Optical illusions are awesome. They can show us much about the workings of the brain and even reveal aspects of our personality. What you instantly perceive gives you an idea about what your unconscious holds. It could give away crucial information about your past, your innermost desires, fear, and conflicts. Have a look at these pictures below, what do you see first?
Do not take too much time or overthink it. Your answer is what you saw at a glance. Do not spoil the fun. Play on.
Do you think it described your personality well? Let us know.
Are you trying to heal yourself for a long time, but to no avail? Zodiac spiritual healing might just be the thing you need!
Astrology and zodiac signs have always played a big role in our lives and in our journey of self-discovery. The astral placements and transits do have an important influence on our personality and behavior.
And it doesn’t end there! Our physical, mental, as well as emotional health get shaped by our zodiac placements. And this is where zodiac spiritual healing comes into play!
To accomplish zodiac spiritual healing, you need to tap into your zodiac energy and leverage this knowledge to address any recurring emotional disharmony or physical symptoms of disease or ailments.
So, basically, zodiac spiritual healing or any kind of zodiac healing is all about how to heal yourself based on your zodiac sign.
Based on your zodiac traits, you will be able to achieve a holistic recovery that will encompass your physical healing, emotional healing, and spiritual healing. You will be able to heal yourself from the inside out. Sounds interesting, doesn’t it?
Before we get any further into it, we would like to state the obvious first. You should always consult a medical care professional for any health-related queries and not take these suggestions as an alternative to proper medical treatment or diagnosis.
Now, as that’s out of the way, let’s learn how healing zodiac signs actually work!
Zodiac Spiritual Healing: How To Heal Yourself According To Your Star Sign
1. Aries (Mar 21 – April 20)
You are passionate, dynamic, and confident by nature, however, you tend to have a short temper, low tolerance level, and a tendency towards being impulsive, resulting in frequent anger outbursts.
However, you calm down soon and afterward might also feel repentant. All these create intense emotional upheavals within your body and affect your health.
Vulnerable body parts:
Brain
Heart
This can lead to headaches, migraines, accelerated heartbeat, stress, and higher blood pressure when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: The best way to heal yourself is by doing activities that have a calming effect on you, like reading or gardening. Also, take time out for:
You are reliable and determined. However, you can sometimes be inflexible, resentful, and possessive. At times you can be a bit too set in your ways and have trouble adjusting to change. Due to this, you store a lot of tension in your body.
Vulnerable body parts:
Neck
Upper back
Spine
You might manifest upper back issues, muscle pain, and neck problems when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: You need to release the tension and ground yourself more. Nature is very good for everybody’s soul. Mother Earth is never stagnant, and you shouldn’t be either. The best way to heal yourself would be:
consider the viability of other people’s points of view to avoid stubbornness
be aware of the way your actions influence other people
meditation
chanting mantras to surrender your recurring thoughts
practice listening more intently, to understand, not only to reply
You are intelligent, cerebral, knowledgeable, inquisitive, versatile, and lively, but on the flip side, you can also be manipulative, cunning, and inconsistent.
Vulnerable body parts:
Mind and brain
Due to the fact that your mind and thoughts rule your body, you can suffer from anxiety, overthinking, self-doubts, restlessness, scattered thoughts, confusion, and fear of expression, when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: You should try relaxing more and not working yourself up all the time. To heal yourself, try:
You’re caring, intuitive, and nurturing souls, but you tend to struggle with moodiness, touchy-feely situations, and the inability to let go.
Vulnerable body parts:
Heart
Breast
Chest
Your emotional energy manifests as uncontrollable and overpowering emotions, feeling drained or overly sensitive, and the desire to be alone.
You can suffer from breathing problems, coughing, feeling heavy-hearted, sore breasts, and comfort eating when your energy is off balance. So, how to heal Cancer zodiac?
To maintain a balance: It’s a good idea for you to look within, connect with your inner-self, and learn your innermost needs, on a deeper, more intuitive level. Additionally, do try:
You are passionate, courageous, creative, generous, and loyal, however, you tend to struggle with ego problems, self-righteousness, impatience, and temper issues.
Vulnerable body parts:
Heart
Upper back
You can manifest heart complications, difficulty in regulating emotions, attention-seeking, and developing emotional insecurities and insecure attachments when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: You need to do a lot of shadow work and heal your old trauma and dysfunctional behavior patterns. You should also consider the following:
yoga would help open up the heart chakra
dream journaling and penning down your thoughts will help you manage your emotions
communicate your feelings to those you care about
spend quality time doing things you love
avoid spicy and fatty foods as that would weigh you down and imbalance your energy
You are analytical, practical, and diligent people, but you can also be a perfectionist, and be overly critical and fussy.
Vulnerable body parts:
Stomach
Gut and digestive organs
As you tend to worry a lot and always find yourself feeling tensed or anxious, you can develop gut issues like digestive problems, constipation, eating disorders, chronic dieting, and poor digestion.
You tend to overthink and become stubborn with obsessive behaviors when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: You should get out of your mind and into your body. You should try:
hiking or dancing
sleeping should become a priority to rest your mind
be spontaneous and release some of the expectations you have placed on yourself and others
replace your urge to be critical with acceptance and compassion
You are easy-going, romantic, and idealistic, but you can sometimes be gullible, over-indulgent, and indecisive.
Vulnerable body parts:
Liver
Bladder
Heart
Due to your over-indulgent nature and carefree living, you might develop high cholesterol, liver ailments, and bladder-related issues such as infections, and frequent urination.
Emotionally, you can get too independent, avoidant, or too co-dependent when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: You tend to have an artistic soul, so creative channels to manage and express your emotions will help. You can also be a little more disciplined. Try the following:
create lists to help stay organized
music, painting, or any creative pursuit
yoga and meditation to avoid stress
a healthy diet
proper sleep routine
light physical exercises
stay motivated or inspired by reading about spirituality or philosophy
You are passionate, intuitive, and magnetic, yet you also have a tendency to be jealous, resentful, and obsessive. You are always searching for deep and real feelings, as you are not concerned with surface-level emotions.
Vulnerable body parts:
Pelvic region
Pelvic region
If you have a strong interest in physical desire, you could be at risk of developing issues related to intimate health, changes in your desire for intimacy, or fluctuations in your energy. You might also experience feelings of unease, suspicion, or difficulty in building trust with others when your overall energy is out of harmony.
To maintain a balance: If you belong to this zodiac sign, then you can heal yourself by practicing self-calming techniques, such as:
breathing exercises
visualization
meditation
yoga
spending time near water can also help you to recharge
You are honest, good-humored, and philosophical, but you also tend to be blindly optimistic, irresponsible, and restless. You are free-spirited and always ready for boundless adventure.
Vulnerable body parts:
Liver
Hips
Thighs
Due to your nomadic lifestyle, you can struggle with hip or limb problems, liver issues, or even the tendency to over-indulge, when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: You have to be more attentive to your health. Possibly do something different from your regular routine. Try these options:
Sound healing is a great way to travel to new places without even leaving a room
You are humorous, practical, and disciplined people, but you can sometimes be miserly, fatalistic, obsessed, and pessimistic.
Vulnerable body parts:
Stomach
Liver
Kidney
Lungs
Due to the fact that you tend to indulge in toxic coping mechanisms, such as substance abuse or workaholism, you might have issues with vital organs.
You could also end up getting burnout by putting too much pressure on yourself to achieve and take on more work to avoid emotions when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: You should never forget your values and dreams when you are making decisions. Remember happiness is a choice. Try:
letting go of toxic connections
surrounding yourself with vibrant positive people
motivating yourself
eating healthy and forming a healthy lifestyle
doing things that appeal to your heart even if they are not “productive”
diverting attention away from troubling emotions in a healthy manner
You are inventive, free-spirited, and friendly, but you can also be unpredictable, emotionally distant, and argumentative.
Vulnerable body parts:
Nervous system
Throat
Due to the fact that you are always in your head, conceptualizing and planning innovative outcomes, you tend to lose touch with reality.
You often struggle to communicate your emotions effectively when you get overwhelmed. You might also develop feelings of anxiety and panic attacks when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: You should stay true to yourself (authentic). You should bring your ideas to life, while not losing track of the bigger picture. You should:
surround yourself with like-minded people to learn and grow from
have faith in your vision
learn to face opposition with grace
document and track your goals, dreams, and progress
You are extremely sensitive, compassionate, and imaginative, but you also tend to be secretive, weak-willed, and vague.
Vulnerable body parts:
Pineal gland
Heart
You often get the feeling of being all over the place. This could result in being closed off from your spiritual energy or intuition and even love. Imbalances can sometimes also occur during a spiritual awakening when your energy is off balance.
To maintain a balance: You should allow your mind to run free but remember to come back to earth. Getting in touch with your body as well as your soul is very important for you. So, engage your senses, by:
soaking in a tub of Epsom salt.
getting in touch with your spiritual self via meditation
grounding exercises and foot massages can also help
So, that was all on the topic of zodiac spiritual healing. Have you tried zodiac healing stones? What do you think about zodiac spiritual healing? Let us know in the comments down below!
These stories of men being abused by women will make you question your beliefs about abuse. Yes, women abuse men too, and needless to say, it’s equally wrong and disgusting.
No amount of makeup can cover up an ugly personality. We often read stories of women being abused by men but what about the other way round?
The narcissistic woman is every bit as evil as their male counterpart. Until recent times men were reticent about coming forward and admitting to being abused by a woman. Perhaps this has been due to the fear of not being believed. For centuries men have been perceived as the stronger sex.
Admitting to being abused by the fairer sex may have been seen as a sign of weakness. Thankfully this train of thought is changing. There is nothing ‘fair’ about the female narcissist.
If we look at statistics, we will read that there are more male narcissists than females, but surely statistics are only as reliable as the information provided. Mark Twain once said, “Facts are stubborn things, but statistics are pliable.” I am not sure that the statistics in relation to the male/female ratio of narcissistic personality disorder would be an accurate reflection.
How many narcissists actually present themselves to a medical health professional in order to be diagnosed with this unappealing label?
Narcissists tend not to blame themselves for their noxious behavior. They do not hold themselves accountable and shift blame onto others for the very things they do themselves.
I asked men on the Facebook page, Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse, to send me their stories relating what had been done to them at the hands of a female abusive personality.
Below you will find some of those accounts.
Abuse Knows No Gender: Real-Life Examples Of How Women Abuse Men
John’s Story
As with any traumatic relationship I was completely torn apart when my very short one year relationship and engagement ended with my Bi-Polar ex in January 2016.
She was a very violent person who physically threatened me numerous times. I took 15 months off of dating to spend time recovering and trying to find myself. I read many self-help books and books regarding normal relationships and what to look out for when you meet someone.
I thought I had truly found my inner self and could love myself once again. I decided to go on a dating website in March 2017 and explore the option of dating again. After a few normal dates that did not work out for one reason or another I met “JS”. She seemed like a fantastic woman who had a great job as Director of HR for a nationwide law firm. We started to message on the dating app and that quickly turned into exchanging phone numbers to text and call all within an hours’ time or so. She called me that same evening to chat and we decided to meet up at church the next day as we attended the same church.
The second date was just one day after that at a local bar (pub). FAST RIGHT? At this point she said to me that I was her type because there was a certain smell about me that she liked. I went on a work trip to Boston that Monday and Tuesday and when I came home we had set up the third date at her home on Wednesday evening.
I arrived at her home and walked in the front door to see a rifle sitting by the door. I inquired about the gun and she said that her ex had PTSD and she and her daughter were afraid of him. She left him “or so she says” in December or 2016 after Christmas. She also later gave me a story that he walked out her door and ghosted. I told her to put the gun in the closet and she ask me to help her change the locks on the house at some point in the near future.
The dysfunction of the house was noted by me on the first evening there when her 16 year old daughter walked in the living room to ask her a question and JS told her to please not interrupt our conversation, that they would talk later. Elizabeth stormed up the stairs to her room and slammed the door very hard.
Long story short, I went over the next night to watch TV and talk and the exact same thing happened with a little more aggravation on Elizabeth’s and JS’s part. Elizabeth stormed upstairs and slammed the door to the point the house shook. JS went up after her and screamed at her.
I returned to her house with an invite that Saturday late morning. We talked all morning long on the sofa and she was very affectionate to me sharing life stories about her ex’s and family. Sunday was the same experience but with a little more sharing, kissing, and eventually sex. She told me that she was in love with me after only knowing me a week or so and that did make me a little nervous at the time but I quickly overlooked it with the attention and love bombing at the time.
It was wonderful to have someone so interested in me. Really lifted me up and made me feel good. The next night I went over to watch TV and chat and she said that she wanted me to stay the night and that it felt comfortable and convenient having me there. After that night, I do not think I ever slept at my place again except for my daughter’s weekends which were only four to six nights a month.
Soon to follow in July there were many trips planned with her and her daughter to Montana, Kansas City, and Florida for that Christmas. Everything felt so fast but I was swept up in the excitement and attention of it all. Shortly thereafter we started talking about eventually getting married and when we retired moving to Fort Myers.
The lavish gifts started the following week with her buying me anything that I talked about. Expensive backpack for work several $200.00 pairs of dress shoes and so on. I felt so blessed and treated well.
About two months into the relationship something happened that reminded me of turning off a light switch. The emotions and feelings (communication) just stopped. I pointed it out to her and she said that she was just not an emotional type of person and that she liked to take relationships day by day. I found myself asking for reassurance in the relationship on a weekly basis because
I never knew where she stood because of the lack of communication. We hardly ever went out or visited friends at all. The days of attention and normal relationship conversation had stopped and were replaced by a little frustration on my part. By then stories were repeated over and over again with a different ending.
One day I talked to her about feeling lied to and I let her know how I did not appreciate always feeling like I was wrong. That’s the first time she got really upset and asked me to apologize to her, so I reluctantly did.
How could a woman that was so amazing lie to me just about anything over and over and always change the story? I could not understand. I would correct her when she would do it and she would always tell me that people have a selective memory and I just didn’t remember what she said. (I was totally in love with this woman and my memory was always spot on.)
Shortly after celebrating our year anniversary is when the cracks started to appear even more. Her anger got worse when I would remind her of stories that she had told me in the past that had different endings. Things would always change.
I walked by her open computer sitting on the bed one morning while she was getting ready (Gmail was open) and noticed an email from Niteflirt.com. I was shocked so I took it upon myself to type Niteflirt.com in the Gmail search bar and she had been getting messages every week or so for 4-5 years.
At that point I decided that I needed to give her more attention and do more things for her around the house so she wouldn’t have to look elsewhere for it. I would hardly ever get a thank you when doing chores for her or buying her things. It’s almost like she expected it.
She told me that she was not a communication person and that she would never be. She then told me that she would never want to marry me and she would not go and see a counselor about her communication problems. That’s when I told her I had to leave the relationship. I packed my things and walked out the door.
I know this sounds like a lot of rambling with no physical abuse, but the gaslighting and silent treatment that I experienced over the two years just tore me down to a shell. After returning the next Saturday to get my things she told me that she wanted to be friends someday, but she did not think that we should even talk for a long time.
She encouraged me to be mad at her. It was actually funny to hear her say, “You need to be mad at me and I would expect you to hate me for leading you on for two years.” How could a woman that wanted to marry me and retire to Florida just change her mind so fast? It was all very confusing to me until I started reading books on Covert Narcissism. Finally, everything made sense.
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to talk about this and possibly finally be believed and understood. I’m a big guy, 6’5″. She is 5’4″ so of course, everyone thought, ‘How could she get the better of you?’ but she did in more ways than you could imagine. She played me big time. She got into my head and played with my feelings and my mind.
I fell in love with her pretty quickly. She told me of how she had been treated badly by her ex-boyfriends and I had no reason to doubt her. Those first few months were heaven. She said she loved me like no other and I thought I had met my soul mate. I never noticed at first that she didn’t have any friends. I thought that she had been burned by people before and decided to be choosy with the people who she allowed into her life. I was flattered that I was one of the chosen few.
About nine months down the line things started to change. I bought her a handbag. She didn’t seem to appreciate it at the time and tossed it aside. I was hurt and asked her if she didn’t like it. I was berated for buying her a color that she didn’t like and told I should have known that she didn’t like brown. She huffed and hardly spoke to me for the next few days, not answering my texts and calls. Four or five days later she called me and acted like nothing was wrong and the handbag was never seen or mentioned again.
I was so happy that everything was fine between us again. That was my first experience of the silent treatment. Of course, it happened again and again over the next seven years and as you said in one of your articles on the silent treatment, every one of those episodes lasted a little longer than the one before. I never knew what I had done to annoy her to bring on these periods of silence.
I tried endlessly to talk to her, ask her what was wrong but was ignored until she saw fit to talk to me again. Throughout our years together she managed to cut me off from my friends, criticizing them and telling lies about them. Foolishly I had believed her. It was only when I started to read about narcissism that I realized the type of person I was dealing with. I was a shell of the man that I used to be and I finally woke up to the fact that it was all down to her.
I went to a therapist who confirmed what I had thought. I knew that staying with her would destroy me so the last time she gave me the silent treatment I returned the favor. I am sure she expected me to try to contact her, to try to put things right again but I’d had enough. I couldn’t take it anymore.
It hurt so bad but I knew it was the right thing to do. I’ll admit that as a mature man I was devastated. I read up on narcissism for months and months hoping to find something that would make me think I was wrong, that I should give her another chance to change her destructive behavior but deep down I knew that she would never change. She moved on to another man and she has done exactly the same thing to him.
I have PTSD and am still seeing my therapist but I’m getting there slowly but surely. I have never dated anyone since and to be honest, I don’t think I ever will. I am content on my own, no more walking on eggshells. People need to realize that men can be victims too.
Doug’s Story
I had been attacked by my ex-wife several times before I finally called the police on her. What came of that was I wound up being charged with domestic violence because she gave a false statement to them. The last time I defended myself (yes, defended myself, she threw punches at me and I pinned her down to stop her) and she told the police I pinned her down for no apparent reason.
So I served six months of probation because I took the plea bargain, I didn’t want to lose in a trial by jury and lose my job. Counseling helped, I still think about it but not as much. I went through this in the fall of 2016, started divorce proceedings during my probation, and divorced her in May of 2017. I’m glad to have never seen her since, I’ve been single since then.
I’m an ex-doorman. My partner for over 3 years accused me of cheating all the time. I got accused of cheating with people on my Facebook and Instagram so I took all my female friends off social media. I gave up my job to make her happy. I couldn’t do right from wrong.
Constantly getting accused. I finished my day job, gave up my pension and stability because she said that she wanted a child with me. I got a higher-paid job. Then 2 weeks later she decided she didn’t want a child. I sacrificed everything for her and she still wasn’t happy.
Always picking faults and always comparing me to her ex. I felt like I lived in his shoes. In the end, it finished about 2 months ago. She wanted friendship, I didn’t. She kept playing the head games. I had enough and took her stuff to her house.
A few days later I had the coppers at the door. (For me harassing her.) Wtf. But the weirdest thing is I still can’t get her out of my damn mind. She damaged my self-worth and my confidence. I second guess myself. I’ve even had to start counseling for it.
This lady has always been perfect to me with all her flaws and I always told her that I feel like every relationship I’ve been in I’ve attracted partners with problems and feel like I’ve got to help in one way or another. I know I’m a sincere and compassionate person and I know, when I’ve been pushed, I can become a people pleaser. I know I’m a strong-minded person.
Is that a strength people can see or a weakness they can see?
Is that why I attract people with problems?
How can I hide that if it is a weakness so it can’t be used against me?
I know I used to have a lot of friends and I know they used me for their own benefits so I decided not to have friends. I feel happier in myself that I don’t have friends because I know I can’t get used again. I know I had to sacrifice myself for her to get help because she wouldn’t get help while we were together.
She says that she is getting help now that we have split. I’m happy she has taken that step because I know that if we were still in a relationship, she wouldn’t have taken that step. It hurts, what has happened and I had to sacrifice my own future with her so she could get help and have a better life and not live in her past anymore. I didn’t want to leave but the accusing and assuming were pushing me away.
Groot’s Story
About five physical assaults, all in the chest by elbows or punches. Still doesn’t make sense really. Financially, mostly everything in the relationship always seemed to fall on me there too. I enabled that too I guess. So my visa is just screwed. Emotionally, a lot of belittling, and snide remarks that seem irrelevant or harmless and “joking” but really were taxing. Mentally, the “crazy-making” amplified an otherwise well-managed depression and anxiety disorder, created a lot of mistrust and gaslighting.
How it all affected me? I got run down. My entire narrative became fixate with obsessive rumination of a pretty cookie-cutter victim mentality mixed with Stockholm syndrome. My physical health declined. Suicide became a recurring idea as an actual option.
I was kind of a shell for a good two and a half to three years after the four-year relationship. It felt like it boiled over and completely turned me into a profoundly weak and shattered person like my sense of self, my sense of efficacy.
My inner dialogue, my inner narrative felt like it was competing with itself to lose. And I got stuck there. So, financially exhausted beyond my means, emotionally unstable, confused, absent, self-absorbed, depressed, that was the worst.
Mentally disoriented and foggy for so long and not even present in my own everyday life. And I hid from the world in plain sight. I have PTSD I guess now and still focusing on recovery. So how it affected me? It felt like someone stole my essence you know. In a sense, in a weird Jungian twist, looking over the brass tacks of it, it was like I became a reflection of her true ego.
A fractured, fragile, little person you know? I didn’t externalize it as narcissism but she has psychologically wounded my spirit man. The backhanded remarks and seemingly irrelevant comments I can still hear sometimes. Those were the worst and most corrosive to my sense of self.
I currently got discarded by my girlfriend of two and a half years. I knew there was an underlying issue with her after apparent depression and suicide attempts so I researched. I was not even aware of the meaning of narcissist/sociopath or psychopath/BPD. I have never read anything that is so dead on with all of everything, I mean word for WORD!
It’s really too bad, I had been so brainwashed, I thought it was all me. She made me leave all of my friends while she kept hers in a separate life. It’s so confusing how I still even hold feelings for this woman. I hope the best for her supplies.
It scares me because she just moved her mother into the spare bedroom in the new house she just bought and also her 19-year-old daughter in the basement apartment. I stuck with her throughout all her stress and drama, selling her home she built with her ex-husband.
Renovations at the cottage, let my own home go almost abandoned because she required me to be with her. I helped her move everybody in and out of their old places to new ones. I was always hoping that things would wind down once the stress was gone.
Wrong: Once I had done everything she completely left me, blocked me from everything. Now I found out she is with a woman that had been dating her best friend. She kept me around until things got settled. She invited me to a magic show and dinner in town with her daughter and her friend probably because she knew I’d pay for dinner was so affectionate.
Once we got to her place she started an argument over nothing and said I’d better leave. I went to leave and she said I could sleep on the couch or her bed. I was tired of getting kicked out numerous times, out for just standing up for myself (recently I have started) and went home. That didn’t go over so well. She was used to me kissing ass to just enjoy the night without drama.
I am currently recovering from the “abuse” and it’s really hard. I have been told over and over that I am a huge empath. This is the most confusing thing I have ever dealt with in my entire life. Even after writing this I feel guilty judging her as I am not qualified to do so and I don’t know whether or not to believe she knows or not.
That is the reason I had stuck around for so long. I feel I had seen the good part and feel it’s still in there somewhere but the more I read I’m thinking it all was her game. I can’t believe how people actually do these things. I really feel for her because I think everybody has a right to be happy but I don’t think she ever will be now that I am more educated. I really need help and I think that this may be my opportunity to get it all out. The things I could write down are endless. It is really hard to believe how I stuck around and let myself get beat to a pulp physically and mentally.
I can’t wait for time to heal these wounds. I am so disturbed with myself. Why is it so hard to recover from this sort of person?
Anonymous Writes
I was in a seventeen-year-long relationship, three of which were dating. It started in high school, and I didn’t know what a narcissist was, much less that people could be that evil. I was always told that relationships and marriage were hard work, so I needed to stick it out and stay in the relationship. Church pastors and members encouraged me to not end things, no matter how bad it seemed.
I was in a seventeen-year-long relationship, three of which were dating. It started in high school, and I didn’t know what a narcissist was, much less that people could be that evil. I was always told that relationships and marriage were hard work, so I needed to stick it out and stay in the relationship. Church pastors and members encouraged me to not end things, no matter how bad it seemed.
No one took me seriously, and I resigned to the fact that it’s simply hard work, and this was the way life being married was. I was cheated on so many times, nothing I could prove physically, but multiple times she left me emotionally for other men that I could prove. One time I was so fed up that I actually encouraged her to meet her online fling.
I know now, that she is a covert narcissist. Anytime that I’d catch her, she’d find some way to avoid taking responsibility for her actions, to the extreme of an “attempted suicide”, taking a bottle of pills while at home alone with our then, infant daughter. She simply used this to cover up me finding her the day prior to talking to someone online about their hopes and dreams of their life together, and her carrying his baby. I took a screenshot of her email that she was working on as proof to confront her with.
I felt alone, lost, a roommate, a whipping boy, someone to do her bidding and if I didn’t, I’d get rage or the silent treatment. I saw how she treated others that “wronged” her and would get me to believe that she did nothing wrong, and I ended up being her flying monkey.
Fast forward to the end of the relationship, I had enough, but couldn’t break free. She made me pay for new boobs and a tummy tuck and later found out that this was her way out, getting confidence in her looks to sleep with as many men as possible. It took a friend who knew what she was to break me free of the seventeen-year bond that was there.
Almost six years later, non-stop legal issues with the three children, and the oldest is now estranged from me. She was brainwashed and alienated from me. I attempted to catch her in this with a counselor, psychiatrist, and a guardian ad litem, all of whom were manipulated, and I ended up losing 50/50 visitation with the oldest child to the point I don’t see or hear from her at all.
To this day, I have to guard myself because she could easily manipulate law enforcement into thinking I did something to her, and end up in jail for doing nothing. So there is contact via email only, and there is little to no contact in person unless we can’t help it. She has manipulated doctors and nurses in two instances. My oldest was hospitalized for attempted suicide (just like dear old mommy) and back surgery.
During her stay at the hospital for the back surgery, I was kept away by her mom’s flying monkeys, and the attempted suicide was hidden from me. It took my legal team to contact the hospital’s legal team to let me in the door to see her. I was told my daughter had taken a bunch of old pills but found that was untrue. She had overdosed on cocaine, Adderall, and had marijuana and alcohol in her system.
I recently found a GoFundMe page, begging for donations for this, but under the disguise of some disease that she doesn’t have. My new wife carries insurance for her, and my daughter is not taking anything for this purported disease.
The relationship with the female narcissist in my life can be very confusing and quite difficult to put into words. EVERYBODY Loves her! I loved her, still love her, and have empathy for her. When I attempt to explain it to others, they tell me, “I don’t think you’re being fair. Everybody has a past.” She broke up with her first secret boyfriend, began dating me from within the church, and at the same time was sleeping with a married man. And then moved in with that man and his wife and child.
She became a part of several weekday ministries within the church. After I was burnt a few times, my gut was telling me to move on (at that time I didn’t have all of the knowledge I now currently have). I had decided to go no contact for a year. We still shared the same social circle though. Before that time of ‘no contact’ she had REALLY made it appear to me and others that she and I were dating and developing something good.
I had really cherished our times together. Unbeknownst to me, she was f****** a married man. I had thought, ‘Ahh, she is the one! She is the one that God ordained for me!’ Oh, damn, I was so wrong. I had to question my religion. I had found out later that she had also given that man 20,000 Dollars. She had only known him for one to three months. Within 3 months she and he were shopping for a home together. She had just broken up with her past boyfriend and would show up to the church and lead me on with the love-bombing as if we had a healthy courtship/relationship developing. Woah was I fooled.
Over time I went ‘no contact’ to the best of my ability. Wasn’t quite as familiar with narcissism then. I attempted to date, other girls. It seems that she somehow befriended every girl I had attempted to date. A girl I had asked out because we had similar interests had called me a ‘CHEATER!’ in a very passionate way, when in fact I was single, very single.
I was becoming lonely. I had actually begun experiencing something called “touch hunger”. I began to shower not to wash but to have something against my skin. I needed something to comfort and to stimulate the pressures I was beginning to feel. I had very few hugs and intimacy for a long time. I had decided to date outside of the church. I met a mature lovely woman (maybe I’m wrong) with whom I had shared similar interests. We had gone out on quite a few dates.
Several dates into it I began to wonder if this woman liked me. No kiss, no intimacy, or anything. I began to back off. I was becoming lonelier and desiring a partner and close companionship. This woman had found her way into my social circle. She began communicating with the narcissist.
The covert narcissist invited her out to a group event. Long story short, in a time of weakness, I broke. It was during a transition in my life. I began dating the narcissist. Within two weeks, she was talking about marriage. The married man’s stuff was still at her house. Turns out the mature woman did like me. I acquired an std from the narcissist.
Anonymous Writes
I would like to say thank you so much for all your work that you have done to help people understand what NPD is and give them tools to recover. My story is like a short journey into what happened when I met the love of my life and discovered that she was a narc. She is diagnosed with borderline/bipolar 2 but I realized after some time that there’s more to it than that. She is fifty years old and has been in a DBT treatment recently but has not handled it well.
It made her worse in many ways coz she used it to hide behind instead of reflecting on her own behavior. I suspect that she has fooled her therapists in a smart way and played the victim card. Coz as we all know they are experts in acting. And she has her monkeys plus talking shit about all her exes and they are many.
Still she has contact with all of them just as “friends” by the way. When we used to talk it was all about her and nothing about me. And if I tried to say that I felt bad about the things she did to me, she would reply quickly with a short, “Not my problem. It’s you who are sensitive and pathetic.”
It was and still is hell to realize her total lack of empathy. I became her sex toy and it was really nice. I would be lying if I said it was not. But she used it to control me over time. So off and on for five years, love and pain in a twisted dance. And now I’m trying to recover but the hurt and cuts inside are very deep… I trust no one and look for the signs in everyone I meet.
I cry a lot and feel so empty inside. But I’m on my way to becoming myself again, slowly doing the gray rock. I became like her I realized in the end and that was a painful insight coz I always try to think of others and feel for them but in the end, I was cold to all the people around me. Nothing matters when you’re down and sad.
I drank a lot and got laid off from work. I dated and it was not one of the things I’m proud of then. I hurt a girl who loved me and I’m ashamed of that.
I was thinking a lot of ending my life but my inner voice saved me from that. The hard part is that you have no one who can understand why I stayed for so long and try to help her get better. (Mission impossible) So I’ve lost friends and family members who think I’m stupid for having loved her at all.
Anonymous Writes
In my case, I had worked in a well-known bank for some eight years and in a variety of functions. My latest position had been my favorite and the most rewarding, but we had recently experienced some staff turnover, and the incoming colleagues replacing those of mine who had left displayed incompetence and a lack of professionalism the likes of which I had never seen in my entire professional life.
This meant that, instead of doing the job I loved and focusing on quality and a great customer experience, most of my day was spent on damage limitation, not unlike bailing water out of a sinking ship while your teammates are drilling holes in the hull. Combined with a general managerial disinterest in our team’s activities, it wasn’t long before I started looking for a position elsewhere within the organization. When a former manager of mine mentioned that another department was recruiting and that my background was a good match, I jumped at the opportunity.
Introductory interviews with the manager of that other department were soon set up. These were fairly informal since it would be an internal transfer, so my employee transcript was freely available, and it was taken as given that I knew the ins and outs of the bank, both in terms of systems and procedures, and in terms of people and departments.
Unlike my previous managers, who had tended to be pure products of the organization or specialists in operations or controls, this new manager was a high-profile expert in her field, and the type whom journalists and news networks occasionally approached for informed commentary.
My knowledge of the workings of the bank, combined with my quite respectable language skills and academic achievements, came across well, and rather than finding myself in an interview situation in which I had to sell my skill-set to a prospective employer, it almost felt like this new manager was courting me: singing my praises, waxing lyrical over my CV, expressing amazement that “someone of my caliber” had spent “so much time” in “dead-end jobs”, and promising me significant promotions and pay increases.
Being thoroughly fed up in my then-role and with my then-colleagues, I took the bait, and within a couple of months, was installed in my new function.
The job itself was challenging on several levels. First of all, although I had been nominally hired as a “business manager” (in itself a title so vague as to be almost meaningless), I found that there was no exact precedent in the organization for what was expected of me, my responsibilities falling somewhere between project management and IT support/development, neither of which I was versed in.
As my manager was herself a new appointee (the previous manager—and the entire team—has resigned and left the bank some months previously), the majority of my initial work was essential “continuity management”: painstakingly going through the records of the past, so as to maintain a semblance of Business As Usual, while myself learning those procedures and attempting to update them to the new team’s requirements. In this, I achieved a measure of success; not as a self-congratulatory self-evaluation, but gleaned from the appreciative remarks I received from several higher-ups.
The red flags started after perhaps three months, corresponding, coincidentally, to my notice period. At first, there was the occasional odd remark from my manager (addressed to me or to colleagues) or questionable conversations I might overhear, as I was seated right next to her.
While she made good on her promise of a pay increase (and later on, of a promotion), when she told me, without a trace of humor, “Take the time to get to know the activities and procedures really well, because, by year-end, your honeymoon period will be over,” I did wonder what I had signed up for. Given that I wasn’t exactly spending my days hob-knobbing with colleagues at the water cooler, but was instead of putting in nine or 10 hours of hard graft a day, I wasn’t sure how that could be described as a “honeymoon period”.
It wasn’t an exaggeration, though.
Questionable, inappropriate, and frankly unacceptable incidents came thick and fast. She was not stupid; she systematically reserved her worst behavior for private settings behind closed doors, or for brief tête-à-têtes while on a lunch or cigarette break, where there were no witnesses.
On more than one occasion, I overheard her on the phone with Human Resources, wanting to fire an employee for not having done things the way she wanted, or for having failed to show adequate deference, the poor HR employees being in the unenviable position of having to stand their ground, explaining that what the manager was suggesting amounted to unfair dismissal, and that she would likely get the bank hauled in front of an employment tribunal.
In meetings, she would regularly denigrate other employees’ comments and suggestions, and during telephone conference calls, rather than being encouraging, fostering discussion, or leading by example, she would often resort to bullying tactics, quite literally shouting orders rudely down the phone. These conference calls at this point could have upwards of 20 participants, mostly middle and senior managers worldwide, so her behavior was no longer even on the down low, but more of an open secret.
It was an open secret, known to those in our immediate sphere of activity, but also (I would later discover) known to Human Resources, who maintained a “blacklist” of problematic managers, not that it did much good. Although her abusive behavior was known to us, it wasn’t tolerated. She was essentially the bank’s global head of activities for our area, so the abuse was that much harder to counter than had it been coming from someone on the same hierarchical level. Instead, the period during which I was there saw probably the highest staff turnover in recent memory, outside of any actual organizational restructuring.
Increasingly, being the closest thing to her right-hand man, I also became the subject of much of her ire, even though I was regularly assured by colleagues, with some sympathy, that I was doing a sterling job. Note at this point that I was already incapable of telling whether I was really doing a good job myself, as my sense of validation, understandably, but in this case, toxically, was based on feedback from someone I’m quite happy to define as a malignant narcissist.
In team meetings, my comments would be derided and denigrated in front of everyone, the insinuation being that I had nothing of value to contribute, and leading to much post-meeting commiseration from appalled and well-intentioned colleagues. In bullying fashion, and perhaps in an attempt at some “good cop, bad cop”, she would try to commandeer my workstation, so as to send rude and wholly inappropriate emails to her underlings from my email account, forcing me to physically shut down my computer. On a couple of occasions, I witnessed her being (mildly) taken to task by her senior colleagues or her own managers, but it did no good.
By the end, I was living in a liminal nightmare scenario of constantly being made to feel inadequate and incompetent, contrasted with the positive feedback I continued to receive from colleagues, all the while pulling 10-hour days, with this monster sitting next to me, for 18 months. My sleeping and appetite were affected, with friends outside work commenting that I looked positively gaunt; I was drinking too much by way of self-medication; and ultimately, I suffered two nervous breakdowns, not just while working for her, but literally at the workplace.
I took some much-needed holiday time one summer. Two weeks, but it was barely enough to recover from the psychological abuse. My manager had already planned to take two weeks off immediately after me, so I fancied I’d essentially have four weeks of breathing space and comparative normality.
That didn’t happen. The very day I got back, I was subjected to ongoing and almost daily emails from my manager (while she was on holiday) enumerating what she saw as all of my failings and incompetence. (For the record, until this posting, I had a stellar employee record.) I saw these emails more as a reflection of her frustrations and panic at being left alone without me to do her bidding, but by then I had already reached a breaking point.
I decided that I couldn’t (or wouldn’t face her again), and wouldn’t even wait for her to return from her holidays. I did my work as per usual, tied up some loose ends, and took my leave on a Friday lunchtime for a wisdom tooth extraction (this was actually true, not a ruse). I then consulted my GP and told him all that had transpired, and he put me on sick leave so that I didn’t have to return to work.
This sick leave was extended for a period of three months (after my GP, it was granted by a psychiatrist I started seeing, in combination with a psychotherapist specialized in work-related PTSD). During my official absence, my manager tried to contact me several times (which is technically not allowed), leaving voice messages imploring me to contact her. I did no such thing.
I then started receiving calls and voicemails from colleagues who had never previously contacted me, so it became obvious that she was trying to get me to contact her in a roundabout way, perhaps not unlike police trying to track a line when they’re on the phone with a hostage taker. It sounds paranoid, and perhaps it was, but at that stage I believed her to be capable of anything.
The bank belonged to those companies that had had their share of regulatory and employee woes; there were quite literally legal practices in town that specialised in the fall-out from employees taking the bank to court. I think this bank was eager to avoid legal action, as I could certainly have made a case, and they were already aware my manager was a problem for them.
Instead, my contact with them was limited exclusively to HR managers (they no doubt informed my manager of this, too), and they offered me a generous severance package, along with an excellent letter of recommendation (signed by my manager, through gritted teeth, I imagined).
I spent a total of six months in therapy, recovering my sanity, my sleep, and my health, after which I moved to Berlin for a month, both for the language experience (languages being my first love), and to have a real holiday, away from the looming prospect of working with a pathological narcissist, and looking forward to writing a new chapter in my life.
My experience in therapy and the insights it gave me was an incredibly positive one and inspired me to take university short courses both in philosophical logic (constructing and deconstructing arguments, learning about logical fallacies), and in psychology, where I focused on abnormal psychology, specifically.
I don’t think one ever really completely gets over such an experience. Perhaps the best that can be hoped for is the day you no longer think about your abuser, not as a result of repression, which is unhealthy, but because you’re as over your abuser as you can hope to be, and they no longer have a hold on your emotional and psychological processes—or at the very least, when you do think of them, the thought is no longer a trigger for distress. That, I think, is when you’re free, and at present, I’ve rarely been happier.
The woman who abused me from an early age was none other than the woman who brought me into this world, my dear beloved mother! A mother in name only.
My dad left her after I was born. It was my fault that he left. She used to tell me that if I had never been born, he would still be around. I didn’t know any different.
My brother was five years older than me. My mom gave him all the love she had and there was none left for me. I was the accident, the disappointment she wished she never had. My brother never did anything wrong so she allowed his friends to the house and I had to go to my room. I was always the cause of her embarrassment and never did anything to please her so she wouldn’t let my friends come round.
I grew up believing that I was not good enough. I tried hard at school hoping that she would be proud of me but she never was. If I did something that displeased her she would acknowledge me at all. I used to go to my room and cry wanting her to hear me and show me the love that she gave my brother. I waited and waited but she never came. Why would she? I was hard to love, so she said.
I couldn’t wait to grow up and leave home and I did as soon as I was working and earning a wage. She tried to make me feel guilty for leaving and said that I should stay and help her and pay her back for raising me. I believed I owed her something and sent her money every month. When I met my wife, we were saving hard and I told my mom that I wouldn’t be sending her money any more.
I told her that I was getting married and was saving for our home. The verbal assault was something else. It was hard to listen to her rants about how she was sorry that I had been born. I figured out then and there that I owed her nothing more.
I hung up the phone, wished her a nice life, and have never spoken to her again. I don’t feel guilty for cutting her out of my life. I did for a while and went to therapy. The support from my therapist and my wife helped me see that her presence in my life was toxic for me. I still have feelings of low self-worth at times but my therapist is helping me deal with those. I know that years of conditioning me to believe I was worth nothing played with my mind and cemented those feelings in my brain.
Jason’s Story
My second ex-wife and I had been friends for several years. We met at work, which was the inpatient cancer unit of a pediatric hospital. You would think anybody who can do that kind of with is automatically a good person, but that’s not the case.
I had to quit working shortly after we started dating after years of battling chronic illness. I have severe fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, depression, and anxiety. We were still in the love-bombing phase, and she vowed to support me and stand at my side, and I believed her.
Her mask started to crash around the time we got married. She began to have angry outbursts that scared me. After we married, her mask came off altogether. The sweet, seemingly empathetic person I had known disappeared and was replaced by a sarcastic, critical, raging monster. Most of the emotional and verbal abuse took place behind closed doors.
She was charming to coworkers, friends, and frankly, but vicious behind their backs. She would crack sarcastic jokes putting me down all the time.
She would constantly deride and belittle me, as well as others. There were days where I would be incapacitated in bed, literally shaking with fibromyalgia pain, and she would stand over me screaming and cursing at me. Her former admiration of me was replaced with resentment and contempt.
She had no interest in listening to anything I had to say, but expected me to listen to her whenever she wanted to spew venom. She isolated me from family, friends, and finances. She knew stress made my condition worse, but she did not care. She would storm around the house throwing things and slamming doors. Her rage was unpredictable and terrifying. Her own children were afraid of her, but when I would try to advocate for them, she would rage at me and deny all the abuse.
The stress from the abuse became so bad that I began having seizures. I felt like I was on the verge of a stroke, and my doctors told me that was a very real possibility. I reached out to some friends she had isolated me from, and they believed I was experiencing narcissistic abuse and was in an abusive relationship. I planned my escape over the course of three weeks.
The day I left, she was at work and the children were with their father. I had to gather seven boxes of DVDs to sell to Movie Trading Company to get enough gas money to drive thirteen hours cross country to my parents. I have never been so scared in my life. I had to pack up my car and grab my car, and do all of this while literally shaking with Fibro pain and fatigue, and under the weight of anxiety that she might come home early from work.
I made it to my parents that night with $12 left, with my cat, and with my life.
Life since then has been hard. I have been diagnosed with PTSD from all the trauma. She was vicious and nastier than ever after I left. She had blocked communication with my stepdaughters and is trying to poison them against me.
I fell into another relationship shortly thereafter with my childhood sweetheart, whom I had known for twenty-five years. She ended up being a covert narcissist who used me and my family and threw us away like trash. I am devastated. I am in therapy trying to break the cycle of abusive relationships I’ve been living, trying to heal, and trying to learn to love myself again.
Narcissistic abuse is terrifying, powerful, and insidious. It sucks your soul dry, destroys your health, ruins your finances, shatters your mind, and erases your value and sense of self. And it knows no gender. The road to recovery is long and arduous. Trauma bonding makes you miss the narc, in spite of what they did to you, and feel like you’re going through drug withdrawals that are so painful that I wanted to commit suicide just to escape the pain.
I’m slowly beginning to heal, but sometimes feel I will never escape this trauma. Thank you for bringing awareness to this issue.
The subject of men being abused by women is very real and something that needs to be addressed by society in general.
Police, legal professionals, and the court systems need to recognize different perspectives in relation to emotional abuse. Men need to talk about abuse without the fear of not being believed simply because of their gender.
Let go of the notion that admitting to being abused is a sign of weakness.
On the contrary, talking about abuse is a sign of strength. It is not easy talking about what has been done to you especially if you hold the belief that your story will be dismissed. So come on guys, let’s talk about this. Let’s get this information out there. Change your mindset. Make this a topic that is no longer taboo.
Let’s get men being abused by women out in the open.
Want to know more about abuse against men? Check this video out below!
Some Little Known Laws of Karma: Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly. This returning force may be modified, changed, or suspended, but most people will not be able to eradicate it.
This law of cause and effect is not a punishment but is wholly for the sake of education or learning. A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will suffer only if he himself has made the conditions ripe for his suffering. Ignorance of the law is no excuse for whether the laws are man-made or universal.
So, what are the 12 laws of karma? To stop being afraid and to start being empowered in the worlds of karma and reincarnation, here is what you need to know about the laws of karma buddhism.
12 Universal Laws of Karma That Will Change Your Life
1. The Great Law
– “As you sow, so shall you reap”. This is also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect”. – Whatever we put out in the Universe is what comes back to us. – If what we want is Happiness, Peace, Love, Friendship… Then we should BE Happy, Peaceful, Loving, and a True Friend.
2. The Law Of Creation
– Life doesn’t just HAPPEN, it requires our participation. – We are one with the Universe, both inside and out. – Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state. – BE yourself, and surround yourself with what you want to have present in your Life.
3. The Law Of Humility
– What you refuse to accept, will continue for you. – If what we see is an enemy or someone with a character trait that we find to be negative, then we ourselves are not focused on a higher level of existence.
4. The Law Of Growth
– “Wherever you go, there you are”. – For us to GROW in Spirit, it is we who must change – and not the people, places, or things around us. – The only given we have in our lives is OURSELVES and that is the only factor we have control over. – When we change who and what we are within our heart our life follows suit and changes too.
– Whenever there is something wrong in my life, there is something wrong in me. – We mirror what surrounds us – and what surrounds us mirrors us; this is a Universal Truth. – We must take responsibility for what is in our life.
6. The Law Of Connection
– Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the Universe is connected. – Each step leads to the next step, and so forth and so on. – Someone must do the initial work to get a job done. – Neither the first step nor the last are of greater significance, as they were both needed to accomplish the task. – Past-Present-Future they are all connected.
7. The Law Of Focus
– You can not think of two things at the same time. – When our focus is on Spiritual Values, it is impossible for us to have lower thoughts such as greed or anger.
8. The Law Of Giving And Hospitality
– If you believe something to be true, then sometime in your life you will be called upon to demonstrate that particular truth. – Here is where we put what we CLAIM that we have learned, into actual PRACTICE.
– Looking backward to examine what was, prevents us from being totally in the HERE AND NOW. – Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, and old dreams prevent us from having new ones.
10. The Law Of Change
– History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.
11. The Law Of Patience And Reward
– All Rewards require initial toil. – Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil. – True joy follows doing what we’re supposed to be doing and waiting for the reward to come in on its own time.
12. The Law Of Significance And Inspiration
– You get back from something whatever YOU have put into it. – The true value of something is a direct result of the energy and intent that is put into it. – Every personal contribution is also a contribution to the Whole. – Lackluster contributions have no impact on the Whole, nor do they work to diminish it. – Loving contributions bring life to and inspire, the Whole.
So, these are all the karmic laws of Buddhism, or the 12 laws of karma, if you please. Which one did you resonate with the most? Let us know your thoughts in the comments down below!
With plethora of optical illusions sweeping on the internet, these puzzles are bizarre yet so interesting to solve. So, here’s the coffee bean optical illusion – a latest brain teaser for you.
The optical illusion challenges its players to find the man in the coffee beans, the faces of three ladybirds and three babies’ faces, and a famous person inexplicably hidden among a pile of coffee beans.
So can you spot the hidden faces in this “Coffee Bean Man Optical Illusion“? But before getting into the coffee bean puzzle let’s take a look at what brain puzzles like this can do to your brain!
What is the science behind optical illusions?
There are various types of puzzles and brain teasers like this; some of them are crazy illusions that are confusing while some are fascinating and can unlock the intelligence within you.
Scientifically designed logical reasoning puzzles and riddles, such as the “coffee bean man optical illusion,” are ideal methods for taxing, stimulating, and improving cognitive skills while having some fun. These focus on your working memory, which is the foundation for all of our learning, thinking, and problem-solving abilities.
Neuroscientists also point out that mind-teasing, in general, can increase your alertness, improve your memory, elevate your mood, enhance your concentration, and promote clearer and quicker thinking.
These mind teasers are also exciting and fun ways to stimulate the brain, resulting in improved cognitive performance. And the best part is that we have a few of them out here for you to try out!
1. Coffee Bean Optical Illusion: Find The Face Of A Man
Are you a coffee lover? Here’s the optical illusion where all you have to do is, find the face of a man in the coffee beans. This may sound simple but it will leave you scratching your head.
If you take a close look, you will be able to see a face nestled between the beans. But don’t worry we’re here to give you two quick hints before you start this man and coffee beans test:
Concentrate on the picture’s bottom half.
There is one coffee bean serving as the man’s face.
Scroll below for the solution!
Did you know?
Experts say that if you can spot the man in the coffee beans in three seconds, your right side of the brain is more developed than the average person’s. The right part of the brain is fully developed if you find the man between 3 and 1 minute.
And if it takes you between 1 minute and 3 minutes to find the man then the right half of your brain is functioning slowly and you need to eat more protein.
Lastly, even after 3 minutes, you still couldn’t find the face of the man in the coffee bean. Then you have to practice this type of exercise to make your brain stronger! However, there isn’t a lot of evidence to support this claim but a good brain teaser is always fun to solve!
2. Coffee Bean Puzzle: Find The Baby Faces and Bugs
Are you part of the 1 in 10 people who can spot the faces in less than one minute? The puzzle comes after the earlier version. It’s the same rules as the previous one, only last time instead of spotting the face of one man, your goal is to find 3 ladybugs and the faces of 3 babies.
Try it out for yourself!
So, did you find the hidden faces in this image? If not scroll below for the solution.
3. Coffee Bean Optical Illusion: Can You Spot The Famous Face?
Coffee bean or a face? To make this optical illusion we’ve hidden a famous personality in the image and we’re hoping that this little game is instant fun.
Here’s a hint for you: Ever heard of the movie ‘Die Hard’? Well, now you have a clue to solve this puzzle!
Scroll below for the answer.
Were you able to spot all the faces without a minute or did you take more than that? Don’t forget to let us know your score by dropping your answers and thoughts below in the comments!
Do you let your emotions rule over your mind? Maybe it’s in your stars! Find out whether you’re one of the most emotional zodiac signs or not!
We all get emotional at times, albeit some of us are emotional way too much more than the rest. Some are well adept at keeping their emotional side a secret behind a strong exterior of practicality, while others have their feelings near the surface, all the time.
Nonetheless, the way we manage our emotions depends upon our personality and zodiacs say a lot about our personality traits. So, let’s find out who are the most sensitive zodiac signs!
Each zodiac sign tries to deal with emotions in a specific way and it will be an interesting and what we hope, even an insightful read to know how emotional are we according to our zodiac signs. Let’s dig in.
The Most Emotional Zodiac Signs
Find out where you rank in the list of the most emotional zodiac signs!
1. Aries
When it comes to Aries emotions, if they feel something, they would let it out. But before doing so, they would try their best to check whether being emotional will be helpful for them or not. But most of the time, their impulse takes over.
Aries people don’t like to be vulnerable, so they don’t express their hurt, but, when angered, they struggle to keep themselves under control. Arieans do get excited, displeased, and angry rather frequently, and they’re infamous for their outbursts.
Aries natives are very emotional and they tend to express what they feel or it all gets pent up within them, making them snap violently at others.
Taureans are known for their grounded and practical nature, but they are also quite emotional. They tend to have a deep connection with their emotions and can be quite sensitive to the feelings of those around them.
Taurus individuals are known for their loyalty and commitment, and they are often deeply invested in their relationships with others.
When it comes to Taurus emotions, they can be quite romantic and passionate, and they value security and stability in their personal and professional lives.
While they may not always wear their hearts on their sleeves, Taurus individuals can be deeply emotional and are often in touch with their feelings.
3. Gemini
Gemini individuals are known for their quick wit and intellectual curiosity, but they are not typically seen as being particularly emotional. They tend to be more cerebral and logical, and may not always acknowledge their emotional experiences.
However, this is not to say that Geminis are completely devoid of emotion. When it comes to Gemini emotions, they can be quite charming and sociable, and they enjoy connecting with others on a personal level.
They may have a tendency to intellectualize their emotions or hide their feelings, rather than fully experiencing or expressing them, which can sometimes make them seem detached or aloof.
Cancer individuals are known for their deeply emotional and intuitive nature. They tend to be very in touch with their feelings and can be quite sensitive to the emotions of those around them.
They are deeply empathetic and compassionate, and they often prioritize their emotional experiences above all else.
When it comes to Cancer emotions, they can be quite nurturing and caring towards those they love, and they tend to form deep emotional bonds with their friends and family.
However, this emotional sensitivity can sometimes leave them feeling vulnerable and easily hurt. Cancers may also have a tendency to hold onto past emotional experiences, which can make it difficult for them to move on from negative situations.
5. Leo
Generally, Leos want to keep it authentic as they know that there is nothing that can stop them from showing their real selves to the world. It is the best way to be empowered after all.
So, for Leos, expressing themselves emotionally from the beginning is a kind of strength. Plus, sometimes, they would like to reveal something for no reason at all, just to get a reaction.
Leos are extremely passionate and when it comes to expressing their Leo emotions, they don’t hold back. No matter how vulnerable they seem sometimes, they own up to everything.
6. Virgo
Virgo individuals are known for their practical and analytical nature, and they are not typically seen as being particularly emotional.
When it comes to Virgo emotions, they tend to approach the world from a logical and rational perspective.
However, they can be quite sensitive and intuitive, and they may have a strong sense of empathy for those around them. It’s just that they cannot express it.
Virgos may also have a tendency to be perfectionists, and this can lead to an investment in their work or other practical areas of their life, ignoring emotional aspects.
7. Libra
If you have met a Libra, then you will find them to be cold with zero vulnerability. But that is exactly what they want you to believe.
The secret behind Libra emotions is that Libras are one of the most emotional zodiac signs, but they’re not impulsive.
They have firm control over their feelings. Moreover, they have a tendency to overthink and overanalyze. Even though they don’t show it, their emotions and thoughts are in a constant battle inside.
If they are very comfortable with you, they might open up, but before that, be ready to deal with a cold and hardened exterior.
But for a person who overthinks so much, Libra could do well being a bit vulnerable. So now that you know how emotional are Libras, try to be patient with them.
8. Scorpio
Scorpios keep their deepest emotions clamped up in their heart. If you are trying to get to know how emotional are they secretly, then chances are you will never get a clue.
They can hide behind masks and would not reveal anything until and unless you have earned their trust, and that is not an easy job.
For Scorpios, exposing their vulnerabilities will make them feel weak. So, they would rather keep a hard exterior than a vulnerable one. Emotions are a power play for them.
Although you can never be sure about the Scorpio emotions, according to astrology, Scorpios are highly emotional, but tend to be secretive, lest they become vulnerable and lose their upper hand in relationships.
9. Sagittarius
Sagittarius individuals are known for their adventurous and free-spirited nature, and they may not be seen as particularly emotional.
When it comes to Sagittarius emotions, they tend to approach life with a sense of curiosity and optimism, and may not always express their feelings.
They can be quite independent and may have a tendency to avoid getting too emotionally invested in others, preferring to maintain a sense of personal freedom and independence.
However, they can be passionate and enthusiastic, particularly when it comes to pursuing their goals and interests.
Sagittarians may also have a deep sense of empathy and a desire to help others, which can be a source of emotional fulfillment for them.
10. Capricorn
Capricorn individuals are known for their practical and ambitious nature, and they are not typically seen as being particularly emotional.
Capricorns are often focused on achieving their goals and may be willing to sacrifice their emotional well-being in order to reach their objectives. However, they may have a strong sense of responsibility toward those they care about.
They may also have a tendency to be guarded when it comes to expressing their Capricorn emotions, preferring to keep their feelings private rather than sharing them with others.
You will end up getting confused in your quest to figure out Aquarius emotions because they don’t like to indulge in over-displays of emotions.
Aquarius individuals are known for their intellectual and innovative nature, and they may be seen as emotionally avoidant.
They approach relationships with a bit of detachment and objectivity, and may not always be upfront with their feelings.
Just like Sag, Aquarians too prize independence and may avoid people who get too attached to them. Aquarians prefer to maintain a sense of personal freedom and autonomy.
However, they can be passionate and enthusiastic, particularly when it comes to pursuing their personal interests and the causes they believe in. Aquarians may also have a deep sense of philanthropy and a desire to help others.
Among the most emotional zodiac signs, Pisceans are known for their highly emotional, compassionate, empathic, and intuitive nature. They may be highly attuned to the emotions of those around them.
Pisceans can be very sensitive and may have a tendency to absorb the emotional energy of others, which can sometimes leave them feeling overwhelmed.
They are highly imaginative and creative and may use these qualities to express their Pisces emotions in ways that are both powerful and artistic.
Pisces individuals may also have a deeply spiritual or mystical side, which can add an extra dimension to their emotional experiences.
Most To Least Emotional Zodiac Signs
If you want to know who are the least emotional zodiac signs, then here are the emotional zodiac signs ranked from most to least emotional:
Pisces and Cancer
Leo and Aries
Libra
Taurus
Scorpio
Capricorn
Aquarius and Sagittarius
Virgo
Gemini
It’s Always Better To Open Up Some More
It will not be a terrible idea to be a little more vulnerable to the people whom we love. Expressing our emotions is the best way to deal with life. So, as in everything, balance is key when it comes to emotions.
So, are you one of the most unemotional zodiac signs or the most sensitive ones? Leave a comment down below.
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Do you ever wonder how much common sense do you have in this complicated world? Well, now you can test yourself with a fun common sense quiz. The tricky quiz questions will leave you scratching your head. Don’t believe it? Try it out for yourself!
But before you start this logical reasoning quiz, let’s take a look at what exactly is common sense.
Common sense is sound, practical judgment that a person gains through different life experiences. Practical decision-making based on strong knowledge of your culture, surroundings, and people around you and the ability to imagine the consequences of something you do.
Nobody is born with this skill. It simply manifests itself as you grow up! You don’t need any formal training to develop common sense.
It’s not rocket science and can be learned easily by being more mindful and self-aware. Every person is unique and has a varying degree of natural common sense in their personality. Irrespective of the level of your child’s common sense and intelligence, you can still teach him to make most of their abilities and help them develop it wisely and thoughtfully.
Living in present and reflecting on situations before you make decisions, will help you go a long way. It stops us making irrational mistakes and makes it easier to make choices on what to do.
Most of us are so scientific when we think, that our harsh logical reasoning often gets us in trouble. We need to often take things at the face value and not read between lines and past the surface.
Do you get distracted by other irrelevant stimuli while focusing on the target stimuli? Check yourself with this tricky quiz.
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Click start and you will need to answer around 12 questions. After completing all of them you will get to know how much common sense you have.
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Do you think you’re unique? Do you have certain qualities and traits that make you rare and one of a kind? Know yourself with this unique person quiz.
The truth is we are all different in different ways. And this fun personality quiz will reveal exactly what you want to know about your kind of uniqueness.
Stand out in the crowd
“We are all, each and every one, unique in the Universe. And that uniqueness is what makes us valuable.” – James A. Owen
Although some of us may share some similar traits and attitudes, none of us are the same as the other. With a total global population of 7.7 billion people today, all of us think, feel, behave and act differently. You are as unique as the next guy. But makes you so unique? What kind of a unique individual are you? Are you creative? Are eccentric? Are you weird?
You have certain values, lifestyles, and beliefs that are unique to your mindset, attitude, and personality. This makes you different from 7 billion other people around the world. This personality test is specifically designed to reveal what kind of unique individual you are and how you are different from everyone else.
Studies have shown that analyzing images can reveal a lot about our character and personality. When you take part in a visual personality quiz, it unfolds certain beliefs and thoughts that may be hidden in our subconscious mind. It can tell us a lot about our personality traits which may have been a secret to us till now. So if you are wondering what your type of uniqueness is, then this quiz is meant for you.
Take the unique person quiz
This visual personality quiz is specifically designed to help you understand how you are different from others. The way you analyze an image and perceive it’s deeper meaning while taking the test will reveal which hidden aspects of your personality are truly unique. This test will enable you to learn and understand something completely new about your yourself
Simply take the test and look at the images that come up after every answer. After analyzing the images carefully select the most relevant answer from available options. Once you are done, we will provide you the most accurate results about your most unique personality trait. However, you need to keep in mind that this is just a game intended as a fun activity. So don’t take your results too seriously.
You are you. You are a unique individual. You have a unique purpose. You have a unique fulfillment. You have a unique mission in life.” – Lailah Gifty Akita
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Go ahead and take this interesting personality quiz and let us tell you what makes you so unique and different. Don’t think much, take a deep breath and get started. Remember to have fun and answer all the questions honestly. You just might be surprised by the results.
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Everyone’s idea of romance is different, and everyone is unique in their own way when it comes to their flirting styles; in other words, every person has their own signature flirting style. And the interesting thing is your zodiac sign can reveal a lot about that. Yes, how you flirt with the person you like, kind of depends on your zodiac sign. Are you like Taurus who knows romance like the back of their hands? Or are you like Leo who always goes all out with their romantic gestures?
Let’s find out, shall we?
Here Is Your Signature Flirting Style Based on Your Zodiac Sign
1. Aries (Mar 21 – Apr 19)
You take them on exciting adventures.
No matter how many bad relationships you might have had in the past, nobody can compete with you when it comes to your amazing flirting style and romantic moves. Your adventurous moves always create the right impression on others, and that’s why you hardly get rejected by anyone when it comes to flirting. Who can reject you, when you are showing them the time of their lives?
Don’t have anything to do on the weekend? You have already started making plans for hiking and camping in the forest. Can’t sleep at night, no matter how tired you are? You have probably started the car because you know where the 24-hour diner is. There’s not a single dull moment whenever you are around with your passionate, and adventurous personality and spirit.
When it comes to wooing and romancing someone, no one does it better than you, Taurus, and you know it. You don’t believe in sleeping with someone on the first date, nor do you see your crush as a conquest. When you are interested in someone, you prefer to go about it the old-fashioned way, by trying to know each other on a more personal and intimate level.
You want to know them personally and emotionally and try to win them over by romancing them in the right way, and by doing all those things that you know will win you their heart. You are all about love, romance, and sweet gestures!
When you feel romantic about someone, you use your creative side along with your amazing communication skills to flirt with your lover and win them over. Who doesn’t love to enter the room and find surprise DIY gifts just for them? Or probably wake up to a beautiful handmade card? Cute texts are common throughout the day when someone has you as their partner.
What makes you special and unique is your creative way of showing your love for your significant other; your flirting style is truly one of a kind. Being with you means having something sweet and creative to look forward to every day, and you know the best part about all this? Your flirting never gets boring!
You have a subtle and understated way of flirting.
You are an extremely romantic soul, Cancer but you are not quite fond of PDAs. Rather, you choose to show your deep love and your romantic side in a more subtle way, like holding hands, hugging them from behind, brushing your fingers against their face, or kissing them on the forehead whenever you feel like doing so. You are an old soul when it comes to your flirting style and idea of romance.
You are an emotional romantic who is always looking to make the other person feel safe, protected, and loved. This is your signature style of flirting and one where your partner feels like the most special person in the whole universe.
You being the glamorous lion have your own unique moves. According to you, the best way to flirt with someone and win their heart is by whipping up a delicious meal for them with your own hands. That’s why you spend a lot of money on buying the perfect ingredients for the lavish breakfast or dinner you’re going to cook for your special one.
Your flamboyance and efforts make your beloved feel that they are on top of the world. Be it treating them with a delicious breakfast in bed or arranging a romantic candlelight dinner at home, you know how to express your love for them, just in the perfect way.
You give your undivided attention, by being a good listener.
You know how important it is to show your significant other that you care for them, and are always there for them. Being extremely practical and a perfectionist, you express your love by giving them your undivided attention and always try to be a good listener. Whenever they show you something or tell you something, you listen to them seriously, because you know that the best thing you can give your partner is your complete attention.
Being a good listener is one of your most admirable qualities, which makes you an amazing person to be with. This doesn’t just make your flirting all the more romantic and effective, it also makes the other person fall for you very easily.
You call and text them often, and check up on them.
No matter how busy you are, you always make time to call or text your partner to show them that you are thinking about them and missing them. Whenever you feel like you are missing them, you call them up and talk to them; it’s that simple for you. For you, love is simple and so is flirting. You miss them, so you text them. You feel like talking to them, so you call them.
Flirting for you means staying in touch with the person you love, and not letting your ego come in between you both. This is one of the simplest ways of showing your love, and that’s why you always rely on it.
You touch them as they have never been touched before.
You don’t need to adopt any signature move because your touch can do things others have difficulty in doing. Be it stroking their hair or simply holding their hand, your touch generates such sensuousness that they crave to be in your arms. And just a reminder: touch is a significant part of the foreplay. And you know simply how to create those sparks!
But you also know that touching doesn’t always have physically intimate implications. It shows how much you care about the person beside you, and this is your way of showing your love and appreciation for that person. Just because you are touching them, that does not always mean you are looking to get intimate with them, sometimes it’s just your signature flirting style.
You always give thoughtful and meaningful presents.
You’re not materialistic at all and when it comes to expressing your love, you do it from your heart. You love the simplest of things, but also believe in giving meaningful and thoughtful gifts to your significant other. You remember how your partner was careful with her ring on your first dinner date and keeping that in mind, you gave her a jewelry box on her birthday or a beautiful rack to keep all her jewelry.
This is your way to tell them how much their likes and dislikes mean to you. For you, it’s not giving the most expensive gift in the store or the most extravagant one, what matters to you is giving them something that will make them feel special and they will cherish for their entire life.
Capricorn, you have always been a simple and straightforward person in everything you do, and that reflects in your flirting style too. You don’t believe in playing mind games or any sort of other games that have made dating and relationships much more complicated these days. If you like someone, you tell them that directly; you don’t beat around the bush, and you never mince your words.
You might be reserved, but you always believe in expressing exactly how you feel, but you never flirt with anyone you don’t find smart and interesting. Anyone who can pique your interest with their intelligence and class is the one for you.
Being an Aquarius, you always bring something new to the relationship. How? By surprising them! Be it a surprise bouquet of flowers and chocolate or tickets to a short weekend trip, your partner doesn’t know what is coming from you next. Surprising them, and seeing the look of shock and joy on their faces makes your heart sing, and for you, that’s the best feeling ever.
Giving lovely surprises is what makes you tick, and helps you win their heart; this kind of flirting always works, and before you know it, they have fallen head over heels for you, and given you their heart.
Who else can master date nights like the dreamy, creative Pisces? While others get bored of going to the same restaurants over and over again, you have your rooftop decorated with fairy lights for dinner or take your partner to the garden to have dinner under the starry skies. You probably even know where they have special paddleboats for couples.
And for pulling all this off, you don’t need to spend a lot of money because you have your own creative ways of making sure the dates are special and oh-so-romantic. You love love, and anything that is even remotely romantic, so it’s no wonder that you know how to make your significant other feel special.
So these are all the zodiac signs and their flirting styles! Which zodiac sign do you belong to, and what is your signature flirting style? Let us know your thoughts in the comments down below!
The eyes are the windows to the soul. That’s why, when you know how to read someone’s eyes, you can understand what they are thinking. Our eyes can really tell a lot about us.
The eyes play a crucial role in our social interaction. Not only do they enable us to express our thoughts, moods, and emotions, it allows us to understand others as well. Eye behavior can help us read someone’s mind. This is why we make eye contact first whenever we meet someone.
What Eyes Can Tell You
Recent research has found that eyes are truly the windows to the soul as we can access adequate information about someone by simply looking at their eyes.
According to the Reading the Mind in the Eye Test (RMET) study in 2003 by Simon Baron-Cohen and colleagues associates at Cambridge University, U.K., humans have the ability to recognize inner states by observing another person’s eyes. It allows us to “detect subtle individual differences in social sensitivity.”
An article in The Week states, “Human eyes form a bridge between self and other by providing direct access to another person’s inner state.” However, this “phenomenon is unique to humans alone,” it adds.
When you know how to read eyes, you can even determine if someone is lying to you or being honest. According to a 2009 study by Andrea Webb and associates at the University of Utah, a group of participants were asked to steal money and deny it.
Later researchers analyzed two groups – the original group that stole money and another group that did not steal any money. However, the researchers could identify which participants had stolen the money and lied about the theft simply by analyzing pupil dilation.
David Ludden, Ph.D., author, and professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College, explains “We spend a lot of time looking at other people, especially at their faces. We’re also told to look other people in the eye when we speak to them, and we may feel awkward when a person we’re talking to keeps looking away.”
Ludden adds that psychologists Sebastiaan Mathôt and Stefan Van der Stigchel argue in an issue of Current Directions in Psychological Science that the size of our pupils can reveal a lot about the intentions and emotions of others.
This is because “pupil size isn’t under your voluntary control.” We can choose to fake a smile to show interest.We can mimic the motions of a real smile, but our pupils reveal our true emotions and lack of interest.
“The eyes may be the windows to the soul, but the pupils tell a lot about what’s going on in the mind of another person,” adds David Ludden.
How To Read Someone’s Eyes
When we know how to read eyes, unconscious eye movements can help us a lot to understand someone. According to Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), this is known as eye accessing cues.
However, before we can understand how exactly we can analyze eye movements, we need to understand the importance of baselining.
National best-selling author Vanessa Van Edwards explains“The first step to figuring out if someone is lying to you is to find their baseline. A baseline is how someone acts when they are under normal, non-threatening conditions.”
After you have been able to determine a person’s baseline, you can analyze their eye movements and gestures which are mentioned below:
Understanding eye directions
The direction of our eyes can help us determine if someone is lying or being imaginative. Here are some basic natural movements that you can observe and analyze:
1. Upper left (Visual memory)
When someone looks at their upper left, it denotes that they are accessing a memory from the past. It means they are trying to remember something by accessing a visual memory.
When a person is looking upwards towards their right then it means they are trying to construct or create a visual image inside their mind. This denotes that the person is fabricating visuals in their mind to tell a lie. This is a good way to learn how to read someone’s eyes.
3. Lateral left (Sound memory)
Looking in this direction means that the person trying to remember a sound from their past memories, like recalling a joke. This can mean that the person is not being sincere and is simply reciting lines.
4. Lateral right (Sound construction)
Looking at the direction means the person is creating a particular sound in their mind. This eye movement can be observed when someone is making false claims about a conversation they had with another person.
5. Lower left (Inner dialogue)
When we have an internal discussion or debate, we usually tend to look at our lower left. This gesture denotes that someone is engaged in deep thought or self-inquiry or doubt.
6. Lower Right (Kinesthetic/Feeling)
When we try to recall a particular emotion associated with a past experience, we tend to look at the lower right. It denotes that we are digging deep into our emotions to relive the same feelings inside our minds.
When a person’s eyes are looking straight ahead and their pupils are dilated or defocused, then it denotes that their mind is busy accessing sensory information in the fastest possible way.
However, this is usually applicable to right-handed people only. If you wish to observe and analyze a left-handed person, make sure to switch the sides respectively.
Understanding eye gestures
Here are some other ways you can learn how to read people’s eyes to understand what’s going on inside their minds:
1. Eye blocking
When someone is blocking or covering their eyes, then it means that they don’t like what they are looking at. Eye blocking is a strong non-verbal display of dislike. This often happens when someone is repulsed or disgusted by something. Eye blocking is a reaction to discomfort and a powerful manifestation of disagreement and disbelief.
Former FBI Counterintelligence Agent and author Joe Navarro explain, “Eye blocking is just one of the more obvious things that we do. When we are troubled, frustrated, or struggling with something emotionally, our eyelids may also close hard and remain closed, or the eyelids may flutter rapidly as an expression of our sentiment.”
2. Pupillometry
Pupillometry refers to the measurement of pupil size and reactivity. When a person looks at something visually stimulating, their pupils dilate. This can also happen in low light as well. When we like what we see, pupils dilate to absorb more information about the pleasing visuals.
Observing someone’s pupils can help you know if they are aroused and enjoying something or not. Understanding pupillometry is crucial for learning how to read eyes.
3. Squinting
The narrowing of a person’s eyes is often due to emotional or physical pain. Squinting can also denote evaluation, consideration, or tiredness.
However, some people can squint to indicate that they do not enjoy your company or dislike you. Moreover, people may also squint under low light conditions.
Looking at a person or a thing indicates an interest. Gazing is usually considered an intimate activity. We often gaze at someone’s face who we find attractive or interesting.
We can either gaze at their eyes, their face, or have a defocused gaze to look at someone in general. If someone gazes at your eyes, then it denotes romantic interest or love whereas gazing at someone’s body often means lust.
This is why it is important to consider where the eyes of a person are focused. If they are generally gazing at you, then it means they are observing you and your personality. This could also be done in a threatening or insulting manner.
There are mainly 3 types of gazing:
Social gazing
Intimate gazing
Power gazing
5. Sideways glance
This eye movement primarily indicates that the person is uncertain about something or looking for more information about a specific topic.
Author Vanessa Van Edwards explains “If someone is sideways glancing and also has a furrowed brow, it can indicate suspicion or critical feelings. A sideways glance with eyebrows up, on the other hand, usually indicates interest or is a sign of courtship.”
6. Looking down at nose
When a person looks down at their nose while talking to you, then it means that the person believes they are better and superior to you.
This denotes that the person is treating you with disrespect. Vanessa adds “If someone lifts their head and looks down their nose at you, it usually means they feel superior.”
7. Darting eyes
If the eyes of a person dart from side to side then it denotes that they are not comfortable and mentally planning to escape the situation. Darting eyes can also mean feeling insecure in a situation.
If you notice someone exhibiting such behavior while conversing, then it means either they are bored or they feel insecure in the conversation.
8. Persistent eye contact
Another way to learn how to read eyes for emotions is to understand the principles of eye contact. Constant eye contact is a sign of intimidation. It is often made to study the other person and make them feel uncomfortable.
Persistent eye contact between humans and non-humans is also considered an indication of threat and defense. Such eye behavior can also be an effort to deceive someone as it can also be a sign of over-awareness and lying.
This is a sign of discomfort. When a person is trying to avoid looking at you then they may either be hiding something, feeling ashamed or guilty, being dishonest, or trying to deceive you.
They may also be afraid of you or dislike you which is why they avoid eye contact.
10. Blinking
Apart from our instinctive need, blinking can often be influenced by our thoughts and emotions regarding the person we are interacting with. The blink rate can change subconsciously depending on who we are talking with.
If someone blinks over 6-10 in a minute on average while talking to you, then it can denote that the person is attracted to you.
Apart from this, our blink rate can increase when we are stressed or engaged in overthinking. This can also be an indication of lying. However, a single random blink can also denote surprise.
11. Winking
In most cultures across the world, winking is considered to be a form of playful flirting. Winking can also denote that you are teasing or joking with someone as well and is usually a friendly gesture.
However, few Asian cultures do not approve of this eye gesture.
12. Damp eyes
Dampness in the eyes can indicate emotional pain, feeling overwhelmed, and suppressed emotions like sadness, fear, and anxiety. It may also denote that the individual is coping with something mentally and emotionally traumatizing and has cried recently.
Damp eyes may also be a sign of exhaustion. This is a subtle gesture that you need to understand when learning how to read eyes for love.
13. Staring
This occurs when we are focused on something or someone with minimal blinking. By giving prolonged attention to the subject, we denote our interest in it. We may stare with different intentions like deception, affection, and even aggression.
Contrarily, prolonged eye contact may also signify absent-mindedness. When we are lost in deep thought our sight may be fixated on something. In this case, our eyes are defocused and the object of the stare is irrelevant. On the other hand, a short stare may indicate surprise.
“Staring directly into someone’s eyes causes an arousal reaction,” explains Ronald E. Riggio, Ph.D., professor of leadership and organizational psychology at Claremont McKenna College. He adds “How that arousal is interpreted, however, depends on the parties involved and the circumstances. Being stared at by a stranger who appears large or ominous can be seen as a threat and elicit a fear response.”
Reading Eyes To Understand Others
Knowing how to read eyes can be very advantageous for all of us. Eye cues can be an exceptional tool for us to read and understand someone to know if that person is a friend or foe.
“The eyes serve as conduits of information we have relied on for thousands of years. We rely on them because of their accuracy,” adds former FBI Agent Joe Navarro.
When you master the skill of reading eyes, you will be better able to negotiate your way through your social life. It also allows us to communicate and cooperate better with our friends and partners by gaining access to their thoughts and emotions.
Eyes are not just windows into the soul, but also to the mind.
Want to know more about how to read someone’s eyes? Check this video out below!
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Can you know a person by their eyes?
Yes, you can know a person and understand their thoughts and feelings just by looking at their eyes. Eye contact can be highly accurate when it comes to determining emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, and even love.
Can you see emotions in eyes?
When you look at someone’s eyes, you can clearly see what they are feeling, and what kind of emotions might be running around in their mind.
Can you see love in eyes?
Yes, you can. Attraction and love can be easily seen in someone’s eyes.
