How To Avoid Situationships

• First, be honest with yourself around what you want, what you’re ready for and what you won’t settle for.

• Be clear about your (especially sexual) boundaries, standards, core values and deal breakers. Make a list and then next to each one write down why they’re important to you.

• Honor your own boundaries as a way to model how you want them to be respected.

• Decide how long you’ll date someone before you move on if things aren’t progressing. Vague answers answers around their desire to be in a relationship means it’s time to move on.

• Pay attention to whether you actually like them vs allowing the anxiety around their acceptance of you to fuel your attraction.

• Practice healthy detachment as you engage them in the dating process (gather data).

• Avoid romanticizing, fantasizing, future pacing and efforts to fast forward the relationship (healthy detachment).

• Speak up around where things are going once you’ve hit the milestone around how long you’ll date them with no clear indication of where things are going.