Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone.

Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone.

“Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.”

-Bianca Sparacino

53 thoughts on “Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone.”

  1. Avatar of Karim Gayraud

    If only… After years of being alone and so comfortable and going deep into the self, someone incredible showed up out of no where. We had 2 weeks of incredible connection, and then the decent in hell began for no reason what so ever, that I thought. I am highly empathic, and yes you guessed it, I met a narcissist manipulator psychopath of such a cruel level that it is barely believable. Ok it took me 2 weeks only to find out, but the intense pain is the same. Going down the self discovery rabbit hole, does not make things better or easier. It just makes things deeper, and once on that path, turning back is not really an option. At least be ready for some kind of real hurting.

    1. Avatar of Lisa Patron

      Me too! I am an empath to the fullest degree. After such betrayal and hurt from partners, I have learned to guard myself and not let people in until I am 100% sure. No sex whatsoever until I know. It can take months (or never) until I allow someone to be intimate with me. Otherwise, it will physically and mentally destroy me if I ever allow another lying, narcissistic, manipulator touch me in that way again.

    2. Avatar of Karim Gayraud

      I am so sorry to hear that. It is the most horrid pain ever that I do not wish to my worst ennemy. After 4 months, I am still feeling the pain intensly though, I know that it is all in the head blah blah blah… Between the theory and real life event, things do not work exactly the same. I am still working on the healing bit, but I think that scar will be there for a long time. I hope never to meet another woman like this ever. I rather just die.

  2. Avatar of Shraddha Pathak

    Loved it 🙂 how deeply meaningful it is, though some might misinterpret it as being selfish or self centred! But doesnt it often happen, that after we realise the fakeness of the world, after imbibing the fact that despite this crowd around, one is actually alone, we slowly percieve the transience of all relations. Friends, relatives and even the closest, entrusted bonds seem fragile on a slight harshness of time! Exceptionally and divinely blessed relations survive, otherwise all are prone to perish. Amidst such uncertainity it is much worthful to be alone, so that we understand ourselves, to the extent that our choice for company never depends on the desperation of our loneliness!

  3. Avatar of Lynn Hafferkamp

    I prefer to say "with myself" as opposed to "alone." Not trying to be PC or any of that crap, but the word alone, to me, implies that you have noone. You only have noone if you don't have yourself. Just sayin.

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