Do you want to give up? How to keep going when you want to give up?
One of Aesopโs best-known fables isย The Tortoise and the Hare. The hare challenges the tortoise to a race, confident he will win by a long shot. The race begins and the hare gets so far ahead of the tortoise that he takes a nap.
When the hare wakes up, he finds that the tortoise kept moving and won the race!
You and I can learn a lot from the tortoise. It may take a while to get where weโre going, but if we persist weโll eventually get there.
There are times when youโll feel like giving up on your creative goals. Maybe youโre writing a book, making a movie, or recording music. Itโs important to be persistent and work through the problems that make it harder to reach the finish line.
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Here are five common reasons we want to give up, and how to deal with each of them:
1. Fatigue
Your physical fatigue affects your mind and emotions. When youโre physically depleted you donโt have the willpower and the correct frame of mind to push through challenges.
Solution:ย Take care of your body and make sure youโre getting enough rest. (The average adult needs about eight hours of sleep per night.)
Many people also find that a nap helps refresh them. I take a short nap almost every day.
In addition, cut down your intake of junk food and fast food. If you need to lose a few pounds, get on an exercise program. You only have one body, so treat it well.
(Iโm writing this for myself more than anyone. I may or may not have a wee bit of an obsession with Steak-n-Shake.)
2. Discouragement
Sometimes your problems seem to compound on each other and you just want to quit. Itโs much easier to run away from your problems than deal with them head-on.
Itโs more tempting to veg out in front of the television or bury your frustrations in a week of binge eating than to do the hard work required for success.
Solution:ย Deal with your negative emotions in a healthy way. Go for a walk, write in your journal, or find other positive solutions to your problems. Running away from your problems will only make them worse.
Running away from your problems only makes them worse.
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3. Confusion
Have you ever lost your focus and didnโt know which way to go? If so, youโre not alone. Everyone knows what it feels like to become paralyzed by the stress of life and lose their direction.
Solution:ย Reconnect with your purpose and vision. Where do you want to be in one, two, or five years? Think about your long-term goals and the steps it will take to get there.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said,
What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.
When you get clarity on what lies inside of youโyour purpose and visionโthe way forward becomes clear.
4. Overwhelm
There are times when youโve committed to too many responsibilities and you feel completely overwhelmed.
Solution:ย Prioritize your responsibilities. You canโt do everything. After I created my first podcast, calledย The Artistโs Suitcase, I kept it going for almost a year. It was a weekly show and it took several hours a week to produce.
However, I decided to end it after a few dozen episodes because it wasnโt helping me reach my creative goals at the time. There are times when you have to cut your losses so you can focus on the most important things.
Sometimes we are overcommitted because weโre afraid to disappoint others who request our time. You must become comfortable with saying โnoโ when you canโt fulfill a request. If you donโt control your time, someone else will.
5. Regret
If you are beating yourself up over mistakes youโve made, you wonโt be able to focus on the future. Regret can suck the life out of you and keep you from making forward progress.
Solution:ย Donโt dwell on the past because you canโt change it. Learn from your mistakes and apply those lessons to the present and the future. Focus on the one thing you can change, which is yourself.
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Matthew Weiner, a creator of the hit TV seriesย Mad Men,ย knows a thing or two about persistence. He said,
It took seven years from the time I wrote Mad Men until it finally got on the screen. I lived every day with that script as if it were going to happen tomorrow. Thatโs the faith you have to have. Hollywood is tough, but I do believe that if you are truly talented, get your material out there, can put up with rejection, and donโt set a time limit for yourself, someone will notice you.
Itโs easy to get sidelined by problems on the creative journey. But you must persist and keep on doing the work youโre called to do. Thereโs too much at stake for you to throw in the towel.
Remember the lesson from the tortoise and the hare: slow and steady wins the race.
Written by Kent Sanders Originally appeared on Kent Sanders.net Republished with permission
Kent Sanders is a writer, professor, and creative coach. He is also the author ofย The Artistโs Suitcase: 26 Essentials for the Creative Journey, and host of the Born to Create Podcast. Kentโs mission is to help others unlock their creative potential. You can find lots of resources for creative entrepreneurs at his blog,ย KentSanders.net, where he writes about creativity, mindset, and productivity.ย
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