6. The fairy tale is over
When you get in a relationship you believe your partner is a prince or princess, you believe to have found your soul-mate, the other half but as the honeymoon period is over and when reality hits you, you realize the fairy tales in the books are incomplete and the castle you built was a sand castle and you got to pay for every unicorn ride.
When we meet someone and fall for them, we create an idea of who they are within our minds, once the perfume of love fades away we see a different person and realize who we thought to be our other half is not actually compatible.
You need to fall in love with yourself to avoid this. With independence come a clear mind and the ability to accept the difference and also the reality.
Ego I believe is the ultimate relationship killer. Every relationship reaches a point where the ego begins to dictate their behavior.
There is lack of compromises, you stop caring what your partner wants and you want what you want. Even during arguments you don’t get to a solution because none wants to compromise.
The ego takes over and the love and respect diminishes. There can never be a healthy relationship without respect.
Learn to keep ego at bay and respect your partner. Without compromise you can’t really move ahead in a relationship. The ship starts trembling and sinking.
8. Holding on to grudges
The past should be kept where it belongs. Nothing is worst than holding on to things that once hurt you. You can never have a healthy relationship if you keep bringing up the past constantly.
Maybe your partner made a mistake but let it be where it ended, if you keep bringing it up and if it keeps hurting you, your relationship will be poisoned.
Learn to let go, forgive, and forget. Keep the past behind and instead of letting the bad memories hurt you hold on to the good ones and revisit them. Love is about acceptance and respect, it’s destructive to hold on to things that cause you pain, let it go.
Keep the past behind and instead of letting the bad memories hurt you hold on to the good ones and revisit them. Love is about acceptance and respect, it’s destructive to hold on to things that cause you pain, let it go.