Why Nice Guys Lose In Dating

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Have you ever wonder why women are most likely to be drawn to arrogant pricks but not to the nice guys? Well, that stereotyped โ€˜alphaโ€™ness of some guys suits well with most of them. Pretty much every woman out there is looking for a confident companion, and not someone whom she needs to take care of. Thatโ€™s why this whole โ€˜nice guyโ€™ goodness doesnโ€™t sit right with women while talking about dating.

So, lately, Iโ€™ve been hearing a lot of guys making the โ€œobservationโ€ that women always say they want a โ€œNice Guyโ€ but then end up with the total jerk.

In my circles, this is one of the most common reasons why guys think they donโ€™t get dates. Theyโ€™re nice guys with โ€œprinciplesโ€ and treat women with โ€œtons of respectโ€ only to have them say they only want to be friends.

The โ€œNice Guyโ€ always follows this up with โ€œWell, women arenโ€™t logical and do really dumb things and this jerk is going to treat her way worse than I would treat her.โ€ And we canโ€™t forget โ€œWell, Iโ€™m a nice guy, thatโ€™s who I am and I wonโ€™t change into a jerk for her, thatโ€™s just not who I am.โ€ Iโ€™ve heard this over and over again and Iโ€™ve probably thought this way myself once or twice.

Well, guess what? This whole โ€œGirls donโ€™t date nice guysโ€ is true. Women donโ€™t want a โ€œNice Guyโ€. They may say they do, but what they really mean is that they want a GOOD guy.

Whatโ€™s the difference? Well for starters, Nice Guys arenโ€™t actually nice.

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A Nice Guy is a guy who doesnโ€™t think enough of himself to fully take control of his life

He tries to be as accommodating and inoffensive as possible. When he meets a woman heโ€™s attracted to he wants to make sure he does everything he can to please her. He thinks he can do this by constantly asking if sheโ€™s okay and getting her to plan dates. The wishy-washy sentence โ€œOh whatever you want to do?โ€ is the perfect example of this.

See, what the nice guy is actually doing is giving control over his life to the woman. Heโ€™s too scared to live his life so heโ€™ll let her do it for him.

Itโ€™s weak and not just a little cowardly. Women donโ€™t want power over a manโ€™s life. She wants a partner, a friend, a loverโ€ฆ not someone who she has to make life decisions for. When youโ€™re โ€œniceโ€ youโ€™re really trying to give up the responsibility of living your own life to a woman, trusting sheโ€™ll take care of you.

Related: Either Love Like You Give A Shit, Or Be Alone

In my books, thatโ€™s a pretty jerky thing to do.

Watch out for this interesting video to find out 10 things that nice guys always do wrong:

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Written by David Wygant
Originally appeared on DavidWygnant.com
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