13 Ways To Keep Love Alive In Your Relationship

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If thereโ€™s something we know for a fact about relationships is that it changes over time. While dating, couples are romantic and obsessed with each other but after years of marriage they become annoyed with little things about their partner.

Relationships go through a lot of ups and downs. So itโ€™s imperative that we need know how to keep love alive in our relationship over the long haul. Do you want to keep the spark alive in your marriage or relationship? Then follow these 13 ways to keep love alive and passionate.

โ€œAs long as we have life, we keep love and hope alive.โ€

Debasish Mridha

You may have heard those long-term relationships eventually and inevitably become flat and boring.

Many people believe this myth and expect this to occur to them. When they experience moments in which feelings of attraction, desire, or sexual excitement are not powerfully stimulating, they assume that the flame has gone out and that the future is bleak and uninspiring. Possessed by this expectation, many couplesโ€™ relationships face a downward trajectory that often ends in separation or worse.

While it is impossible to prevent stale moments from occurring, it is possible to strengthen the substance of a relationship in a way that minimizes their impact and diminishes their frequency to a significant degree.

Related: How To Go Through The 5 Stages of Relationships And Keep The Peace

โ€œWhatโ€™s the catch?โ€ you might ask. There is none. Keeping your relationship fresh, passionate, and excitingโ€”whether youโ€™re 20 or 90โ€”just requires infusing your life with more fun and pleasure.

โ€œIโ€™d love to, but thereโ€™s not enough time,โ€ you might say. But there is always enough time, depending on how you choose to prioritize it. Many of us assign higher priority to activities and commitments other than our relationships, not necessarily because we donโ€™t value our relationships, but because we take them for granted and create the false belief that we can afford to neglect our connection or put it on cruise control.

We assume that since weโ€™re committed, our relationship is solid and doesnโ€™t require the time, attention, and energy it did in the early, less secure, days. On the contrary, itโ€™s a big mistake to take your partnership for granted and assume that the relationship doesnโ€™t require the same kind of care and attention that it did before. If neglect continues for too long, it can be a recipe for disaster.

After several years, itโ€™s easy to take for granted what we used to appreciate. Couples might slide into just being roommates or business partners, or if they are raising children, co-parents. While important, if those roles come to define the relationship, the vital component of being lovers can get squeezed out.

โ€œDo what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there wonโ€™t be an end.โ€

โ€“ Anthony Robbins

Taking time to honor the intimacy component of your partnership can become habit-forming. Try some of these 13, and add your own creative touches to the process:

13 Hacks To Keep Love Alive In Your Relationship

1. Identify which person can help deepen intimacy.

In most relationships, there is one partner who places a higher value than the other on romanceโ€”and itโ€™s not always the woman. Since this person is more likely to notice when the romance is fading, he or she has more power to introduce corrections to foster more closeness and playfulness.

Ways To Keep Love Alive In Your Relationship

They are not solely responsible for keeping an eye on things, but because of their awareness, they are more capable of influencing the depth of your connection.

2. Keep dating each other.

Dates arenโ€™t exclusively for young lovers; they can be magic for couples who have been together for a while. Leaving the home provides a change of scenery and enlivens things for both partners. But staying home for a date can be fun, too; you can have dinner by candlelight, for example.

Consider making dates a regular feature of your relationship. They donโ€™t have to be limited to a few hours on an occasional evening; they can last an entire day, weekend, or longer.

3. Go on a second (or third) honeymoon.

Honeymoons (without the kids, of course) arenโ€™t just for the newly married. Taking one every year is not too much. Lots of people (including ourselves) make a tradition of this practice.

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4. Unplug.

Designate what we refer to as โ€œsacred timeโ€ and create a tech-free zone which will assure you that there will be no interruptions to intimacy. Then, enjoy it.

โ€œDonโ€™t assume your partner knows about everything you expect in a relationship. Let them know. A relationship should be based on communication, not on assumptions.โ€

-Turcois Ominek

5. Pour a hot bath together.

Some delightful ways of spending an evening together donโ€™t cost anything. Going into the tub with each other (by candlelight, of course), followed by more candlelight in the bedroom, is sure to enhance the spirit of romance.

6. Serve each other.

Take turns being in service to each other. You can bathe each other and wash each otherโ€™s hair. You could shave his face and he could shave your legs.

7. Feed each other.

Ways To Keep Love Alive In Your Relationship

Agree beforehand to feed each other every forkful of a meal. We know some couples who have done this in restaurants, often to the surprise of other diners. Sit across the corner of the table so you can be close to each other. (Feeding each other also slows down the rate at which you eat, which is a good way to lose weight.)

8. Gaze into each othersโ€™ eyes.

Spend time being connected through your eyes only, without the need to exchange words. While this may seem a bit awkward at first, after a few minutes youโ€™ll begin to settle into the experience and you may begin to experience some surprisingly delightful feelings.

9. Dance in private.

After dinner, you can listen to music together, and might even want to dance. If youโ€™d prefer privacy, try dancing with your partner in your own living room or bedroom. (Another big advantage of dancing in your own home is that you can take your clothes off. Youโ€™ll know for sure that you are not roommates or business partners when youโ€™re dancing nude!)

โ€œEvery relationship is work.โ€

โ€“ Bill Hader

Related: The โ€œGolden Ruleโ€ for Exhausted New Parents to Keep the Romance Alive

10. Give each other massages.

Massage is another great way to keep love alive. You donโ€™t need a massage table or fancy scented oilsโ€”and you donโ€™t have to be a professionally-trained masseuse or masseur to bring a loving touch.

11. Read poetry together.

Reading love poems to each other brings sweetness. If you enjoy the exotic, consider poetry from Rumi, Hafiz, or Kabir.

12. Hide love notes for your partner to find.

Love notes stuck in books, under plates and pillows, and in the underwear drawer are sure to draw smiles of appreciation.

13. Speak the language of love to each other.

โ€œUltimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.โ€

โ€“ Oscar Wilde
Ways To Keep Love Alive In Your Relationship

Last, but not least, is the way lovers talk the romantic talk. It needs to be sincere, intimate, and full of feeling from the heart.

These emotional interchanges are the main meal of our relationships; sex is the dessert (and itโ€™s non-fattening). Taking time to make sure that the intimate aspects of our relationship are thriving works wonders for the partnership and our lives as a whole. Trying something new can promote more thrills and excitement than anxiety if we are mindful of the ways we approach change.

The loversโ€™ aspect of our relationships thrives when we enjoy the art of bringing pleasure to each other. Additionally, we receive the added benefit of all those health-enhancing hormones running through our bodies that promote happiness and wellbeing.

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There are many ways to keep a relationship alive โ€“ learning new things together and communication is one of them. Try these hacks if you want to keep romance alive with your partner. And if you have more ideas then share it with us in the comments below.


Written by Linda and Charlie Bloom
 Originally appeared in Psychology Today
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