16 People Reveal Gender Double Standards That Drive Them Absolutely Crazy.
Someone asked on Reddit โWhat is a male/female double standard that really drives you crazy?โ, belowย are the best responses we found
1. Single parents. Single father? Heโs a hero! Single mother? Sheโs made questionable life choices and is probably easy.
-GladThatYoureHere
2. This one might be just where I live, but I notice it a lot.
When a guy holds onto his V-Card heโs labeled as incapable of picking up chicks. But if a girl is holding onto it then sheโs praised for it.
-77remix
3. I was at a wedding recently where a drunk bridesmaid was trying to pick up any single guys she could. She latched on to a coworker and wouldnโt let go. She was literally grabbing his junk and trying to rip off his shirt. I ended up stepping in and reminding her about the finer points of consent (like โno means noโ).
when I tell the story most people go โlucky guyโ. Because a guy isnโt allowed to not be interested in having sex with someone? Come on!
-SillySafetyGirl
4. Once my sister had a pool party at our house when she was 14 or so. I was 12. I was the only boy and still wanted to swim so I hung out with them. All the parents were inside the air conditioning. When I was out of the pool they thought it would be funny to pants me and take my suit. There were like 8 girls so I couldnโt do anything and they held me and laughed up a storm. They kept me that way for what felt like an eternity although it was probably only a few minutes. I ran in to tell my folks, crying that kid cry where you canโt catch your breath. They did nothing. Opened up the sliding glass door and yelled โleave him aloneโ. That was it.
I think back to that and try to think of an adults reaction if it was 8 of my buddies and we were 14 and we did that to a girl.
-NoTime4LoveDrJones
5. Girls at club can be very pushy and forward about hooking up with a guy. Other way around itโs borderline sexual assault. This is coming from a girl.
-zarrenfication
6. When was the last time you saw a man in a yogurt commercial? I like yogurt too, dammit.
-rredleaderstandingby
7. Iโm a female doctor, and I frequently fly with a few items of medical equipment (stethoscope, otoscope, etc). I put it in its own separate bag/bin, because they always search it. The TSA agent, while searching the bag will ask everyone else in line, โSir, are you a doctor?โ before finally turning to me and asking โMiss, are you a nurse?โ.
-arhoglen
8. Opening/holding doors. I open doors for everyone. If Iโm there first, and youโre behind me, Iโm probably going to hold the door for you, IDGAF who you are. No, YOU INSIST? No, I INSIST, walk through the door and quit wasting everyoneโs time. Iโll just stand here and wait.
-hoopharder
9. Iโm getting married in 22 days.
Every (no exceptions) professional involved with putting on our wedding has emailed my fiancรฉe, but not me. Sheโs had to forcibly insert me into the conversations. Even when I am the one who sent the initial email.
The wedding coordinator actually ignored her adding me to the email conversation the first time. She had to add me a second time.
When we talk in person, they attempt to pull her off to the side and discuss the events away from me, since itโll all be up to her.
Even (some of) our friends have found themselves referring to it as โher big dayโ before being glared at and reminded that itโs both of us.
People: I am half of the marriage. My opinions about this wedding matter, even if every bridal show/magazine/whatever ever makes it out that the bride demands solitary control. My fiancรฉe, who has an anxiety disorder and gets extremely upset when she has to deal with too many open-ended questions, does not appreciate you taking me out of the conversation, and neither do I.
-darknaught
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10. Iโm a female in my mid/late 20s and have had a boyfriend for about 5 years. The first 1.5 years of the relationship I still lived at home. If I went to my boyfriendโs for the weekend my dad would lose his mind. We wanted to go overnight camping together? Dad couldnโt fathom it. Now my younger brother is in his early/mid 20s with a serious girlfriend. He goes to his girlfriendโs for a week at a time and Dad doesnโt care. Girlfriend hangs out in my brotherโs room with the door closed? Not fazed. My boyfriend and I now own a house together and Iโm still not 100% sure my dad can wrap his mind around us sharing a bedroom. Mom thinks itโs ridiculous and acknowledges the double standard but canโt do much else. eyeroll
-WinniWildcat
11. As a professional: high heels. Menโs shoes look so much more comfortable. High heels are like medieval torture devices, but women have to wear them in certain work contexts.
-VanGone_by
12. Women get crappy razors because apparently their โskin is too delicateโ for legit razors, 99.99% of their fashionable clothing lacks decently sized pockets, high heels are a pain to walk in, and theyโre taught that they wonโt look good without the cosmetics, the latest fashion, that one body shape, etc. etc.
Meanwhile I get good razors, practical stuff to wear, and donโt have to worry about thigh gaps or applying makeup. And no one ever told me I couldnโt wear a t-shirt I bought 3 years ago.
Whoever decided that this was a great ideaโฆ I donโt even know what to say.
-DoctorBalanced
13. Weight. Itโs okay to ask a guy what his weight is, but asking a girl is considered rude. Same with age.
-CWH17
14. Therapy or counselling So many outreach programs easily available to woman seeking help from sexual and domestic abuse to mental health. Which is fantastic but doesnโt seem to be as readily available to men. Or just even the social stigma of a man seeing a counselor or therapist.
-ifedthefish
15. Late night UK TV last night, hunky gym guy comes on, audience (mainly female) erupted into a chorus of
โTop off, Top off, Top off,โ
Imagine if a primarily male audience had shouted that at a female guest.
It seems humans NEED to objectify the bodies of others, now we canโt do it to ladies men are in the firing line. Manorexia on the rise, itโs no joke.
-Calamity_Payne
16. NO SPAGHETTI STRAPS YOUR ARMS ARE SO DISTRACTING. Meanwhile, your male peers are allowed sleeveless jerseys with the arm-holes cut to expose the side of the torso and 2in of boxers sticking out of their pants. Because that isnโt distracting at all. But fuck me and my sexy feminine shoulders, right???*
*Yes, my schoolโs dress code said no sleeveless shirts for ANYONE. However, people wore them anyway. Girls constantly got sent to the office but I only recall one guy ever getting sent out of class to get a more appropriate shirt/get a belt. It was infuriating.
-the-mortyest-morty
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