YOU’RE NOT CRAZY YOU WERE ABUSED People often see the victim of narcissistic abuse as “crazy” or dramatic. They seem unstable, imbalanced, and full of fear and doubt. They are angry, depressed, and sometimes lash out. They are experiencing overwhelming emotions, and probably wearing them on their sleeve, for all to see. While the narcissist shows up cool, calm, and collected. Cruel and heartless as they are, they remain stable, because they were never attached to their victim. So using, abusing, and then casting them aside, didn’t mean anything, because they don’t care.