The term “outgoing introvert” is an oxymoron. Like the concept, people who are outgoing introverts are difficult to understand. In other words, they are a bundle of paradoxes.
They sometimes enjoy the limelight. The next minute, for no apparent reason, they simply want to be alone. They can happily engage in conversation, but they would be quiet and listen to others. This might be the reason, why some people feel that dating an outgoing introvert can be challenging.
Such stark contrasts surface in some people’s characters because in them lies both extroversion and introversion. This is also known as ambiversion.
Dating an outgoing introvert is not simple because you would have a tough time understanding their type or how they would react on any given occasion. Such introverts can be considered enigmatic and mysterious and not everyone may enjoy their company.
If you are interested in dating an outgoing introvert, why not learn what you are up against and decide if you have the patience and intelligence to decipher these walking-talking mysteries.
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10 Things You Need To Know Before Dating An Outgoing Introvert
1. Even when you meet after a long day, they could be annoyingly aloof.
You are likely to be disappointed when you understand your presence is not liked or preferred even if you have met after many days. Don’t feel bad about this because it is not about you.
Your outgoing introverted partner may just be wanting to regain strength after they have drained a large amount of social energy. They usually like to unwind and recover alone.
2. They can make any party lively, but sometimes….
These folks are engrossed in themselves and also introspective by nature. Even though they are thought of as extroverts, they are really not. They think too much about their actions and are always on their guard. Mostly, they live in their heads.
3. They would express their liking only for those they really like.
If an outgoing introvert expresses their liking for you, there is no need to be doubtful. If they have expressed it, they really like you.
They hate to waste their time on people they are not completely crazy about. If they ask you for a date, then be 100% sure about their genuine feelings.
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4. At times they avoid communication through phone.
When you are dating an outgoing introvert, they can ignore messages and phone calls without any qualms and they can do that even with their best friends.
If phone calls and messages seem to interfere with what they are focusing on, they would avoid such intrusions. Once focused on something, their minds usually don’t take a steep turn. Please don’t take it personally!
5. They will listen to all that you have to say.
Introversion can be of different types and that makes the outgoing introverts good listeners. When you’re together, they will listen to you for hours.
The outgoing introvert will always be able to understand your feelings and thoughts and can handle any challenge with ease. They always stay in tune with how you feel and make you jump into the deep end.
6. They won’t let you know their feelings until they know yours.
An outgoing introverted personality will usually keep quiet until they test the waters. They don’t like the idea of opening up or telling others everything about themselves in the first meeting or maybe not even in the first year. So, have enough patience and enjoy as their life story unfolds bit by bit!
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7. They are selectively social.
When you’re dating an outgoing introvert, always remember that their energy levels depend on their environment. If they get along with the crowd, then they feel energized. Otherwise, they are annoyed easily and tend to get really introspective and reflective.
They don’t hate people, but small talk is like a communication barrier for them. They prefer staying alone at home rather than mingle with someone whom they don’t vibe with.
8. They hate the typical first date.
Because they hate small talk, they don’t prefer a formal kind of a date that mainly comprises of “hi”, “hello”, “tell me what do you do”…and so on. Most of the time they indulge in overthinking, so these introverts don’t want dating to be a brainstorming activity.
Rather, something that can put them at ease. But something more than just “get to know you” questions. Avoid awkwardness at all costs, when dating an outgoing introvert!
9. They project the idea of being universally flirtatious.
They interact with everyone because they want to make everyone feel comfortable. They are sensitive to how others feel and so try to talk to everyone.
It may seem as though they flirt with everyone. But, they are just intuitive and outgoing at the same time.
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10. They can see through lies.
Outgoing introverts can observe the smallest detail and can notice even those things which escape others’ attention. That is why they can very easily catch you red-handed if you try to deceive them.
Dating an outgoing introvert seems like nothing short of an adventure, doesn’t it? Have you ever dated one? Let us know your thoughts in the comments down below!
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