If he’s not pursuing you—it means he’s not into you!
Give a guy credit. Men know they must pursue a woman if they want to win her love, affection and commitment. Men love a challenge and they love a bit of a “chase” (that intoxicating time BEFORE sexual involvement with his woman of interest).
The chase is when a man subconsciously forms his initial emotional attachment for you. But if you chase him (or you’re too nice, too accommodating, too available or you have sex with him too soon), you take over his role as the suitor and he will lose his interest in you and his motivation for the chase.
Sister, it’s time to reprogram your dating computer. You ARE the SELECTOR. He IS the PURSUER.
His job is to court you, woo you, impress you and convince YOU that he is the absolute best man for you.
Your job is to be charming, receptive and appreciative of his gentlemanly efforts, while you are deciding if HE is worthy of your attention, love and commitment.
If you believe you ARE the prize, he will sense your confidence and self-worth and he will work double-time to win your favor.
But don’t play coy or hard-to-get because he’ll think you’re a snob or that you’re not interested in him and he will drift away.