Using This Simple One Word Will Make Your Man Better Respond To You

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I admit that when I talk about dating, relationships, and โ€˜courtshipโ€™ in the modern day sense, my articles are a little biased. Meaning, since I write from my own perspective, I often donโ€™t take into consideration the fact that each of us grows up differently in unique environments and is exposed to different types of normalcy.

Many times, women respond to my articles and tell me that they feel as though men were simply not raised or taught to act in the ways that I think they โ€˜shouldโ€™ act. This raises the problem of โ€˜you donโ€™t know what you donโ€™t knowโ€™ and is essentially the same as asking someone to do something that theyโ€™ve never been shown how to do.

This, among countless other reasons, is why communication is so important in relationships. Itโ€™s important because we all have different expectations, outlooks, and languages that we speak. It is often said that women are more emotional and men are more logical in how they communicate, which can definitely be true โ€“ but it is also true that men instinctively want to make the woman in their life happy, and will do whatever it takes to accomplish that task.

We can begin to see a pattern that often times, while the willingness is there, the know-how simply is not. This goes for most men, particularly because every relationship will be different and he may need some help finding his druthers in the beginning.

Women may become frustrated or increasingly jaded as they meet men who are seemingly clueless, but the cycle created by this is as follows:

โ€“ Man doesnโ€™t know how to make woman happy but doesnโ€™t communicate it.
Woman is tired of men never putting in effort, not realizing they simply donโ€™t know how.
โ€“ Man feels hopeless and begins to recoil from the relationship because he feels he canโ€™t do anything right.
โ€“ Woman or man gives up and moves on because itโ€™s just not going to work.

And the cycle continuesโ€ฆnobody is at fault except for inefficient communication. So, how do we break this pattern?

Men respond differently to how they are approached. If you say, for example:

โ€œI think youโ€™re ignoring me.โ€

โ€œWhy didnโ€™t you call me when you said you would?โ€

โ€œYou should have let me know you were going to be late.โ€

You may not realize it, but putting the focus on what heโ€™s done wrong completely deflates him and he will more than likely feel discouraged and respond in his own personal way. Some men get quiet, some men get hostile, but regardless of how they respond to you (right or wrong) the message they hear is the same: You telling him he is inadequate for what he did or how he thinks.

Instead, consider these alternatives:

โ€œWhen you donโ€™t respond to me, it makes me feel ignored.โ€

โ€œWhen you didnโ€™t call, it made me feel like I wasnโ€™t important.โ€

โ€œWhen you donโ€™t tell me youโ€™re going to be late it makes me feel like you donโ€™t value my time.โ€

I guarantee you will get a different response from him.

The magic wordโ€ฆfeel. When communicating with a man youโ€™re involved with, watch how his responses to you change when you start telling him how his actions make you feel. Since, as we discussed earlier, he wants to make you happy โ€“ knowing he is making you feel a different way will wake him up and understand the situation better. It will sound more collaborative rather than combative. It will give him direction rather than cut him off at the knees. It will make him feel like you are communicating with him, rather than pointing out his flaws.

This may sound basic, simple, or even a little bit ridiculous โ€“ but it is accurate. When men say we are simple creatures, we really do mean it. We want to make you happy, but sometimes we need a little help and patience in figuring out how to do it.

So, next time you have a disagreement or a โ€˜talkโ€™ that needs to be had with the man in your life, if you typically find he is closed off to hearing your point of view when you are trying to get him to change or improve the way he does something, take the focus off of what he is (or isnโ€™t) doing, and start putting the focus on how his actions make you feel.

See how the conversation goes, then.

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byย James Michael Sama

Originally appeared on JamesMichael Sama.com

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