Sometimes a simple but profound Buddhist story can teach you what life is truly all about, and what are the things that actually matter in life. Especially when everything seems superficial, overwhelming, and confusing.
Life today has become so fast-paced, and instantaneous, that people have become used to getting everything instantly. And not to forget, there are a ton of distractions around, both external and internal to tempt you to give up one thing for something else that might seem better.
You wander from one place to another, not knowing what it is you really and truly want, and satisfy yourself with instant gratification.
And when you add your inner voice to this equation, things get more complicated. Why do you think most people are not good at being patient? Your inner voice is constantly speaking to you, which then leads to a perpetual state of worry, leading to overthinking and coming up with theories about why you SHOULD NOT wait.
It’s a vicious cycle, and no wonder you get addicted to it. So, how do you get out of these mental traps, which are self-imposed for the most part? Maybe this Buddhist story about patience can help you to get an answer to that.
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A Remarkable Buddhist Story About Patience, And Mental Peace
Buddha along with his disciples had embarked on a journey, in which they had to cross numerous cities and territories to reach their destination.
While on their way, they came across a lake far away, so they decided to stop and rest for a bit, as they were quite thirsty. Buddha asked his youngest disciple, who was also the most impatient, to bring him some water.
The disciple started walking to the lake, but when he reached there, he found a wagon of oxen crossing it. He noticed that due to this, the water gradually became muddy, and he wondered how could he give this dirty water to Buddha. So he went back and told him that the water was too muddy and cloudy, and it is not fit for them to drink.
A few minutes later, Buddha again asked him to go to the lake and fetch some water for him to drink. Nonetheless, the water was still as dirty as before. The disciple came back to Buddha and said the same thing, the water is still too dirty to drink.
Hearing this, Buddha did not answer. He did not say a single word, nor did he make any movement whatsoever; he just kept sitting there quietly.
After some time, Buddha asked the disciple to go to the lake again for some water, and because the disciple did not want to challenge him, he went to the lake again. However, he was furious and was constantly wondering why Buddha was sending him, again and again, to fetch water from the lake, despite knowing that the water is dirty and not drinkable. However, when he reached the lake, he discovered that the water was clean and crystal clear.
He was surprised but still took the water and went back to Buddha. Buddha asked what did he do to clean the water. The disciple could not answer the question, because he actually did not do anything.
Buddha looked at him, and said, “You gave it time, and you waited. You let it be. With time the mud settled, and the water became clean again. Your mind is like the water too. If it’s cloudy and muddy, you should let it be, and give it some time.
Being impatient won’t help you or the situation you are in, so you need to learn to be patient. If you are patient, your mind will get balanced on its own, and you don’t have to work very hard to make it peaceful. Everything will fall into place, as long as you don’t force them, and don’t hold on to them.”
Patience And Mental Peace Are Connected
Everybody is always in a hurry, and they want everything right now. Patience is a virtue that has become rare in today’s world, and instant gratification makes the world go round. People would rather give up on things and other people than have some patience and wait for some time, for things to bear fruit. It’s like everybody is participating in an invisible race, and being patient is simply out of the question, and being patient means you’re a loser.
It feels annoying to wait, doesn’t it? It’s understandable. But does that mean you will give up on something, and choose something else just because you were not patient enough to stick to the original plan? Maybe the reason for this is when you have to wait to make something happen, all sorts of negative thoughts swirl around in your mind, like what if something goes wrong, or what if things don’t work out ultimately if more time passes.
This Buddhist story about mental peace shows once again why it is important to inculcate patience in oneself, and how it can go a long way in achieving mental peace and tranquility. Being able to wait, respect time, and trust that things will fall into place with time is an important mindset to have.
Getting overwhelmed and impatient won’t help you make the situation better, rather it will adversely affect your mental peace, and make you feel even more hopeless and anxious, in accordance with Buddhist beliefs.
The next time something does not go according to plan, try not to rile yourself up; wait for some time, do nothing, and most importantly, show some patience. Train your mind to not flit from one thought to the other, as this will mentally and emotionally tire you out.
Don’t let anger, unpredictability, frustration, and stress control you, and push you to be mindlessly impulsive. Emotionally distance yourself from what is bothering you, and introspect. The moment you get in touch with yourself, you will feel calmer.
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Keep in mind that not everything has to be done right now, it’s okay to take it slow sometimes. It is crucial to instill calmness and patience in yourself so that you can handle every problem and obstacle with a clear and peaceful mind.
When you achieve mental peace and tranquility, you will be in tune with your feelings, emotions, and thoughts. And only then will you be able to embrace different opinions and perspectives of this world.
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