You Can’t Make Someone Love or Commit to You

 December 16, 2015

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We need to listen to that inner voice that tells us we deserve to be loved. And we need to accept that some people will never love us, no matter what we do.

The grief and the pain will eventually pass. And this will open the door for us to find someone else who will truly love us and give us everything we wanted with our ex.

But first we have to give up hope. It will never be the way we want it to be. That person you’re waiting on won’t wake up one day and realize they loved you all along.

Giving up hope is the hardest part of moving on, but it’s the most important.

We can’t complain about someone hurting our feelings if we keep letting them. We can’t complain about someone mistreating us if we keep coming back. And we can’t complain about wasted time if we keep walking in circles.

If I had spent the last five years putting the same amount of effort into myself as I did chasing, controlling, and trying to get my ex to love me, I would have been president of the United States by now.

I will never get the last five years back. It was a lot of wasted time and it was a lot of wasted effort.

Wasted time is wasted life.

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6 comments on “You Can’t Make Someone Love or Commit to You

  1. I question how she could know he is committed to the new woman. I think that would still be a part of beating herself up, thinking she was not good enough, yet someone is. One of the best things we can do is try to understand where someone else is coming from, see their hurts that are buried, yet surface in this way. I love someone that says he can never love me, nor anyone else. I have listened to his story and looked beyond my pain, to understand his. I am grateful that we still enjoy time together, even though our story is not what I had hoped for. Perhaps the ending will be better than either of us ever imagined. we are not at the end of the book yet.

  2. There are some parts of the article on which I would have a different perspective but there is no denial of the fact that if you do not respect and love yourself, expecting others to do so is more like a fantasy. And above all love cannot be forced onto someone. Emotional blackmail may hold for a while maybe even years but then where is the unconditional love ??

  3. Knowing when to let go or how long to hold on is difficult decision. This is because in each relationship, the situation is different so for every new love, we are back to square one – learning…experimenting. Then again, that's what love is all about, isn't it?

  4. What's waisted time for one is a significant part of another's journey because there is still a very important lesson to be learned there. Hanging on to something or someone is but the catalyst for the learning that is necessary for positive change. It's this change that will lead to honestly letting go in heart, spirit, mind, body and soul, pointing the way to sweet freedom at long last.

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