Today, we’re going to talk about four ways to make him feel weak and crazy about you.
Let’s say that you’re with a man and you want him to feel a more intense desire for you to the extent that he almost feels week or crazy about being with you and having you in his life.
So, what do you do?
The overarching thing that we’re going to be talking about here is something that I call the “One Special Woman Formula.” I talk about this in a bunch of different programs and videos.
There’s one key component to this formula and then there’s the sub-components that we’re going to be talking about here.
The number one, key component is this thing called being high value.
The feeling that you’re this valuable woman to him is what makes him feel like you’re right for him and this amazing, awesome woman that he’s madly, passionately and deeply in love with.
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You have something that’s special about you. You enrich and enhance his life.
You want to be high value enough so that he feels like he needs to strive to attain you, right?
He needs to feel like you’re somebody that he needs to put in effort with, pursue, chase and go for a real relationship with— but not so much that you’re completely out of his reach, right?
GENERALLY, WHEN WOMEN ASK ME QUESTIONS, A LOT OF TIMES, THEIR SITUATIONS ARE ON THE EXTREMES.
One extreme is being so completely available that he doesn’t feel like there’s anything special going on there with you.
The other extreme is, “I’m SO busy, I have SO much going on and I’m SO high value that you’ll never reach or attain me or end up being in a relationship with me.”
Neither one of those are good places to be when you’re in a relationship with the guy.
We’re going to talk about the middle spot right now.
So there’s four components to being high value with a man
And number four is probably the most powerful one but all of them are important to make him feel crazy about you. Keep reading for all of them.
1. You’re happy with your own full life and don’t need anyone else to make you happy.
The first thing you want to do to make a guy feel weak and crazy about you is more of a lifestyle thing, right?
It’s being happy in your own life, having a good life, feeling happy, and not needing him to have happiness.
It’s not needing him to feel love, to feel all the important and wonderful things that you want to experience in your life.
THE REASON THIS IS REALLY POWERFUL IS BECAUSE WHEN HE SEES YOU, HE SEES AN AMAZING, FUN, INTERESTING PERSON, RIGHT?
He gets to be with you and he feels like he’s winning constantly.
The more he feels like he’s winning, it actually creates this dopamine effect in his brain where he can even get addicted to this feeling like he’s winning with you.
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You have your own life and your own things that make you happy and he’s striving continually feeling challenged to strive to make you happy but he can, right?
Guys get into relationships all the time with women who rely on the man for their happiness.
It works at first because the guy has to strive to make her happy.
Long-term though, it doesn’t work.
What ends up happening is nothing’s ever enough.
That’s one extreme.
The other extreme is not needing him at all or wanting him in your life.It’s so difficult to win with you that he just gives up completely.
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2. You feel attractive, valuable and confident.
The second way to make him feel weak and crazy about you is actually a mindset component.
This mindset component is feeling attractive, valuable, and confident in yourself.
The reason this is really powerful is because men are naturally drawn to women that are confident.
Men can pick up on like subtle things and feelings that are going on with a woman. If you come to an interaction and you feel really insecure, most guys can pick up on that. If he’s talking to you, he can pick up on you feeling insecure and not valuable.
You’re going to project that insecurity in what you say when you’re talking to him.
ON THE OTHER HAND, IF YOU FEEL CONFIDENT, VALUABLE AND ATTRACTIVE, HE’S GOING TO PICK UP ON THAT AS WELL.
In his subconscious mind, he’s going to think, “Maybe she really IS all of these things.”
Even if maybe he wouldn’t normally think that about a woman that he just met.
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I had a mentor that used to tell me, “She who is the most certain, always wins.”
So if you’re the most certain about who you are and how you feel, that kind of gets transferred to other people.
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If you believe that you’re confident, if you believe that you’re attractive, if you believe that you’re valuable, then the people around you— men and women— will start to look at you that way no matter what, right?
It breaks their systems of what they believe and all of a sudden they take on your perspective.
So what you want to do is you want to spend time figuring out what makes you feel confident.
Spend time figuring out what makes you feel attractive and valuable. Learn more about how that works in your life.
WHAT KIND OF THINGS DO YOU NEED TO DO TO FEEL CONFIDENT?
Generally, being good at something makes you feel confident, right?
Knowing what to say and do in certain situations is what makes people feel confident or attractive.
What can you wear?
How can you look?
How can you work with yourself?
How can you feel about yourself to make yourself feel attractive or valuable?
What things do you need to have in your life to make you feel like a valuable person?
Working on those things can be incredibly powerful and make a guy feel like you’re an amazing woman.
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3. You focus on what he feels when he’s around you.
This is where we get into some of the really, really good stuff.
Number three is focusing on what he feels when he’s around you.
A GUY NEEDS TO FEEL GOOD WHEN HE’S AROUND YOU BUT A GUY DOESN’T ONLY NEED TO FEEL GOOD WHEN HE’S AROUND YOU.
It’s like if you went to a movie theater, right, and you watched a movie and the movie was just fun the whole time.
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It might be kind of interesting but it probably wouldn’t be that memorable. You know you’d leave the theater and you’d be like, “Oh, it was good. I enjoyed it and it was fun.”
However, the best movies out there don’t just make you feel one emotion, right?
They take you to a roller coaster ride.
You’re in there, you’re smiling, you’re laughing, you’re feeling anticipation, the thrill, right?
You get scared maybe.
Maybe there’s a point where you’re like crying.
It takes you through a whole bunch of different emotions.
When you get to the end of the movie you’re like, “Oh man, that was so awesome,” because you experienced all these different things.
Feeling all these different types of emotions can be addictive and it can make a guy feel crazy about you and addicted to being around your presence.
4. You’re unpredictable and mysterious.
Number four is being unpredictable, mysterious, and surprising.
It’s like going out to gamble. People get addicted to gambling because of how unpredictable it is, right?
Sometimes they win, sometimes they lose.
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There are all these different things going on. Gambling triggers all different emotions and activates the dopamine receptors in the brain. You feel floods of different emotions.
What ends up happening is it becomes addictive, right?
BEING UNPREDICTABLE IS THE KEY TO MAKING A GUY FEEL REALLY ADDICTED TO YOU AND BEING TOTALLY OBSESSED.
So if you want a guy to be really, really into you, be unpredictable.
Don’t do the same thing all the time.
Don’t say the same thing all the time.
Again, there’s extremes of being mysterious and unpredictable.
One extreme is being totally predictable where it’s the same thing every single time no matter what. It’s like having chicken for dinner every night.
The other side is being massively unpredictable, which is going too far.
When guys start to think that women are crazy is when they’re totally unpredictable. They think, “Wow, I have no idea what’s going on with her she’s completely out of her mind.”
You want to be somewhere in the middle.
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You want to be in this space where you’re not predictable but you’re also not crazy but you give him a lot of different emotions to feel you do a whole bunch of different things.
All of these things are going to leave him wanting more.
You really want to give him the feeling that he wants more and you’re different from all the other bland, boring women that he meets out there.
Instead, you’re this really interesting, special, high value, unpredictable, interesting, attractive, confident woman.
A woman like that is just unbelievably attractive to any guy.
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These words form something I call a “Love Frame” and make him feel like it’s his life’s mission to treat you like a queen.
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Written by: Matthew Coast
Originally appeared on: Attract The One
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