10 Reasons Why You Have No Friends (And How To Make New Ones)

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4. Mental health issues

Mental health disorders can strongly influence peer relationships. When someone is suffering from certain mental health disorders, they can also face difficulty making or keeping friends. People with agoraphobia, social phobia, panic attacks, depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and other conditions often face serious challenges in socializing. Depression is closely linked with loneliness, while Asperger’s Syndrome can make it difficult for the sufferer to understand social cues. A person with bipolar disorder may frequently experience manic and depressive periods which can hurt their friendships and relationships.

Not only do sufferers have to face their personal issues, they also have to cope with the inaccurate judgments and assumptions other people make about them. On the other hand, lack of social connections, isolation and loneliness can lead to psychological issues in certain people. Studies have found that “social support is an important factor that can affect mental health.” If you think you are suffering from some mental disorder, make sure to consult a qualified medical professional.

10 Reasons Why You Have No Friends (And How To Make New Ones)
10 Reasons Why You Have No Friends (And How To Make New Ones)

5. Unrealistic expectations

Certain social beliefs and practices can also prevent you from making new connections, such as believing that you need to be extroverted, popular and have many friends in order to seem happy and successful. However, this can often put unnecessary pressure on us to socialize forcibly and leads to high expectations from us and from our so-called “friends.” But being pressured to make acquaintances with individuals who don’t really care about you won’t help your loneliness. Although these can help you be more social, forced casual friendships can often feel annoying, draining and empty. Studies show that interpersonal chemistry is crucial for friendship formation. But it is often missing in forced peer relationships.

Related: The 7 Types Of Toxic Friends You Should Stay Away From

6. Lack of social interests

Friendships often occur naturally with people we share common interests, passions and hobbies with. When we meet someone who is as passionate about a particular topic, then it automatically leads to a connection. This is why we are mostly friends with like-minded individuals. But when you don’t have any specific interests or passions you can have difficulty making social connections. Although some of us may not have any particular interests, we can always learn new skills and explore new activities to meet new people. However, if you are too set in your ways and refuse to leave your comfort zone, then making new friends and meaningful connections will only remain a distant dream.

7. Lack of time

You are too focused on your goals and objectives and determined to achieve them which makes you seem caught up with your studies or work all the time. And as a result, you have no time to meet with your friends or socialize with others. Unfortunately, sometimes we use our “busyness” to suppress and hide our true emotions and overcome loneliness. Using the excuse of not having enough time almost seems flawless as it enables you to avoid your reality of not having no friends. But it can make your emotions more negative and make you filled with stress. Make sure to socialize once a week with your peers, coworkers, old mates or even your loved ones as true friendships can often last a lifetime.

8. Lack of money

Less money equals less opportunities, less supportive people, more struggles and more loneliness. Financial strain can seriously affect your ability or interest to socialize and meet new people. It can make you feel less confident, resentful and annoyed with others when you are struggling, while others are seemingly well off. Moreover, the financial stress you are experiencing can also affect your existing friendships as you may prefer to isolate yourself to cope with your problems. Although money is essential for our survival, true friendships and relationships are not reliant on money and can in fact get stronger when going through hurdles. Studies show that “Focusing on money is associated with spending less time maintaining relationships.” The researchers found that when our self-worth is tied to our financial success, we experience higher levels of social disconnection and loneliness as we spend less time with family & friends.

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Theo Harrison

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