An Apology To My Ex and I

Have you ever given an apology to your ex? The apology to your ex is not because you hurt them, but because they hurt you. Every step of the way.

I am sorry for giving unsolicited suggestions to improve yourself, for pointing out your mistakes, and for triggering you to be upset when you thought I always made myself as the hero, and you as the villain.

I just thought I needed to help you to grow because maybe it was my responsibility as someone who cared about you and someone you were in a relationship with.

Forgive me for snapping back at you every time you tried to fight me.

Maybe I should have shut my mouth and didn’t defend myself regardless if I was right or wrong. Maybe I shouldn’t have stood up for myself.

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I understand that sometimes my opinions come off as strong.

And I know you get hurt when I disagreed with you, but do you really want to live a life when nobody tells you you’re wrong when it’s obvious to everyone that you are?

I see that you didn’t get my point on the days that I slammed doors in your face.

You convinced yourself that I was being rude and difficult to you. But have you ever tried to wonder out loud that perhaps you did something incredibly stupid before I started acting ‘different’?

But I digress. I apologize.

I’m sorry if I was a complete bitch.

I’m sorry that I knew my worth; that I fought for my right; and that I speak my thoughts.

I thought you were man enough to understand and handle a strong bitch like me.

But you felt intimidated that I was the kind of bitch who had a lot to say.

And you felt threatened that a bitch like me knew how to win an argument.

I realize now that you’re too weak to be in a relationship with a complete bitch.

And you’re even weaker for breaking up with me.

I am sorry if I made you felt small. So small that you end up looking at yourself less than your value.

You need a bitch who’s not going to outshine you; a bitch who’s willing to let you drive the wheel 100 percent of the time.

I couldn’t be that bitch.

So for the last time, forgive me for being a complete bitch to you.

But wait… maybe I wasn’t really sorry at all.

And I apologize.

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