Are you looking to strengthen your love? Practicing non attachment in relationships can be a powerful way to eternal bliss and happiness! Find out below.
When you start practicing non attachment in intimate relationships, you will have found one of the pathways that leads to unconditional love.
Non-attachment and indifference are not the same thing. Non-attachment is just a state of being, and is, to some extent, important for a healthy functioning relationship.
Indifference means a lack of empathy and interest towards a relation or something in our life that deserves your attention. Non-attachment means not being prejudiced, not being dependent.
With this state of mind, a person can look onto all sides of a situation or a relationship in a completely unbiased manner. One can achieve it when they develop the various aspects of human existence.
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We come across many wonderful things that may not stay with us throughout our lives. But, very few of us enjoy the moments while it lasts because we cannot accept the truth.
Those who can, they spend that period with the greatest intensity and passion and express themselves in the best possible way. No one can call this indifference.
Rather, it is non-attachment which lets you appreciate something good when it happens in your life, but spares you the pain when it ceases to exist. That’s how non-attachment empowers you.
Nothing Is Permanent Here
Most people will be quick to dismiss the idea. They might wonder—-How is it applicable to real-life relationships?
Life is not everlasting and it will come to an end one day. In the same manner, we are only capable of spending finite moments with whoever we love. Only, we don’t know for how long.
There are so many things that make human relationships unpredictable. The circumstances surrounding us, our changing emotions, and even the uncertainty of human life all attribute to the fate of our relationships.
We cannot tell how long someone we love too dearly will stay in our life. This truth is ever-present even if we don’t want to accept it. Only when you think deeply, you will realize how ephemeral life is. And one who understands this attains the state of non-attachment.
Non-attachment empowers you! It doesn’t make you stone-cold, unfeeling, or hard. It only reveals how short-lived everything in life is and encourages you to value your relationships because you don’t know how long they would exist.
Both good and bad times will not overwhelm you because you will know they are not everlasting.
When you don’t experience happiness or sorrow, it does not mean you should live in the insecurity that everything in life would suddenly come to an end. On the contrary, it connects you with the only permanent truth that is pure love and awareness.
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Unconditional Love Finds Its Way
It may sound impossible but ‘non-attachment’ shows you the way to love unconditionally.
You can love someone unconditionally because you are no longer bothered about what you will get in return. This type of love directly flows from the heart and is bereft of limitations.
Attached love is dependent on various things and when those things don’t exist or no longer appeals to the person-the love they felt so acutely also disappears.
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Attached love is inspired by these qualities and circumstances, and so it is expressed by saying ‘I love you because….’ This is not the same with distant love. Since it is pure love, one just says ‘I love you.’ It is not based on ‘conditions’ so there is no because attached to it.
When someone is able to practice non-attachment truly, they best express themselves by saying ‘I love’ because in this stage one can feel the bliss and happiness of pure love emanating from their soul. Their love is way bigger and purer to be confined by a relationship.
Cultivating Non-Attachment In A Relationship: Love Emanates From Within
Not being way too much-attached lets you discover the actual source of happiness that lies within you.
But, we are used to the thinking that we are capable of loving because someone else brought us to this state. This belief makes us dependent on others for our happiness.
But, when we understand that the source of love lies within us, we love others sans the fear that one we love might leave us one day.
Such love is constant and unchanging, and even the death of a loved one doesn’t deprive us of it.
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If we can practice non attachment we can very well master the most powerful tool that will allow us to feel and give unconditional love and be emotionally strong.
With this attitude, we can do justice to the people and things that we have in the present. We can learn to count our blessings rather than complain about what we don’t have and gain the capacity to deeply feel all the good things we have at the present moment.
To realize the temporariness of life means changing all the existing assumptions about our existence. When we pass through this process, it transforms us to love without barriers, without conditions, and rids us of fears.
Non-attachment empowers love and relationships! Are you ready to start loving this way?
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How to practice non attachment in a relationship
Practicing non attachment involves letting go of the need to control or possess the other person. However, it can also bring a sense of freedom and independence, and help to foster a healthier and loving relationship.
How to love with non-attachment?
Loving with non-attachment means loving freely, without being attached to specific outcomes or expectations. It means accepting that love is a dynamic and ever-changing process.
What is non attachment?
Non-attachment in relationships or the general life is a philosophy that involves recognizing that things are constantly changing, and that holding on to things or trying to control them can lead to suffering and dissatisfaction.
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