7. Hormones and Neurotransmitters
The attraction we feel is also partly determined by our sense of smell, and what is referred to as pheromones. Higher levels of oxytocin and dopamine may also increase the level of attraction.
So, as you can see, there are many factors affecting whether we feel attracted to someone or not.
Learn How Attraction Works For You:
1. What do you think are important factors for you to feel attracted to someone?
For example: that we share the same values and/or that they’re good-looking.
2. Has what makes you attracted to someone, changed over time?
If so, in what way?
3. How does it feel when you think about what attracts you to someone? If you need help identifying a feeling you might want to follow these steps:
Where in your body do you experience the feeling?
How does the feeling feel?
What does it make you want to do?
4. Have you noticed anything else that tends to make you feel attracted, which isn’t listed above in the various factors?
If so, what is it?
Why we feel an instant attraction to some people, and not others, is affected by lots of different things: mood, hormones and neurotransmitters, how alike we are, the shortage of other partners available, looks, physical excitement, and the proximity of geographical closeness.
Now, I’d love to know: was there anything in that list of factors you were surprised by? Or something that fitted you particularly well?
Originally published on Therapy by Leigh.