Have you ever wonder why women are most likely to be drawn to arrogant pricks but not to the nice guys? Well, that stereotyped โalphaโness of some guys suits well with most of them. Pretty much every woman out there is looking for a confident companion, and not someone whom she needs to take care of. Thatโs why this whole โnice guyโ goodness doesnโt sit right with women while talking about dating.
So, lately, Iโve been hearing a lot of guys making the โobservationโ that women always say they want a โNice Guyโ but then end up with the total jerk.
In my circles, this is one of the most common reasons why guys think they donโt get dates. Theyโre nice guys with โprinciplesโ and treat women with โtons of respectโ only to have them say they only want to be friends.
The โNice Guyโ always follows this up with โWell, women arenโt logical and do really dumb things and this jerk is going to treat her way worse than I would treat her.โ And we canโt forget โWell, Iโm a nice guy, thatโs who I am and I wonโt change into a jerk for her, thatโs just not who I am.โ Iโve heard this over and over again and Iโve probably thought this way myself once or twice.
Well, guess what? This whole โGirls donโt date nice guysโ is true. Women donโt want a โNice Guyโ. They may say they do, but what they really mean is that they want a GOOD guy.
Whatโs the difference? Well for starters, Nice Guys arenโt actually nice.
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A Nice Guy is a guy who doesnโt think enough of himself to fully take control of his life
He tries to be as accommodating and inoffensive as possible. When he meets a woman heโs attracted to he wants to make sure he does everything he can to please her. He thinks he can do this by constantly asking if sheโs okay and getting her to plan dates. The wishy-washy sentence โOh whatever you want to do?โ is the perfect example of this.
See, what the nice guy is actually doing is giving control over his life to the woman. Heโs too scared to live his life so heโll let her do it for him.
Itโs weak and not just a little cowardly. Women donโt want power over a manโs life. She wants a partner, a friend, a loverโฆ not someone who she has to make life decisions for. When youโre โniceโ youโre really trying to give up the responsibility of living your own life to a woman, trusting sheโll take care of you.
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In my books, thatโs a pretty jerky thing to do.
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Written by David Wygant
Originally appeared on DavidWygnant.com
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