can chew and they will never admit they can’t handle something. They’ll always say yes. They’ll never turn anyone away.

And in those moments where it seems like they are going to fall apart and break just hold them. How to love someone with anxiety? Help them if you can but know they’re inclined to not ask for help. They’re used to dealing with things on their own.

12. Once Trust Is Gained They’ll Love You Unbelievably Hard.

While uncompleted lists, plans getting messed up, texts going answered, might overwhelm someone with anxiety, if there is something they are good at its love. If there’s something they’re strong in, it’s their ability to show you how much they adore and appreciate you.

Related: What It Really Means To Break up With Someone With Anxiety Disorder

It might take them a while to trust you but once they do their capacity to love you will fill you in ways, you didn’t know you were empty or even missing something.

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