A New Model to Save Marriages and How to Live It

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The new model believes in strengthening the relationships between couples in a healthy manner. Hereโ€™s how to save the marriage and practice it effectively.

Best-selling author, Don Miguel Ruiz, in his dissertation on Toltec Prophecies speaks of the dawning of a new age, which we are currently experiencing.ย This new time is to be an antidote to the last fifty years when there has almost been death to marriage. It is a time of cleansing and releasing old, emotional wounds and fear relative to relationships.ย 

New Model Of Marriage: How To Save Marriage And Live It

In this new period, the conflict around respecting each otherโ€™s dreams will dissipate and conditional love (which really isnโ€™t love) will be discharged.ย  People will recover their sense of responsibility and compassion which will allow both partners to express as 100% him or herself.ย ย 

In reading the prophecies, it seemed to me like Ruiz was describing a new rhythm flow where old outdated, traditional models of male-female roles are revamped and fit into current lifestyles. People are more independent and marriage as an institution has gone through a structural change to keep up with the requirements of the times.ย 

How To Save Marriage And Live It

Recently, at a carwash, I met a man who exemplified this new living model. Gyasi brought his kids along as he drove his wifeโ€™s car in to be cleaned. He told me that it was his idea to do this. I was curious and wanted to learn more so he told me his story.

Related: How To Keep Your Marriage Happy: 5 Things To Do And 5 Things Not To Do

During the pandemic, Gyasi had an epiphany.ย  I love epiphanies so I dug in to listen.ย  He and his wife were both working from home, and he was feeling overwhelmed with his work.ย  At the same time, he kept hearing his wife speak of feeling overwhelmed with everything that needed to be done. That is when it occurred to him that he did not need her to ask him to clean up the kitchen because it was apparent to him that the kitchen needed to be cleaned.

So, he got up from his work and cleaned the kitchen.ย Then he noticed that they were out of milk and other grocery items, so he made a list of needed groceries and trotted off to the grocery store to restock their stores.ย This became a theme for him.ย  He looked around and saw the need and he jumped in to get things done.ย ย 

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I was impressed.ย It seemed that Gyasi was on to something.ย The other thing I found to be amazing is that he enjoyed being this person that rose to the occasion, saw what was needed, and got it done. It occurred to me that I was observing this new relationship model that Ruiz predicted.ย  (To be fair, this idea of doing what needed to be done without prodding has been around a long time, it just hasnโ€™t been the model most couples operate with.)ย 

In Gyasi case, both individuals worked as equal partners participating in chores without putting the burden on one or the other.ย Because of their proactive stance, the typical resentment, blame, and angst that tends to chip away at relationships and destroy love was eliminated. So instead of trying to make old traditional patterns work in a new life situation, Gyasi and his wife, Teka-Ann created a prototype that lifts partnership and co-parenting to a happier place.ย ย 

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I congratulated Gyasi for his epiphany, his follow-through, and general thoughtfulness, and deemed him the husband of the year (or at least the month).ย  At that, he bounced up, kids in hand, and went to get his wifeโ€™s brand-new clean car.ย I believe the key to living in this model is to look beyond yourself and see what is needed in a global sense.

Related: 5 Things I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About Marriage

Instead of assigning male-female roles, we might look at the bigger picture and recognize the needs of the moment.ย And no one is keeping tabs, judging, or complaining. Just jump in and help. โ€œWe both live in this house with these children. What is going on; who needs what; and how can I contribute?โ€ย  Perhaps this is the question to ask yourself. Do you? If not, why not?

Related: Is Marriage Bad for Womenโ€™s Well-Being And Happiness? Research Tries To Find Out

Written By: Jean Walters

Jean Walters is a transformational coach for over 35 years and international best-selling author of โ€œDeep Truth: Wisdom of the Masters.โ€ For more information,ย visit her website.

Shift from the old model of marriage to new ways to save your marriage now! Share your thoughts on how happy marriage stay happy in the comments below!


Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

What does a healthy marriage look like?

A healthy marriage is one in which partners support, listens, respect, and practice honest communication with each other. Itโ€™s also a connection in which one feels content and safe with their spouse.

How to save a marriage that is falling apart?

If you have a marriage that is falling apart, you will be able to repair it with commitment and effective communication from both sides.

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