Words That Will Melt His Heart

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Words That Will Melt His Heart

Words that will melt his heart

How would you feel if your partner said any of these phrases to you?

โ€œYouโ€™re having a hard time, babe. Let me take over.โ€

โ€œDonโ€™t worry, sweetheart. Everythingโ€™s going to be okay.โ€

โ€œTake all the time you need to get your thoughts and feelings out. Iโ€™m not going anywhere.โ€

โ€œI love to just hold you tonight.โ€

โ€œI was wrong.โ€

If youโ€™re like most women, youโ€™re dying to hear something like this coming out of his mouth.

Youโ€™d feel loved, protected, understood, and validated.

And you might think that, since these words feel so good to you, your partner would love to hear them as well.

Youโ€™d be wrong.

 

You and Him: Two Different Languages

In my forty years of working with couples, I have observed and recorded how men and women respond and open up to very different stimuli.

Most men and women basically want the same thing from each other โ€“ to feel deeply known and still beloved.

Yet, they respond to different words and phrases that evoke those romantic feelings of acceptance and appreciation.

Romantic language is too often geared to what a woman wants to hear and doesnโ€™t allow for what captures a manโ€™s heart. A woman responds to words that make her feel heard, cherished, cared for, and protected. She wants to feel secure.

For a man, the most romantic thing you can do is to respect and love him for who he is. He wants to know that you trust him to care for you and protect you.

This difference in expectation and desire results in many misunderstandings and relationship disconnects for both men and women.

Youโ€™ve probably become frustrated when youโ€™ve approached your partner in what you thought was a loving way, only to have him dismiss you or not react in the way you hoped.

But now you know โ€“ his reaction has nothing to do with you!

Itโ€™s not that he doesnโ€™t love you or appreciate the way youโ€™re communicating; he just hears love differently.

 

Cheat Sheet: 4 Phrases That Will Melt His Heart

Since itโ€™s nice to have some useful phrases in your back pocket, Iโ€™ve gathered a few you can express to your man to make him feel more seen and desired for who he really is. Try them โ€“ they can make a significant difference to your partner.

 

1. โ€œI know my long stories can drive you crazy, so Iโ€™ll start with the bottom line and you can ask for more details if you need them.โ€

Women tend to ramble when they share experiences and be indirect when they want something. Most men prefer to get to the point. You can work to develop a more direct approach that doesnโ€™t keep your partner hanging, as well as generously offer only what your man asks to know about without unnecessary embellishments.

 

2. โ€œI love to know whatโ€™s in your heart and I know you can share your feelings more with me after we make love. The sequence is worth it to me.โ€

Sometimes it is perfectly reasonable to talk things out to make certain that love-making works better, but offering to forego that preliminary discussion is a sure-fire way to make a man feel understood and accepted.

 

3. โ€œI trust that you love me by all the things you do for me, even when I donโ€™t ask you to.โ€

Men often show their love by what they do for their women, especially when theyโ€™re not asked to do them. Washing a car, making a drink, pouring a bath, buying lingerie, arranging a surprise birthday party, picking up dinner, participating willingly in child care, or fixing something thatโ€™s broken are all great examples. Appreciate him.

When the love and excitement are replaced with doubt and fear, thatโ€™s when things start to turn ugly. And this is why trust in a relationship is sometimes more important than love. Here are 11 Reasons Why Trust In A Relationship Is More Important Than Love

 

4. โ€œEven if we lost everything, Iโ€™d still have you, and thatโ€™s what matters the most.โ€

Many men feel that if they donโ€™t provide, protect, and serve, they are not fully male. If they become ill, lose their job, or arenโ€™t around when crises occur, they may feel like they are not honoring their obligations to their partners. Men who know that they are deeply loved and wanted, separate from what they should do or be, are grateful that they donโ€™t have to suit up and show up no matter how they feel or what the circumstances are.

 

Learning The Art of Translation

The quality of intimate relationships increases measurably when both people feel, in their moments of vulnerability, that they have been heard, seen, and beloved.

If men and women remember to express romantic feelings that reach into the hearts of their partners, they are more likely to get the intimate connection they want.

Read on to… The Art of Mastering Love by Thich Nhat Hanh

Effective communication is all about translation. To communicate love and cherish in a way that your partner can understand, you must learn how your partner will interpret what you say.


Written by Randi Gunther Ph.D.
Originally appeared in Heroic Love

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