Soulmate Vs Woundmate

Soulmate:

• Strong pull towards each other (can be instant or develop over time)

• Connected based on the positive aspects of your being e.g. shared values and interests

• Whilst all relationships have ups and downs, connection generally calm and peaceful

• Relationship feels healing. When we share an insecurity, partner eases our fears. True self is celebrated.

• Feels safe

Woundmate:

• Strong pull towards each other (often instant or sudden)

• Connected based on trauma – similar childhoods or resembles the toxic child/ caregiver dynamics one or both of you experienced

• Intense, chaotic. ‘really good’ or ‘really bad’

• Feel more insecure in the relationship than before, can’t share fears, walking on eggshells, wear a mask instead to please them

• Feels addictive
– Bobby-Jo Dearnley (@bobbyjodearnley)
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