Women also described feeling less preoccupied with rigid beauty standards that may have been restrictive earlier on in their lives. Some women described feeling more comfortable with their bodies now than they might have been when they were younger, which they described as translating into more sexual confidence.
As one participant said: “Older women, we’re more, you know, confident about ourselves. And we are going to walk into the room in our lingerie if we have cellulite or not, you know? And a younger woman would be like, ‘Oh my god! I can’t wear this in front of him!'”
3. Women felt able to place greater importance on their own sexual pleasure.
Women in this study often described the importance of prioritizing their own pleasure during sex. Women said they liked dating younger men, because, from their experience, younger partners were more motivated to provide pleasure and satisfy them before they satisfied themselves.
As outlined previously, women described how they believed younger men had a higher level of sexual stamina, sexual openness, and perceived ability to have and maintain erections for longer and more enjoyable sexual encounters.
Because of this, women felt they could ask for more of their sexual needs to be met. Some women also indicated (again, from their personal experience) that men their own age could be more preoccupied with their own erections and sexual pleasure than providing it. In that sense, women in this study indicated that they believed younger men were more motivated to please.
As one participant shared: “Younger men try a bit harder — they want to impress you with their skills and their prowess, what they are able to do and to what extent they can pleasure you. I have the feeling that they try harder than older men.”
“Older women know who they are, and that makes them more beautiful than younger ones.”— Naveen Andrews
Women who date younger men go against traditional sexual scripts. The findings from this study suggest that women who participate in age-discordant relationships may be more comfortable asserting their sexual needs, and they may experience heightened levels of sexual pleasure.
Notably, the sample was largely Caucasian and highly educated, so it would be important to study a more diverse sample to better understand the full range of women’s experiences.
Written by Sarah Hunter Murray Ph.D.
Originally appeared on Psychology Today
Sarah is the author of “Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex & Relationships” …available now!
There is nothing wrong with women wanting to date younger men, despite what other people and society believes. Everyone deserves to be happy and content in their lives, including women. That is why, if some women are happy with dating younger men, then so be it. After all, happiness is what matters the most, doesn’t it?
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