You can’t change people. You can change your expectations. You can set boundaries and make decisions about how much time and effort you give. You can refocus your attention. You can practice acceptance and letting go.
But you can’t mold someone into who you want or need them to be. You can’t force them to make a shift before they’re ready. You can’t ask them to become someone different than who they authentically are. You shouldn’t have to. And that can be a painful truth to sit with. That no matter how much you beg and explain things. No matter how many times you say what you need and communicate what hurts, that a person you care about can’t show up for you in the way you need. That sometimes, there’s no one to blame and nothing to fix.”