How Expecting Nothing From Everyone Else Can Save You From Yourself

How Expecting Nothing From Everyone Else Can Save You From Yourself

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” — Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

You truly are powerful and capable beyond measure. Even though your mind may try to convince you otherwise, you have to understand and accept that your “salvation” will never come from anything or anyone outside of you. Nobody, despite how close and important they might be to you, is responsible for your own life, health, happiness, and well-being. Absolutely nobody! You are the only one responsible for the way you feel, for how your life looks, and for the mess that’s in and around your life. If you want things to get better, it’s your own responsibility to make them better.


Simply put, nobody can save you but yourself. You are the lead character of your own life, the protagonist of your own life story. This means that you yourself have to “save” yourself from whatever it is that you need to be “saved” from. You and only you can illuminate all those places where there was once so much darkness, and only you can fight and conquer your own demons.

Nobody, absolutely nobody, can fight your battles for you.

Yes, you have friends, family members and all kind of people from whom your mind will definitely tell you to expect things like love, acceptance, happiness, approval, affection, validation, etc., and even though it would be great to get all those things from them, you have to keep in mind that –

 “Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.” Rumi.

Understand that you don’t need anything from anyone. Everything and anything you need is already within you. So ask all you want from yourself, so that you may expect more from yourself and less from others.

Learn to honor who you are because your life is yours to live. Learn to expect more from yourself and less from others. Make peace with the idea that everything that’s happening to you, no matter how dark and painful, it’s all a part of your life’s journey. It’s all a part of your evolution and spiritual growth. All of it is meant to mold you, to polish you, and to bring to the surface the immensely wonderful, powerful, and divine being that lies underneath all the darkness. Have faith that –

 “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Walk your path in life with your head held high. Embrace and face your challenges with dignity. Allow your struggles to make you become better, not bitter. Allow your life challenges to lift you up and not to tear you down. Remember, no matter what happens to you in life, never blame anyone for what you’re feeling. 

13 thoughts on “How Expecting Nothing From Everyone Else Can Save You From Yourself”

  1. One thing doesn' t deny the other. We can be self sufficient and know it but expect a word from others all the same. Because that would be what we would do for them. But it is real that if we stop expecting that,after the disappointments, we will feel happier. Not everybody has the same level of kindness. That' s all i guess

    1. Yes haha. .. and we are peaceful people… but i like "like" too. I can conform with that by now haha. … I hope i wasn' t rude in my comment but that is what i think. And it demanded me some time to arrive at that conclusion after some disappointments ….

    2. Well you know "romance" and "love" are interconnected. If you add understanding and chemistry.. .it is much easier. Add the beach and the wine and the scene is complete haha. …

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