Your loneliness might try to convince you that crawling back to your toxic ex is the right thing to do, but donโt listen to it. Never listen to the lies your loneliness tries to feed you.
Everyone gets lonely. Read those words again: everyone gets lonely.
I know sometimes you feel like youโre the only person with a broken heart, or that youโre the only one who hasnโt found love. I know sometimes you just want to give up or fall back into whatโs familiar because youโre afraid of being alone.
But you should never let loneliness drive you back to your toxic ex.
Even though falling back into a connection with an ex may seem comfortable and safe, itโs actually one of the most damaging things you can do.
Here Is Why You Should Never Let Your Loneliness Drive You Back To A Toxic Ex
1. At The Core, Nothing Has Changed.
If youโre feeling like you want to get back with a toxic ex, ask yourself this question: what has really changed?
If you canโt identify ways that the relationship would be different, or how you two could create healing and a stronger, healthier bond, then youโre kidding yourself. Thereโs no reason to return to something that didnโt work in the first place.
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2. You Canโt Fix Brokenness Out Of Desperation.
You may think that you can fix what was broken by giving it another shot. At the core, giving people and relationships another chance is a good thing.
But not if the connection was unhealthy to begin with.
You canโt let loneliness drive you back to your toxic ex. Brokenness isnโt something that can be fixed because youโre scared, because youโre desperate, or because youโre hoping things will change. Even though it may be hard to accept, youโre better off alone than running back to someone who hurt you.
3. You Canโt Let Fear Guide Your Decisions.
Maybe youโre afraid of being alone. Maybe youโre afraid of not finding someone who can heal the hole in your heart that your toxic ex left. Hereโs something you need to remember: you are not permanently broken and there isnโt a hole within you.
You are a complete person, even though youโve been hurt.
Donโt let fear drive you back to the person who broke your heart. Although being alone will undoubtedly be hard, you have to believe that the right person will come to you when the timingโs right. You have to believe that you wonโt be lonely forever.
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4. There Are Far Better Things And People Out There.
There are better people out there. There are relationships with people who will love you for who you are and not ask you to bend, shift, or change. You will find someone who wonโt abuse or mistreat you, who wonโt run at the first sign of trouble.
I know you may be lonely right now, but thatโs not a permanent place. You will rise from the pain, find someone who will treat you better, and move forward with a smile on your face.
Hold on.
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