Are you wondering how to let go of a married man, someone you are madly in love with but who is hurting you over and over and over? If you have been looking around online, you have probably discovered that there are millions of chat boards devoted to just this topic. And they donโt make you hopeful.
The question at hand is: will your guy ever leave his wife and, if he doesnโt, what to do about it and how to let go if you decide to leave?
Knowing ahead of time how to let go of aย married manย will help you take that big step to let go so that you can be happy and find love again.
Here Is How You Can Let Go Of A Married Man, Even If You Still Love Him
1. Be honest with yourself.
Ok, here you are, reading this article, so you must be thinking about leaving your guy.
Why? I am guessing the reasons are something like this:
- He keepsย breaking his promises.
- He couldnโt be there on your birthday.
- You never get to go out anywhere.
- He puts his family first.
- You are lonely.
- You feel horrible about yourself.
Do any of these reasons sound familiar? I am guessing that you have had some version of each of them almost daily since this whole thing began.
It is time for you to start really paying attention to these thoughts, to truly be honest with yourself about the future of your relationship with this man.ย Yes, you love him but do you truly see the happily ever after up ahead?
I would encourage you to take written stock of all of the hurts and broken promises. Seeing them in a list will make it even clearer to you why you must leave your guy, for once and for all.
Be honest with yourself. Itโs time.
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2. Cut him off.
There is only one way that you will be successful at letting go of your guy. And that is if you cut him off completely.
Cut him off on all social media, block him on your phone, absolutely no sex, no late night supportive conversations. No โjust being friends.โ Nothing.
Knowing how to let go of a married man includes being confident that you can do this because it is key!
Your married guy isnโt going to want to let you go. I mean, why would he with the sex and support that you give him? And because of this, he will use every opportunity that he has to get back in with you. If you leave the door open a crack, he will get it fully open before you know it.
So, if you want to succeed this time at letting go of your married man, I would encourage you to be prepared to go โno contact.โ And when you do so, try to take it one day at a time. Donโt think โI will never talk to him againโ because that will be overwhelming. Just think โI am not going to talk to him today.โ That is way more manageable.
I know it seems impossible right now but you can do it. I did and you can too.
3. Get to know yourself again.
I was involved with a married man once. He was โgetting separatedโ but it took almost a year to make that happen. And in that time, Iย totally lost myself.
When I met him, I was a single woman, living in New York City, running my own business, and volunteering in the mental health field. I was healthy and happy and living the dream.
When he re-entered my life (I was in love with him in college), I couldnโt have been more prepared for a healthy relationship so I thought I would be just fine waiting for him to leave.
Boy, was I wrong.
Over the course of the next year and a half, I totally lost who I was. I was so distracted by the situation that I couldnโt focus on my business, my health failed, my depression soared and it felt like my life was falling apart.
The first thing that I did when I managed to finally go โno contactโ with him was to do something that I used to love doing โ taking a road trip!
I packed up my car and drove down to North Carolina where I spent a few days with a friend. The adventure kept my mind busy and helped me remember the woman I had been before. The happy, hot, self-confident woman who could rule the world.
Getting to know that person again made me strong enough to continue to go โno contactโ with him and start to build my life again.
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4. Spend time with people who love you.
I am guessing that, over the time you have been with your married man, you have separated yourself, to some degree, from those who love you.
The time that you spent, waiting near your phone, in case your guy called you. The time that you didnโt schedule things to do with people because you wanted to be available in case your guy was. The time that you didnโt spend with your friends because they didnโt want to hear any more about your married guy.
Knowing how to let go of a married man includes spending time with people you love, as often as possible. Not only will doing so keep your mind busy, so that you arenโt obsessing about your guy, but it will help you touch base again with the amazing person who you are.
And your friends will be so thrilled that you have your head on straight that they will be happy to join you on all of those adventures that you are ready to take.
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5. Believe that you will love again.
I am guessing that this is the number one thing that is holding you back from letting go of your married guy. The fear that, if you do, you will never be loved again.
I am guessing that you might no longer believe that your guy is your soul mate โ I mean how could a soul mate hurt you so much? But he is someone you love and someone with who you have invested a lot of your precious time. The idea of starting over is daunting.
What I can promise you is this โ if you stay with your married guy, how your life is right now is most likely how your life will be for the foreseeable future. Can you imagine?
But, if you can extricate yourself from this relationship now, yes, you will have to put yourself out there but you are way more willing to meet a guy who will love you truly and who is ready to devote his life to you.
You will love again. Maybe even more than once. But you will love again, I promise!
Knowing how to let go of a married man is the number one way to actually make it happen.
Much like we must prepare for a test or a life event, knowing the steps that you will have to take to do the hard task will prepare you for doing it. Knowing what is ahead might not make it all seem so daunting.
With that in mind, be honest with yourself about the relationship. Be prepared to cut him off immediately. Renew your relationship with yourself, and your friends and family, and know that you will love, and be loved, again.
I know it seems impossible but you can do it!ย I did and I am truly living happily ever after!
Written By Mitzi Bockmann
Originally Appeared In Let Your Dreams Begin
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