Of course, this doesn’t mean anything good for the child. They will always be scared that their actions will earn the disapproval of the DTP parent so they always stay out of trouble in order to earn their parent’s love.
The second child will be relegated to the position of the scapegoat who will have to take the fall for everything that goes wrong in the family. The parent will create an unhealthy rivalry between the two.
And in cases where there is a third child, they are usually just shunted off to one side and mostly neglected.
All this ensures that the children have very low self-confidence without any sense of self. They remain under their control.
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4. Will the child carry on the sins of the parent?
Many kids who have DTP parents worry that they will grow to become exactly like them. However, Michelle Piper, a psychotherapist has said that this only happens to a very small number.
She talks about how the DTP parent will try to keep their child from maturing in order to keep them under their thumb so that they can keep boosting their ego through them.
When the child grows up, they’ll know that something is not right but they will not be able to put their finger on it. Their lives till then will have revolved around fulfilling the needs of the parent in order to get affection and so they will think that the whole world works that way.
Another, more uncommon manner they adopt is that they will become very guarded and will prevent others from getting too close to them. They will try to not depend on anyone else.
Most children will usually just end up becoming doormats who will disregard their own needs for just about anyone. They will feel compelled to please everyone around them.
This also depends on the child’s place in the family. The blue-eyed boy ends up just doing what the parent wants, thereby growing up to believe that their wants aren’t important.
The other kid who had to take the fall generally do better because they don’t look to their parent for approval. They prefer to break out into the world on their own and so they’re able to create a much better life for themselves.
Having a psychopath as a parent can damage children from a very young age, and can also have deeper consequences in their adult lives. Psychopaths are so extremely self-absorbed, that loving their children is practically impossible for them.
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