Wondering if the man of your dreams is interested in you or not? Below are 8 body language signs he likes youโฆ Check them out now!
The body language of a man who likes you will surely tell you a lot about how he feels for you.
Want to know if a guy likes you? Stop paying attention to what he says and focus on his body language. Why? Men are not as verbal as women and they probably wonโt say it right away.
He may be insecure, shy, or just afraid to get rejected by someone as pretty as you. Although he may hold back his words, he will not be able to control his body language & reflexes when he likes you.
โEmotion looks the same whether youโre a suburban housewife or a suicide bomber. The truth is written on our faces.โ โ Cal Lightman, โLie To Meโ
Men: arenโt they a handful?
If youโre not stressing out over their will-he-or-wonโt-he-commit antics, theyโre giving you mixed signs about how they feel.
It can be frustrating trying to decode what a man says because unlike women, heโs not as emotionally expressive. So, he may be feeling one way, but his words suggest otherwise.
But itโs not that heโs trying to mislead you on purpose. The problem is that most guys grew up not learning how to communicate their feelings.
So that leaves a lot of room for misunderstandings and unspoken sentiments.
Sometimes, even he doesnโt know what heโs feeling at the moment and has a hard time sorting it out.
That makes it even more challenging for a guy to give you the real deal about where you stand with him.
On top of that, your guy might be particularly shy or terrified at the thought of getting turned down (something common among men).
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With so much getting in the way, itโs easy for you to misread the body language of a man who likes you and take it for romantic interest โ which of course, will put a huge, AWKWARD wedge between you two.
Or maybe the signs he likes you were flashing right in front of you but went over your head.
And when you finally realized it after the fact, it was too late and the proverbial ship had already sailed.
If either of those things has happened to you, donโt fret. Plenty of women have had their dreamboat get away from them on account of this pesky problem.
But there is a way to read your guy like a book so you when heโs giving you the green lightโฆor if you should take a detour and move on.
While his words can be ambiguous, his BODY is another story. Everything he does sends a clear message of how heโs REALLY feeling.
Dr. David Givens, Ph.D., author of โLove Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtshipโ, says that humans give off these non-verbal cues during the courtship phase as a way of โfeeling outโ a potential mate.
Thereโs a certain rhythm to it, much like how animals engage in mating rituals.
In other words, itโs in our DNA, and humans have been playing this game for as long as weโve been on this planet.
And if you want to win big time, the trick is to learn the crucial body language signs of a man who secretly attracted to you that tell you your guy is, in fact, feeling it.
If you can identify the signals as he gives them off, youโll know exactly how to plan your next move.
Best of all, these signs are just as legit whether youโve known him for some time, like a colleague or mutual friendโฆor that hottie who walked into the coffee shop five minutes ago.
With that, letโs get into 8 body language signs he likes you.
Body Language Sign #1 โ What do his eyes tell you?
Before anything else, heโs going to scope the scene. So your guy will try and get a feel of things by making eye contact.
If heโs trying to make a visual connection, thatโs him reaching out and checking if he can move on to the next step.
Heโll usually start with a tentative glance, connect with you, then look somewhere else.
And when he looks at you again, itโs game on!
Personally, Iโm not a fan of the whole check-his-pupils-if-theyโre-dilated business. Itโs not like you can walk up and start observing him like a lab rat.
Anyway, the important thing is that heโs got that look that says he wants to reach out and touch you โ which brings us to the next body language sign heโs interested in youโฆ
Body Language Sign #2 โ He wants to get up close and personal.
Alright, so his next move is getting in your space, but in a friendly and non-threatening way.
Maybe youโre telling him something during a conversation and heโll get in closer to hear you better.
But if youโre 100% audible within earshot and he STILL gets in to listen, thatโs different.
Thatโs him instinctively trying to get into your comfort zone in a casual manner. Itโs all very subtle and chances are heโs not even aware heโs doing it.
But all the same, humans use physical proximity as a yardstick of emotional closeness. And a guy going the distance is probably on the path to being more than friends with you.
This could be a man who checked you out at the bookstore or grocery aisle and made some chit-chat โ or a long-time friend trying to escalate things further.
It doesnโt matter. Speaking of escalation, letโs move onโฆ
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Body Language Sign #3 โ Heโll turn things up.
Ok, let me back up a bit first. Most men grew up not really having the benefit of physical affection as much as women do.
While women are usually more keen to express themselves through touch and getting that in return but guys arenโt in the same position.
Thatโs just how it is and thereโs nothing wrong with that. It does, however, put your man in a position where heโs, in a way, โstarvedโ for this kind of attention.
Thatโs why when heโs in the presence of someone he likes, heโll naturally gravitate towards her.
More importantly, if your guy feels THAT way for you, heโll try to make contact in โsmallโ ways.
Itโs going to be low-key, like
- Brushing against your elbow.
- Tapping your shoulder to get your attentionโฆ
- A playful jab when youโre joking aroundโฆ
- Or squeezing your forearm ever so lightly for a microsecond when heโs making a point in a conversation.
Also, your smooth operator is going to gauge how you react. So if youโre feeling it too, help him out by responding favorably.
He knows heโs treading on unfamiliar ground, which is why your man is dying to get a sign of hope back from you โ just sayingโฆ
Body Language Sign #4 โ Heโs got a different vibe around you.
Do you sense your guyโs a bit on edge, or isnโt at ease as he is with other people (e.g. his buddies, co-workers, etc.)?
Or maybe heโs acting a bit awkward, stammers a little and his voice has a nervous pitch to itโฆ
If your manโs like this with you, and NOT with anyone else, then he sees you differently from them โ and thatโs a GOOD thing.
Heโs feeling a special kind of pressure that only comes with someone heโs in love with.
You might not realize that while heโs talking to you, heโs racking his brains trying to think of the perfect response.
So he might end up tripping over himself trying to impress you. In his mind, he wants to be that funny, charming guy he thinks you want him to be.
And youโll probably notice that he canโt keep his hands still either. Heโs either ramming his straw in his drink, chewing his lip, tapping his foot while heโs seated, twirling a pencil between his fingers, or running his hands through his hair.
If youโre noticing any of this, try to put him at ease. Trust me, a little encouragement goes a long way with a guy.
Once he knows heโs still in the game, heโll eventually overcome that awkwardness and sweep you off your feet.
Body Language Sign #5 โ He tries to look his best.
Look at the way heโs standing in front of you. If he appeared laid back and relaxed before you showed up, he might suddenly act like thereโs an invisible hanger in the back of his shirt.
Aside from that, heโll be showing off his glorious pecs by sticking his chest out.
Heโs unconsciously broadcasting his masculine features in the hopes of getting your attention, not unlike peacocks who flaunt their feathers to attract a mate.
You might even catch him fixing his hair or smoothing out his shirt with his hands if he knows youโre nearby.
I call it the โDrill Sergeant Effectโ: when you walk by, heโll snap at full attention and wouldnโt dream about disappointing you.
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Body Language Sign #6 โ Everything else fades into the background.
You know how it is in cartoons or movies when the guyโs love interest is talking and heโs practically hypnotized from watching her lips move?
For further comedic effect, itโll turn dead silent right before cheesy romantic music starts playing.
Meanwhile, the poor guyโs sitting there, mesmerized. He couldnโt find a way out of her eyes even if he had a map!
So what Iโm trying to say is that you kind of have the same effect on a guy, and it SHOWS.
Heโll make you feel like youโre the most important person in the room.
Well, thatโs because you ARE that important to him, and heโll be hanging on to every word you say. Itโs like nobody else is there because you have his FULL attention.
Heโll nod, laugh and give you a healthy dose of โuh-huhโ, โyeahโ, โohโ and โwowโ to let you know heโs really listening to you.
Body Language Sign #7 โ Heโll be โin syncโ with you.
No, heโs not going to try to win you over by singing and dancing like a certain boy band.
(A little 90s reference thereโฆ *wink, wink*)
Ok, semi-funny jokes aside (you chuckled a little, admit it), a guy in love will try to match your pace in a couple of crucial ways.
First, heโs going to walk alongside you at a slower pace.
Weird, right? But itโs true.
This might be a situation where you ran into each other by chance, or youโre both headed in the same direction for some reason (like running an errand together or something like that).
Whatever it is, heโs likely to mirror you and adjust his speed, usually by slowing down.
According to a Seattle Pacific University study entitled โEnergetic Consequences of Human Sociality: Walking Speed Choices among Friendly Dyadsโ, men have generally evolved to either speed up or slow down for their partner so she doesnโt have to waste any precious energy.
That means is that heโs doing this for your benefit, and itโs a privilege reserved only for YOU.
And hereโs another interesting tidbit about sexual attraction: heโs going to try and match YOUR body language as well.
Heโll be doing what you do, like leaning forward when youโre sitting across each other, or have his hands on his hips like you while standing up.
It could even extend into verbal territory, like trying to TALK like you.
For instance, heโll start using your favorite expressions โ thatโs him subconsciously expressing his desire to establish rapport with you.
That way, youโll feel more comfortable around him.
And finally, the last body language sign heโs interested in you to look out forโฆ
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Body Language Sign #8 โ Heโsโฆโopen.โ
Nothing like a vague sign to end things on an anticlimactic note, am I right?
(Just kiddingโฆlast one, I promise!)
Yeah, so youโll notice that heโll avoid any gestures that might suggest that heโs closed off to you in any shape or form.
Heโs not going to blow his chances by sending any message along the lines of โgo away!โ
His arms wonโt be crossed and heโll sit back in his chair to look relaxed (even though his heartโs racing), and his feet are pointed towards you.
Oh, and heโll probably have a big old smile plastered on his gorgeous mug. And itโs not the polite kind of smile, either.
Iโm talking about the โholy-cow-I-canโt-believe-youโre-actually-here-and-I-hope-this-moment-never-endsโ kind of smile that you canโt miss.
Men have a knack for flashing those pearly whites because theyโre a signal theyโre truly grateful for sharing the same air as you.
That might sound a little needy or desperate, but believe me, a guy couldnโt care any less about feeling this way about you.
In those precious moments, time seems to freeze and nothing else matters to him except YOU. Heโs in awe of you and itโs nothing short of MAGICAL for him.
His body language will show it, and that expression on his face will tell you.
If youโre seeing more than half of these body language signs heโs interested, then youโve got a good thing going for you.
What if you USED to see these signs he likes you and the magic has faded a bit?
He had that warmth about him before, but now things have gotten a little chilly.
Or worse, he might even be showingย signs that heโs PULLING AWAY.
Donโt despair though โ itโs not the end of the worldโฆor your relationship.
You see, Iโve helped plenty of women figure out exactly why guys leave, and itโs NOT for the reasons you think.
The truth is that you can spot these signs immediately AND keep him from walking out the door.
Better yet, you can make him feel like heโs falling in love with you all over again. Then heโll give you those cute body language signs heโs interested in you all day, every day.
Find out exactly how to stop him from pulling away.
So, these were the body language of a man who likes you. Did you relate to any of the signs he likes you? Tell us in the comments below!
Written by Slade Shaw Originally appeared in AttractTheOne.com
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