If you are in your twenties and want to mingle, hold on! There are reasons you should stay single. If you’re in your twenties and still single, take a moment to answer this question as honestly as you can:
“What’s your reason for dating?”
Your purpose for being in a relationship gives you clarity on what to do. Once you know where to go, you can lead yourself, your partner, and your life in a direction that you have decided.
I know for myself, I’ve made a lot of mistakes in the past. I dated women for all the wrong reasons. I used relationships to fill the internal void of loneliness. My sense of self-worth was based on what other people thought of me.
If this speaks to you, allow me to share some insights on why being single for an extended period of time could actually benefit you in the long run.
Here Are 7 Reasons Why You Should Stay Single In Your Twenties
1. You get to discover who you really are.
Many people, including myself at one point, lose their identity once they date someone. Because they don’t really know who they are and what they want, they’re easily influenced by others.
Self-discovery helps you define your values and set personal boundaries. You become aware of what you will and will not tolerate. This is important because other people will treat you based on how you treat yourself.
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2. You have more time to pursue your passion.
Let me ask you a question: What does your perfect day look like?
A man’s goal in life is to align every minute of his day so that all his actions lead to his vision becoming a reality.
Once you know where you’re going, you become better at creating space for women to experience love and intimacy. They trust you because you have a clear direction on where to go.
Once you find that thing that makes you jump out of bed, sleeping becomes the worst part of your day. Always focus on yourself first before other people. Personal happiness is a by-product of doing things that you love.
3. You can invest in your education.
Relationships after a while tend to get stale and boring. Next thing you know, you’re sitting on the couch, watching hours and hours of television. That’s lame. If you can’t be with someone to grow with and can make you a better person, then it’s just not worth it. The only security you have in life is your competence to get things done.
Never stop acquiring knowledge. Not only will this make you more appealing to that one person you really want in your life, but you’ll also be a more interesting individual.
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4. You’ll save a lot of money.
Let’s be honest here; dating is an investment. Dinners, gifts and trips add up eventually to a substantial amount.
Personally, I’m a firm believer in taking care of the bill and paying for at least the first few dates. There’s no question about that. But unless you’re absolutely committed to the person you’re seeing, there’s no need to break the bank.
Use your hard-earned money on activities and things that make you a better person. Travel, read books, attend personal development seminars, and other things that move you closer to your purpose.
5. You get to travel whenever you want.
When you’re in a relationship, you have to work around your partner’s schedule as well. In most cases, that could be very limiting to what you can and can’t do. That’s why it’s better to stay single than be with someone who is complacent and plays it safe.
Travelling is such an amazing way to reinvent yourself, especially if you’re going solo. You get to experience the world and see what else is out there. Perspective is priceless and you can only get that if you step out of your comfort zone.
6. You have complete freedom to build your network.
Have you ever dated someone who’s just extremely jealous and doesn’t want you to talk to other people? If so, I can relate. I was that guy. Because of my insecurities, I became controlling in most of my relationships which lead to the inevitable break up.
Your twenties should be spent connecting with as many people as you can to set you up for success. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals. As the saying goes, your network is your net worth.
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7. You can focus on finding your purpose.
Self-discovery is such an intimate journey. It’s something you have to take on your own.
Your life becomes more meaningful once you know what you’re meant to do. Purpose dissipates neediness and the need for validation. You stop looking for acceptance outside of yourself and that’s an amazing feeling once you get there.
Success in dating comes down to having a clear understanding of what you bring to the table. That’s why the best time to be in a relationship is when you don’t need to be in one.
Written by Myke Macapinlac
Originally appeared in The Good Men Project
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