Are you always trying to get his/her attention and affection? Does your partner always shut you out? Do they always keep you away from their important decisions? Then we really hate to break it to you, but those are the signs you are an option for your partner, not a priority..
Youโre not a priority if youโre an option, you are a percentage. A percentage of that other personโs time and effort. The size of the pie never changes, the slices do. โ Tyconis D. Allison Ty
At one point or another, youโve been on someoneโs hook. You think that one day, all of a sudden, this person will turn around and put you above everyone else, and it will somehow morph into a perfect relationship.
Maybe youโre already in a relationship with this person and keep hoping things will get better, even though youโve never been the first thing on this personโs mind. You probably donโt ask for much, but theyโve made you feel like itโs your fault for feeling the way you do.
Youโre desperate for those few moments where this person makes you feel special, but then you feel terrible the rest of the time.
Guess what? Weโve all been there, and some of us are still there, trying to figure out a way to get out. Itโs not easy, but if you identify with this feeling, you should call that person up and tell them to f*ck off. End things.
Itโs probably going to feel like the end of the world, but the worst kind of person is the person who drags you along and throws you on the back burner. Youโll never become the priority; life isnโt that nice and that guy (or girl) youโre dating will always be a jerk. You donโt want to be around when that person does find their priority.
Here Are 17 Signs You Are An Option, Not A Priority:
1. Almost all your plans with this person are last-minute โฆ
2. โฆ even though he/she always asks what your plans are for the night way in advance.
3. You find yourself turning people down while you wait to see if he/she wants to see you.
4. And then you regret that you wasted your night waiting on them.
5. Youโre never the person they want to take to big events, like weddings.
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6. Even when theyโre seeing someone else, they still try to keep you on the hook.
7. They almost always bail on things that are important to you.
8. It takes FOREVER for them to respond to a text.
9. You constantly feel like you put in ALL the effort.
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10. They expect you to always answer when they call, but never answer when you call.
11. This sounds way too familiar: โWe canโt be together right now.โ
12. Youโre always making excuses for them.
13. When you try to stand up for yourself, they blame you for being needy.
14. You remember everything they tell you about their lives โฆ
15. โฆ but they never remember anything you say.
16. Youโre unhappy most of the time.
But you still hold on for those few moments you spend with them.
Written Byย Lindsey Kupfer Originally Appeared On Yourtango.com
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