I want a partner in life, someone with an opinion and backbone. Who isn’t afraid to tell me that I am wrong and show me how I can be better. I want someone to tell me what they want and occasionally convince me that I want it too.
– j. iron word
I want a partner in life, someone with an opinion and backbone. Who isn’t afraid to tell me that I am wrong and show me how I can be better. I want someone to tell me what they want and occasionally convince me that I want it too.
– j. iron word
Are you consistently failing to reach your goals? Do you keep setting new goals and then give up on them after a short span? Buddhism reveals the ultimate mindset to achieve your goals.
What happens is the sudden outburst of enthusiasm and motivation, to set big fat goals, and create a grand life for yourself.
Slowly after a while, the motivation goes down and you tend to feel that your life can’t be better. Soon you get back to where you were before setting goals.
If your life is like this, then it’s time to learn the teachings of Buddhism about setting goals and living the life you want.
Buddhism is gaining popularity all over the world because it helps you bring together a focus on living the moment with making progress in achieving your goals.
Read on to know the 5 steps to free yourself from the destructive nature of goal mindset and actually make your dreams come true. The approach explained in the post will help you make progress in achieving your goals without stress and anxiety.
It is too easy to set goals with deadlines and plan the necessary actions to take. But, we focus on the outcomes, set unrealistic goals, and underestimate completion time. Even when you set realistic goals, most of the time your focus is on the future.
You are neither living in the present nor enjoying the journey, which adds to stress and brings forth anxiety.
Your deadlines give you tension, you are racing against time and keep reminding yourself that you are far from reaching goals. The more you worry, the more you lose your inner peace and fail to live in the moment. Eventually, you end up losing the motivation to take the required action to fulfil your goals.
And then you think of starting afresh and come up with new goals and action plans. The cycle continues with no fruitful results. You are just doing the same thing again and again while expecting different results, which is nothing but insanity in words of Albert Einstein.
Read 3 Powerful Methods To Help Create The Results You Want And Succeed Faster
Core values are the fundamental beliefs you hold about your life, that guide your intentions, decisions and actions, and help you find purpose in life. Values are things like adventure, loyalty, respect, security, passion. Therefore, before setting goals you must know what your core values are.
Ask yourself what is important to you? What do you want from life?
This leads to clarity and self-awareness.
“when your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier.” – Roy E. Disney
Not only decision-making, but core values ensure alignment to your path help you live authentically.
That said, you and only you can identify your core values and no one can decide your values for you. Every life on this earth is unique, each and every individual has his own struggles and experiences. So, Google can never answer you what to do in life.
In Buddhism, you have to engage in self-inquiry if you want to figure out your life.
Read 10 Self-Growth Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Day
Once you have identified and established your core values, you need to shift your focus from goal mindset to value mindset.
Be crystal clear about what you want to achieve and why. Think about your goals again and check if they are in alignment with your values.
Are you sure about the outcomes? Will you be happy if you achieve your goals?
Practising this value mindset will motivate you to focus on the feeling that comes in the future when you achieve your goals instead of focusing on the future and your specific goals.
Here comes the power of visualization!!!
You are already crafting a picture in your mind that you have fulfilled your goals, which lifts your mood. Such imagination helps you turn dreams and goals into reality and reduces fear and anxiety. Because you’re aligning your current mental state with the reality of having already achieved the goal.
Have you adopted the value mindset?
What’s next?
You will be glad to know that visualization is scientifically proven. Visualizing an action stimulates the same brain regions that are stimulated when we actually perform that same action.
Now onwards, spend some time to visualize the future you’re creating, and then incorporate this into your daily practices.
It’s like a meditation where you can incorporate anything in your visualization – What would be your dream job? In what way you are adding value in the lives of other people? What kind of social life you’re maintaining? How your business conference would look like? How does your new average day look like?
At the end of the day, sit and analyze as to which parts of your day are matched with the value-based future that you’re creating.
Eventually, you will tend to live more in the present moment. Over time, the future you want to create and the present will be the one and the same. And this relates to mindfulness.
Mindfulness in Buddhism is about being intensely aware of what you’re feeling in the moment, without judgment.
Setting goals, missing deadlines or messing up with plans creates stress, irritation, and aggression. And the gap between the future you are trying to create and the present you are living increases.
Read How Your Brain Changes After Meditating for One Year
With goal mindset, your entire focus is on what you need to achieve to be happy. But, with a value mindset and power of visualization, you enter the state of already being there. So, you no more focus on what you don’t have.
Practice mindfulness, live the moment, notice what you have, all the right things in your life – and be grateful to all the simple, little things that make you happy.
Using this approach, you can relax your body and mind. Visualize your inner self each day and make choices based on “who you are” instead of the actions that should be taken to achieve specific results.
We are cursing 2020 for COVID 19 and lockdown blues. But, the sad year is finally coming to an end. Embrace these teachings of Buddhism and value mindset to achieve your goals while living mindfully in the present.
Let’s make the new year the year of victory.
My escape: a good book, coffee.
A different take on the creation or evolution debate, unpacking how both can fit in according to spiritual principles.
The creation vs. evolution debate has been going forever – and with good reason: a definitive answer to the question would presuppose the answers to where we come from and what life on earth means. It would answer a lot of questions.
In a word, the answer is creation. Earth was created…. but not quite in the way that you think.
Have you ever had one of those dreams that was so real that it actually took you a few minutes or hours to regain your equilibrium and figure out which reality you are in again? Most commonly, society speaks of those dreams in which your partner does something that feels so real that you are mad at them in real life.
In Its Simplest Essence, Life Is Like That Dream.
It’s like entering The Matrix – your consciousness is ‘plugged into’ this ’reality’ when you enter it, but at the same time, you bring your part of this reality with you, because this is a completely individuated and separated existence. In fact, that individuation is the whole point of life on Earth.
So the reality starts for you the moment you enter it, and it will disappear the moment you leave it, or die. You will take your part that you created with you – this is the sense of loss we feel when someone dies. They are literally removing a part of our energetic reality, or the morphic field.
It’s also that fullness we feel with a birth – the new life literally adds another layer to the energetic tapestry of our world.
An interesting way to start unpacking this for yourself is to consider: how do you know that what you are seeing or hearing is the same thing as what others are seeing and experiencing?
You assume that people see the same ‘thing’ that you do in front of you, but the truth is that we learn a system of codification when we enter the world. Someone points to that spot at the end of their face and says the word ‘nose’. So our brain stores or encodes (codifies) the element we are seeing and correlates it to the word (sound projection) of ‘nose’.
But you actually have no way of looking out through that person’s eyes, with that person’s brain, and seeing what they are actually seeing. You’ve simply agreed, through the codification of language, that that element is a nose, and you use that ‘abbreviation’ (word), when you attempt to communicate, or ‘share’ your experience.
Even when they ‘see’ a ‘photo’, which must be proof that you are ‘seeing’ the same thing, the person is only aligning their internal codification to the picture they are seeing, and agreeing based on that former knowledge. You still cannot experience WHAT exactly they are seeing.
There is no place where Earth exists as a physical entity as such – there is simply this collection of combined energies that make up the morphic or holographic field.
So when we say plugged in, it’s a lot more Matrix-like, with your mind participating in the experience and a clever series of filters making it appear real to you.
And even though you need to bring your part to experience this reality, it is only as a collective that we are strong enough to create the space-time illusion of reality that we call the physical plane. So if it was just you, you wouldn’t be able to create the whole shebang alone.
So your thought experience is projected into this world, and the blank slate we enter with enables you to ‘accept’ what you experience as reality, because you learn it without contrast to any other experience… and you accept it as being ‘real’.
This is the first layer of the ‘system’ we speak of but can never quite define.
Another interesting concept that will help you unpack this over time is the fact that sight is one dimensional information; this is why it allows for subliminal information to be used so effectively. When you‘re looking at something, it’s with a single point of focus. So if you go inside the house for example, the wall will block your single point of sight from seeing your neighbor.
But, if your neighbor shouts you will still hear it through the wall, because sound is a multidimensional experience. Sound traverses dimensions, and that is why we use sound such as drumming, singing, chanting and prayer to reach across dimensions to the other side.
Earth is a visual plane, and we learn by taking in enormous amounts of visual information in our lifetimes, so we come to accept what we ‘see’ as ‘real’.
In fact, some estimates say that over 70% of what we take in is visual. Over time, this programming becomes so ingrained that we accept it as our ‘reality’ – we ‘believe what we see’. It’s like oxygen: we can’t remember a time when it wasn’t there.
The morphic field is like the Internet of all knowledge for Earth. Our souls, minds and bodies can plug into this field of knowledge like a computer or device, uploading and downloading information from the field.
A simple way that you can see the morphic field at play is when you and your friend both message each other at the same time or say the same thing at the same time. You both thought it because the energy was present in the field and you both received the message at the same time. It stemmed from the field.
First discovered in the 60s and 70s, the morphic field became widely known because of kinesiology and through the pioneering work of Sir David Hawkins, who has conducted decades of research into the phenomenon and defined the Human Consciousness Scale.
Everything about this Earth plane exists in this field… karma, society, rules, principles, morals, ethics, reality, nature, the natural order of things. Even life and death exist within the field.
How do we know this? Because if you carried the essence of life within yourself you would never be able to die, and if you carried death, you would never be able to live. So the morphic field manages this for you.
In fact the morphic field manages everything for you – your breathing, your heart beating, getting sick, getting healthy, your natural progression in physical and mental spheres, and so much more. It’s like our superconscious brain, or even our instinct. But it resides in one collective body instead of being personal to each of us.
So what the process of consciousness is therefore is the process of taking control of certain aspects of your body, life, etc., so that you can CONSCIOUSLY control, manipulate or change them, instead of allowing the morphic field to do it for you.
Another key aspect that lives within this morphic or holographic field is karma, and karma is basically the residue of unresolved emotion that was left in the field by somebody when they died.
The reason there is some confusion about what happens after death is that it is driven by what you believe and the level of development you’re at. So according to those criteria, different souls will experience the after-death experience in various ways.
In addition, a third criteria that determines what happens after death has to do with ego, or identity.
At every layer of the spiritual evolution, you are less and less tied to your identity, e.g.:
So with reincarnation, when you return from this life, this identity will disappear and you will adopt a new identity for your next life. There’s much less attachment to the actual identity (ego) of this particular life.
Everything that you do in the field, including live and die as above, stays within the field – karma does too.
If you are still at an earlier stage of your overall journey, and you were somewhat still attached to particular identities in particular lifetimes, then when you reenter the field in a new life, your energy would actively seek out the residual energy or karma you left behind in previous lives.
This is often why souls have a predilection for certain geographic areas, because geography plays an active role in the morphic field.
One of the ways we see the morphic field’s geographic level of influence is through Critical Mass, or the Maharishi Effect, which has been measured as the square root of 1% of any given population, as shown in various experiments, including those performed by the FBI.
What the experiments have shown is that 1 person impacts 100 around them, while two people impact 400, and 3 impact 900. Using this measure, we would need only 144,000 enlightened beings to facilitate the entire global shift.
Empaths And karma
But not everyone will find their karma, soulmate, or twin flame though, or even get it right when they do, so there has to be a back up. That back up is empaths.
When someone doesn’t release their karma from the field that energy can linger – which is where the empath clean up crew kicks in.
The role of the empath is to absorb energies similar to those they are personally experiencing and release them from the field – because the ‘humanity’, ‘mankind’, ‘society’ and ‘civilization’ we are here to fix and protect and heal, is actually the morphic field.
In the grand scheme of things, short individual human lives of a few years don’t mean a huge amount really, but the collective impact of humanity – or the morphic field – is where all the unresolved issues lie. That’s what needs to be returned to Source, because that’s what ties souls to this plane.
So how does this all tie back to creation vs. evolution – and how do we explain dinosaurs and the fossil records and radio carbon dating and science?
Let’s recap… your consciousness enters a collective thought projection (reality or the morphic field) in a way that enables you to accept the experience as a singular reality. But, you bring your part of that collective reality with you, which is how you have the individual power to create exactly what you want without interfering with the free will of the other beings.
So the morphic or holographic field is therefore the places where all these separate and individuated realities mesh and join, and it largely consists of the places where these realities are in agreement, e.g. language. We agree on language and vocabulary, and so that agreed-upon system of codification becomes a part of our shared reality.
Still, you are given the gifts of the Gods to create your reality according to your beliefs.
This means that you can create anything you want if you can learn to consciously master the holographic field, or gain consciousness in other words.
So, if you become determined to find an answer that will explain a theory like evolution, then if you look hard enough you will find it – you will manifest the answer into your reality… this is how you have the gifts of the Gods to create your reality.
We then perpetuate that ‘discovery of reality’ into the shared reality or morphic field, by telling others about this discovery and giving them language, jargon or a codification for it.
One of the clearest ways you see this is in our education system: any degree is really an advanced study of the language and jargon of that field.
By creating a shared understanding of certain terminology, you enable ‘experts’ in that field to discuss the subject at a much more advanced level – because you don’t waste time explaining key concepts every single time.
So a simple example would be a bridge… if a builder had to create a new solution for crossing water on every project, then solving just that water problem could take up the entire project focus, and different solutions would be found each time: go around, tunnel under, build a raft, build a bridge.
But because the planner has a shared concept for a bridge in place through his or her education, they can simply allocate a bridge to be built to cross the body of water, without wasting time devising a new solution.
This is how we stand on the shoulders of giants by means of our educational system.
So by giving us the same baseline in schooling for example, the system creates a subconscious agreed-upon baseline for our shared reality.
But the truth is that EVERYTHING you know about this world was taught to you, from so early on, and in such subtle ways, that you come to accept it as your reality.
A great simple example of this is the content in early schooling reading books…. see Spot run, see the house, see mom and dad. Look at the sky, the stars, the moon, the sun. We live on a ball hanging around in space that is millions of years old. Gravity exists.
You were taught ALL of this… none of it was instinctual knowledge. In fact, most of it took you a while to grasp.
That’s how they program you from a very young age.
And most often they do it by hiding the information inside another layer – we’re learning the accepted structure of the family in society subliminally, while we consciously focus on learning to read.
As someone who was walked my own long and difficult path, I know that I cannot impart onto you how I know this and what I’ve seen, but I can give you one piece of advice: question what you already know.
In order to really traverse onto the next level I have found myself having to wrap my head around the most conflicted duality concepts and suspend all disbelief. The truth is WAY weirder than you can imagine, and there is very little in your earthly experience that can really prepare you for it.
So question everything you think you already know in preparation, because this is open mindedness on an entirely new level.
Earth is 6,000 years old. Oh and by the way, it’s flat. But that’s another conversation completely LOL J
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Ever felt like being single all your life? Let me share a little secret – love is a journey, filled with unexpected twists. And here’s why you should never give up on love!
Sometimes we get exhausted because we’re tired of all the questions that don’t die inside our heads, questions that we honestly don’t have any prepared answers for, questions that maybe we won’t get to figure out. Is that why we give up on love sometimes?
We’re tired of trying to fit ourselves to someone else’s standards, to live up to someone’s expectations, to become the best in their own eyes. We’re exhausted with the modern dating scenes, and we’re even more exhausted to see some people patronizing them.
We’re exhausted from explaining the kind of love that we believe is true, the love that lasts for a lifetime, the love that gives us a reason to wake up every day.
Sometimes we get hurt.
We’re in pain when we remember the relationships we had that only lasted in such a short period of time. We’re tormented about the times that we sacrificed our happiness in hopes that someone will love us back.
We’re hurt that some people think it’s okay to manipulate us, take advantage of us, rob us of our innocence, and play with our feelings.
Related: 3 Damaging Mistakes That Are Keeping You From Finding True Love
Sometimes we get scared.
We’re worried that maybe there’s something wrong with us, something that drives people to step back and turn around, and something that gives them an excuse to run away from us.
We’re afraid that maybe we talked too much when we had our first dates, or our personalities came off as too strong for them to handle, or we weren’t cool enough to sit with their friends.
We’re scared that when it gets dark, and we’re left alone in our own thoughts, we can’t help but ask ourselves, “What If I never love again?
But I think we think too much.
I think that when we’re with our friends, they see us as the fun type, the kind they feel energized to be around, and maybe we are the people who are sometimes the life of the party. I think that when we’re with ourselves, we’re vulnerable, soft, and humble.
I think that when we’re with strangers, maybe they look at us as the type of people who have cool hobbies and interests in their lives.
And I think we’re okay. We’re perfectly fine. I don’t think that there’s something that we should change about ourselves, something that we need to adjust for someone, something that we need to do more or do less. We are who we are, and for a lot of good reasons, people love us.
We will not give up on love because whenever we see people who found the right ones they’re looking for, we get inspired and have our hopes up again. We get inspired to achieve the love that makes us believe in second chances, a love that is sweeter the second time around, a love story that is more beautiful when re-written.
We want to hope to meet someone who’s going to be the answer to all the doubts that consume our minds.
We will not give up on love so we can show our fears that they have no power to haunt us and bring us down. We want to prove to ourselves that we can live a free life that is not based on impressing other people and desperately trying to make sure they are happy.
Related: Why Are You Not Getting The Love You Want?
We want to stand in the face of sadness and let it see that it can’t provoke a tear in our eyes, or even trigger any insecurity of us.
We are too strong to give up on love.
We are too young to say no to the possibility of falling in love again. We have plenty of time and energy to embrace our imperfections and work towards improving ourselves.
We need to be the example to the world that it’s alright to be showy of our affections, to be expressive of our thoughts, to be honest with our feelings.
Let’s promise to never ever say no to love. We owe it to ourselves to be happy in all that we do, to be comfortable with our own skins, to be proud of who we are. We owe it to people who love us, raise us, and drive us to select a better half who’s going to give us the same care, respect, and affection.
You see, sometimes we get discouraged to give love a try because we’re so scared to fail again. But we have to persevere, be patient, and to be optimistic in searching for love.
Because one day when we’re all curled up on the couch with the people that are meant for us, we’re going to look back on our lives, and be thankful for the moments that we didn’t give up.
So this was all about why you should not give up on love. Share your thoughts in the comments below!
I remember the stretch like it was yesterday, it pulled at me like a nagging child in the supermarket line begging for candy, all I wanted it to do was to shut it up so I could get through the experience.
It was my hamstring. I think. Maybe my quad, shit I often never know…I only know for sure that it hurt, and hurt like hell!
The stretches to follow were grueling and became a torturous path of release…but it never did.
Then someone broke all my boxes of bodily reserve and shattered my shiny glass ceiling of what I thought my body could do and said in only a few words,
“Wanna go to yoga?”
“Yoga”, I replied with a condescending smirk. “That’s for rubber people sitting under trees”, I retorted with hesitation, mostly fear.
She said nothing, but he was cute and looked great in those yoga pants she wore…so off to a yoga class I went.
Rolling into a class, they call it a “studio”, whatever, was equally annoying. My ego screamed with taunts and tantrums that I knew what was best for me and didn’t need anything that I didn’t already have mastered.
I was so snooty. And that gesture they do with hands together slightly bowing and glazed over eyes was an annoying greeting. This isn’t China! “Namasteeeee….” They would say, inhaling deeply then exhaling all over me while offering an awkward heart-to-heart pressed hug.
“WTF…just shake my hand” I would think to myself.
I rolled out my towel atop a cushioned mat that graced shiny wood floors. Mirrors slightly fogged from the 105 degree temperature and 90% humidity were held in place in massive panels to place this body spectacle in full view. I wanted to hide.
My friend, the one in the tight yoga pants, she just smiled sweetly at me and began these odd stretches. I could hear her ankles pop and and she snaked her body in to different forms, all on this 2 x 6 space that she made all her own.
Others around me spoke quietly, if at all. It was like a morgue or mass, they are both the same to me. I thought I was supposed to be praying which led me to believe this whole thing was just another shenanigans to get my money. Certainly there was a plate that would be passed!
The teacher, equally hot in tight yoga pants, sauntered to the front. She was more angelic than human, feet gracing the floor with such ease I could almost hear the wood respond with pleasure at each step.
There were 30 or 40 of us in the room. Everyone seemed to know exactly what to do. I was lost. Clearly. She started the whole process out with what she called an “intention” with elaboration of spiritual terms of universal oneness. I don’t know, I just wanted to get through it, maybe get her phone number. Sure, that sounded good.
What was to follow was a collection of maneuvers that no human out of a yoga studio has EVER experienced.
Down and up dog. That was actually kinda sexy on many levels and to my chagrin, looked and felt great but on myself and others. (Tight yoga pants again)
Slowly the sweat dropped from my brow. My body began to play another rhythm and my mind slowed. The sarcasm began to leave my heart and what was left was a vulnerable exposure that purged something buried deep inside.
In a tantric unison, my body, mind, heart and some unusual spiritual flutter came into a unison of existence. Tears streamed from my eyes, mixing with the sweat already cascading from temples and pooling at my feet. Within only 20 minutes I was soaked from head to toe and an emotional mess.
Within 30 minutes the teacher and I were one. Her voice penetrated my darkest places I’ve been hiding for oh so long. Her hands would do subtle adjustments to my pose as she glided by, leaving her scent on me where she touched. It was intoxicating, sexy, but not sexual.
The pose of the child seemed to be the physical representation of how I felt for so long. On my knees, bowing, arms stretched out above me in the ultimate pose of reverent humility to a force that felt like something much bigger than me. “God is that you?” I whispered.
Not expecting an answer, what I heard next I’ll never forget.
“No, it is me, the one that you’ve wanted to be and couldn’t reach. I’ve been here all along.”
My shoulders shrugged in sobs, my feet became unstable and the sweat continued to bathe me in a glistening beauty that was all mine. I had finally met…Me. The real me. The best me.
Slowly, my hands pushed against the floor. I stood to one foot. Then another. What came next was a set of physical poses to describe the warrior that had been buried inside me with no need to fight, no battle, no war to wage…just a breathtaking spectacle of internal power.
Warrior One. Two. Three.
I was free. Finally.
Arms stretched out powerfully to opposite ends of the room, my chest becoming expansive, nipples hardened with sexual energy transmuting itself back into my body that caused every muscle to bulge, holding me steady
When it was all over, I laid there to a subtle music of blissful rhythms and wind chimes, the angelic teacher fanning my body with a cool towel mixed with a blend of tea tree and peppermint oils.
My body was for the first time, good tired.
My soul was for the first time, refreshed.
My hear was for the first time, reinvigorated.
My manhood was for the first time, reconnected from its weariness and near the end.
That was a yoga class. One, yoga class.
I take from this experience a newness with me and an appreciation for the practice that I’ll most likely never fully understand, but good things are like that, not meant to be understood, only held in the best of esteem.
You never know where a sense of purposeful divinity will connect with you. Sitting under a tree, looking into the eyes of a child, even a delay in traffic with the right mindset can cause a flash of unexpected knowing-ness that will forever expand your mind like jumping out of an airplane and feeling the jerk of the parachute opening in full bloom for you to float safely to the solid ground.
That hour was all mine and the days to follow were never to be the same.
I’ll now look with an internal humility and hunt wisely in creation of those moments where my soul remembers itself and praises the beauty of being connected.
I’m grateful to the practice and the wonderful spiritual guides, known as Yoga Instructors.
Every next level your life will demand a different version of you.
May your life be as awesome as you pretend it is on Facebook.
“I used to dislike being sensitive. I thought it made me weak. But take away that single trait, and you take away the very essence of who I am. You take away my conscience, my ability to empathize, my intuition, my creativity, my deep appreciation of the little things, my vivid inner life, my keen awareness to others pain and my passion for it all.”
— Caitlin Japa