Why Your Opinion Of Yourself Is The Only One That Matters

your opinion of yourself 1

โ€œThe greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom.โ€ โ€• Osho

As social beings, it often gets difficult for us to stay secluded on our own. All of us are in some way or the other interconnected to the people around us. Our families, friends, colleagues, partners constantly influence our actions, the decisions we take, and also our outlook towards the world.ย 

In such a critically interrelated situation, retaining our uniqueness and claiming our own life is a bit difficult. People are always trying to โ€œsqueeze inโ€ the societal norms. Because going along with the crowd is easier than swimming against the stream.

To retain originality, one has to speak up for oneself, instead of suppressing oneโ€™s fullest and truest expression.ย 

What often holds us back from going against the wishes of our close ones and following our hearts is the strength individuality takes. No doubt, it is a wonderful feeling to have our dear ones help us make decisions in our life, show us direction when we feel lost but it is also necessary to know that your happiness is not dependent on any form of validation or approval of others. You can function on your own, just as you are.ย 

The first step to owning your life is to start respecting your own opinion and knowing that it is the first and last thing that ACTUALLY matters.

Here are the 4 reasons why there is nothing more significant than your own opinion:

1. You Rule Your Life.

We often believe that letting others rule our life makes us more admirable and understood. What are you ultimately doing to yourself? You are giving control of your life to another person.

Sometimes compromising oneโ€™s own utmost wishes, dreams and ambitions will help you bag a lot of appreciation.ย But does this get you to fulfill your dreams? No.ย 

Ask yourself, which is your priority, your own happiness or their temporary appreciation?ย 

Letting others turn the wheel of your life might leave you feeling secluded at some point in life when these very people will abandon you. Claim your life, your desires as you own, and fight for it till the last breath.ย Listen to your gut instincts while you decide for yourself. Your mind and body know whatโ€™s best for you, not others.

Related: How to Love Yourself More (Even When Others DONโ€™T)

2. Learning Opportunity.ย 

When does a failure hurt the most? When the path to your failure was decided by you.ย 

Sticking to your own opinion teaches you the ability to take accountability for your own actions in life. It teaches you that, others are not responsible for whatever circumstances you put yourself in. You achieve and be successful, it is the result of your own efforts and your choice of direction. You fail and you have no option to blame others for your choices.ย 

Learning to follow through with your own opinions and ideas in life, help you attain individuality. It helps you be self-reliant. Others might influence you today with their thought process, but sooner or later, you will have to be confident enough to decide for yourself.ย 

โ€œOpinions of others may temporarily influence your decisions. But you ought to follow your own inner voice.โ€ โ€• Lailah Gifty Akita

Once you act on your choices, you also acquire a clear idea about your potential, your shortcomings and invest time in improving yourself if you feel the need to. This way, the next time you wonโ€™t find yourself lost in the sea of other peopleโ€™s opinions.

3. You Know Yourself The Best.

There will be times when you will come across close people in your life who will claim that they know you better than you know yourself.ย 

Donโ€™t trust them. They partially do know you, but not as intricately as you do.ย 

โ€œOthers canโ€™t always define your true identity. They see what they โ€˜wantโ€™ to see but beyond your mess, God sees the beauty He created and still thinks itโ€™s good!โ€ โ€• Chinonye J. Chidolue

Accepting their opinion is the easiest gateway because you not only make them happy but also expend less energy on thinking yourself through. But, it is only preparing you for future disasters. You can only regret your choices in the future. You can in no way rectify the same.

Think for yourself, do others know every single detail about you?ย 

What your limits are, your boundaries are, your value system is, what pushes your buttons, what makes you uncomfortable is only known to you, not to others.ย To enjoy the best outcomes of your decisions, you must always give importance to your own opinions.

Related: 8 Tips To Embrace Your Flaws And Fall In Love With Your Imperfections

4. Other Peopleโ€™s Opinion Is Based On Their Own Value System.ย 

Donโ€™t-let-the-noise-of-othersโ€™-opinions

You should not pay heed to other peopleโ€™s opinions because of the simple reason that they have a different value system.ย 

Other peopleโ€™s opinion is based on their distinct, unique life experiences, their ideologies, and value system. Their mindset might not align with yours and hence will never be the best for you.ย 

Donโ€™t be fooled by other peopleโ€™s declaration that they have wisdom, they have a similar experience. They donโ€™t as every single personโ€™s experience is apparently discrete.ย 

Many people will only project their own insecurities in their opinions and take undue advantage out of your gullibility. A lot of them will ask you to compromise your deepest wishes and desires to follow what makes others happy. And they themselves will invariably fall in this โ€œothersโ€ category.ย 

Take this for example, if someone close to you asks you to stay stuck in your comfort zone, which might visibly seem to be a piece of helpful advice, but this will eventually mean downplaying your abilities and undermine your chances of self-empowerment.ย 

Their opinion will rarely be helpful for you as they do not know what you need and desire from your life.ย 

โ€œDonโ€™t allow yourself to be held hostage by the opinion of others.โ€โ€• Laurie Buchanan

Letting go of the opinions of others and following your heart for your own sake takes courage. Because not many of us have learned to love ourselves before we love others.ย 


Why Your Opinion of Yourself Is The Only One That Counts
your opinion of yourself pin

— Share —

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Up Next

Are You Stuck in Victim Mentality? 6 Best Things To Do To Get Unstuck!

Are You Stuck in Victim Mentality? Way To Get Unstuck!

Are you feeling trapped in a cycle of blame and helplessness? Thatโ€™s the tricky grip of victim mentalityโ€”it keeps you stuck, believing life is happening to you, not for you. But donโ€™t worryโ€”breaking free is possible, and it starts with a few powerful mindset shifts.

When it comes to shadow work, trauma healing, and personal development, it all starts with awareness. The vast majority of your thoughts are happening on a subconscious level, meaning outside of your awareness.

This is true for all of us, yet these subconscious thoughts shape most of our cycles, habits, perceptions, limiting beliefs, and overall experiences. Observing how the overall energy of your life feels will reveal the quality of your subconscious thoughts.

So, if you are stuck in a victim mentality, you might

Up Next

Winter Wellness: 10 Tips For Staying Healthy This Holiday Season

Winter Wellness Tips To Stay Healthy This Holiday Season

The holiday season is just the time to make cherished memories. But the cold can damper your plans. So, below are 10 winter wellness tips to stay healthy!

From cozy family dinners to parties with friends, the holiday season is just the time to make cherished memories. But shorter days, and bouts of sniffles can put a damper on your plans. So, below are 10 winter wellness tips to stay healthy this holiday season.

Staying healthy on holiday doesnโ€™t have to be complicated, with just a few simple but powerful winter wellness tips, you can feel the magic of the holidays while keeping your well-being at its best.

So, letโ€™s explore some unique and practical winter wellness tips that will keep you glowing inside and out!

Up Next

The Art of Forgiving Yourself: 8 Essential Steps to Inner Peace

Art of Forgiving Yourself: Essential Steps to Inner Peace

Forgiving yourself can be one of the hardest, yet most powerful steps towards finding peace. This article is going to talk about 8 of the best things you can do to release guilt and embrace self-compassion.

We all make mistakes and experience failures in our lives. Itโ€™s a part of being human. However, holding onto these mistakes and past failures can lead to negative feelings like guilt, shame, and self-blame.

These feelings can harm our mental and emotional well-being and hold us back from moving forward and reaching our full potential.

This is why itโ€™s important to forgive ourselves. This blog post will explore the importance of self forgiveness and provide solutions.

Up Next

The Art Of โ€œSaving The Dayโ€: A Simple Trick When Life Gets Crazy

The Art Of Saving The Day A Simple Trick When Life Gets Crazy 1

During the din and drive of daily life, taking out time for yourself can be tough. But Trina, aka @breatheintransformation, has a wonderful little idea that turns this thought into something small, attainable and beneficial. Itโ€™s called โ€œsaving the day,โ€ โ€” finding some calm and peace in oneโ€™s own life even when youโ€™re down with busy schedules.

Letโ€™s learn more about this trend if you want to turn your day around.

So, What Is โ€œSaving the Dayโ€?

Imagine youโ€™re having a very busy day at work โ€” deadlines are creeping, and stress is beginning to weigh on you. But instead of letting the pressure take over, there is something simple (but powerful) in your arsenal: savin

Up Next

10 Self Love Habits for Women: Your Path to a Cherished Life

Must Know Self Love Habits for Women 3

How to love yourself more as a woman? Do you often struggle with understanding self love habits?

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

Thereโ€™s a pressure for women to be selfless to the point of ignoring their own needs. This pressure can make it difficult for women to understand self love habits. If thatโ€™s the case for you, there

Up Next

10 Best Self Love Songs: Your Ultimate Playlist for Boosting Happiness

Best Self Love Songs to Boost Your Happiness 1

Feeling down? Need a boost of positivity? Thereโ€™s nothing like listening to the best self love songs to lift your spirits and remind you of your worth. If youโ€™re a music lover looking to affirm your love for yourself, this playlist of self-love songs is just what you need.

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

They say self-love is hard to achieve. But as a music lover, Iโ

Up Next

Healing From Within: 10 Tips To Forgive Yourself For Past Mistakes

Healing From Within Tips To Forgive Yourself For Past Mistakes 1

Are you struggling to move past your old slip-ups? This article is going to explore some strategies that will help you forgive yourself and start healing from within. Itโ€™s time to cut yourself some slack, practice self forgiveness and embrace a brighter future.

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});

Did you know that feelings of guilt can be