6. Give up wanting to be where others are in life.
You need to let go of comparing where you’re at in life with where everybody else is. It doesn’t move you farther ahead, improve your situation, or help you find happiness. It just fuels feelings of inadequacy and shame, and ultimately holds you back from where you should be. The truth is, there is no one correct path in life. A path that’s right for someone else won’t necessarily be a path that’s right for you. Trust me, if we were all to follow the same path there would be no fun in that. Your journey isn’t right or wrong, or good or bad – it’s just different.
Your life isn’t meant to look exactly like anyone else’s because you aren’t exactly like anyone else – it’s that clear cut. You are an individual with a unique set of goals, obstacles, dreams, and needs. So stop comparing and start living. You may not always end up where you intend to go, but you will eventually arrive exactly where you need to be. Believe that you are in the right place at the right time, right now.
7. Give up letting the judgments of strangers control you.
People know your name and not everyone that knows your name will know your story. They’ve heard of what you’ve done, but don’t understand what you’ve been through. So take their opinions of you with a grain of salt. In the end, it’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts. Sometimes you have to do exactly what’s right for you and your life, without giving a damn what your life looks like to everyone who doesn’t even know you. Never let the opinions and remarks of other people get to your head.
8. Give up letting toxic relationships bring you down on a daily basis.
Not all toxic relationships are agonizing and inconsiderate on purpose. Some of them involve people who care about you – people who have good intentions but are toxic because of their needs and way of existing in the world force you to compromise yourself and your happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people to be spending your valuable time with every day. And as hard as it is, we have to distance ourselves enough to give ourselves space to live with the right head space. You simply can’t ruin yourself on a daily basis for the sake of someone else who doesn’t understand what’s best for you. You have to make your well-being an important priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful – you have every right to leave and create some healthy space for yourself. You owe it to yourself.
9. Give up over-thinking and worrying about everything.
When your fears and anxieties have you looking too deep into things, it creates more problems instead of fixing the initial problems. If you think and you think and you think, you will think yourself right out of happiness a thousand times over, and never once into it. Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace and potential. And life is too short for that. Never let your thoughts get the best of you.
10. Give up believing you aren’t strong enough to take another step forward.
It’s always possible to go on, no matter how impossible it seems. In time, the grief may not go away completely, but after awhile it’s not so overwhelming. So breathe deeply and tell yourself that everything is going to be okay. It’s only a matter of time. Remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and restless and afraid, and you’ve survived. Take another deep breath and know that you can survive this time too. These feelings won’t break you. They’re painful and draining, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon they’re going to fade, and when they do you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience.
The first and worst place we lose our footing is in our own heads. If you think it’s permanent, then it’s permanent. If you think you’re broken, then you are. If you think you’ve reached your limits, then you have. If you think you’ll never heal and grow, then you won’t. You have to change your mind. You need to see everything that’s holding you back, every obstacle, and every limitation as only temporary.
Because that’s the truth.
Now ask yourself,
What are you holding on to right now that’s holding you back?
Is there something you need to let go of, or give up, before you can move forward again?
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