Happiness like sadness is temporary too and we all know there is no silver bullet for the pain. This is life this is how it’s supposed to be with ups and downs. We cannot be happy every day, there will be days when are low and sad but there are certain character traits which help us in attracting happiness.
Let’s take a look at few such character traits for attracting happiness and healthy relationships in your life:
1) Self-confidence
There is only a thin line between self-confidence and arrogance. If your confidence is putting down someone or belittling them then it is arrogance. You cannot be good or great by putting down others. The urge to impress others and self-praise, showing off your money or materialistic possessions show how insecure and unhappy you are.
Happy people are content within themselves, they don’t need to advertise their achievement. Happy people get their confidence from helping others even if it overshadows them. Name and fame are not what they seek, recognition is not their goal but kindness and generosity.
Happy people believe in lifting people up instead of pushing them down. They know that their abilities and they know they cannot reach heights by using people as stairs. They don’t fake it, they are what they are, and it’s their real self that attracts happiness to them.
When one is true to oneself, there isn’t a mask present and people see you for who you really are and love you for that, this way you positive vibes attract healthy people and your relationships are healthier.
Read 29 Proven Ways To Build Your Self-Confidence
2) Positivity
Positivity is a heavy word. There is a difference between having a positive attitude and faking positivity. Seriously people, stop doing this! Faking positivity does not even makes, you don’t need to stick that smile on your face all day long, and you don’t need to pretend that every wrong thing that happens to you is completely okay! No, it is not okay and that’s not positivity but stupidity.
With a positive attitude you don’t pretend that every wrong thing that is happening to you is ok but instead, you acknowledge it that it is wrong and then you accept the change needed for it. You workout to shed some light on it and make sure if it is wrong it doesn’t repeat. You’re not obliged to go through everything.
It’s okay to fail, it’s okay to not enjoy every moment and it’s to dislike people. The thing about positive people is that they don’t give up when they fall and a bad day is more of a lesson to them. They look for the good part, the silver lining, in the bad things. Remember first you need to acknowledge the problem and then you see the lesson it has brought for you.
And the big thing is positive people don’t let their wrath of the bad day take the good of them and inflict on other people. They don’t throw tantrums and don’t go on hurting people when they are hurt. They are calm, silent of course depressed but with the will to stand back up.
Read 8 Morning Routine Habits That Will Kick Off Your Day With Positivity
3) Open and authentic
Open here refers to open to connections. Happiness is infectious and a happy person makes people around him happy. Happiness like positivity is not something you should fake, even if you do you cannot get away with it.
Sticking that plastic smile on your face and trying to be good to everyone raises alarms. People put on their guards and something inside them tells to not trust you because when you fake it you’re not being your authentic self. Fake breeds distrust and you cannot connect with people while wrapping yourself in a veil of lies.
It’s okay to show them your vulnerabilities, be the real you and let them know you for who you really are. When you are real people feel safe around you and this establishes a connection. Good relationships (connections) keep us happy and to achieve this you cannot go around putting the mask of happiness.
When you are real and authentic people around you will be comfortable to be real too, that way the connection established is authentic and the relationship that will be built will give you happiness.
4) Generosity and kindness over materialistic possessions
What are the real treasures in life? Cars? Property? gold? We may say yes at a first glance but are they really? Money cannot buy happiness is a debatable statement but it does hold some truth in it.
Our life experiences are our real treasures. The materialistic possessions may give us happiness for a short while but real happiness comes from relationships we build, the experiences we collect.
What money does is buy us comfort and gives a sense of choice which is really very temporary. If you have money you can make different choices and that is how the world works, lack of money narrow your choices and this often saddens people and make them unhappy.
But choices don’t always bring happiness, the new clothes or cars or gadgets will give you happiness that lasts shorter than the cloth itself. A night out with friends gives you more long lasting happiness than a whole day shopping would give.
Doing things you love gives you real happiness, a cup of coffee over friends place, a walk in the evening, spending time with your family, playing with kids and dogs, these small things which we often tend to ignore are what brings us happiness being kind to people we earn blessings and smile and that gives us happiness.
Read How Showing Compassion And Kindness Is Good For Your Mental Health
5) Empathy
The major reason for so much chaos and unhappiness in this world is a lack of empathy in people. None tries to understand the feelings of someone, ego seems to have blinded people. Happy people are wise and they keep their ego at bay, when someone does something wrong, they don’t take it personally and get angry or sad but try to understand what motivated them to do this.
These are five character traits you need for attracting happiness in your life.
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